Zimayambira kwambiri, pamene mwanayo "amasewera" mahomoni ndipo amayamba msinkhu. Iye ali ndi chidwi ndi mitundu yambiri ya mabuku, ayang'anirani mafilimu ena, amakhala chikondi chokondweretsa ndipo ali ndi chiyembekezo chakuti adzakulira ndipo adzakhala ndi chikondi chachikulu, chokongola - pali chikondi chabwino. Ndi momwe mungaphunzire kuti musamaope chikondi.
Pamene chikondi chimaonekera, chiwonetsero chikuwoneka kuti sichidzafika konse, chifukwa chiyembekezo chonse cha mwana uyu chikugwirizana ndi chikondi. Nthawi zina chikondi ichi chimakhala chitemberero chenicheni - tsopano temberero la mwanayo ndilobwino. Amazichita mosadziwika, koma osadzizindikira yekha.
Choyambirira chimaposa chikhalidwe chonse, chimapangidwa kuchokera ku mafano ena, kuchokera ku mabuku ena, kuchokera ku ndakatulo zina, kuchokera ku mafilimu ena. Mwanayo amayamba kusankha momwe mkazi uyu kapena mwamuna uyu adzakhalira - kukula kwake, ndi kukongola kwake, momwe kumamvera, kuvala, ndi zina zotero.
Pafupifupi onse nkhawa-hypochondriacs amachita izi. Pakadutsa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri iwo amakula kale, kugonana kwawo kumayamba kuda nkhawa zaka 12-14, ndipo mpaka zaka 14 iwo apanga kale chifaniziro chofanana cha wokonda m'tsogolo. Ichi ndi chithunzi chonse, koma chimakhalabe pamsinkhu wodalirika mwa mawonekedwe abwino. Kuchokera panthawiyi mwanayo amadziletsa yekha, amatseka ndipo amamveka bwino kuti adziwe zoyenera, makamaka pamene amamukonda kwambiri.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zonse zachitidwa? Chifukwa cha izi, ana amatetezera okha ku moyo. Iwo ataya kale malingaliro awo ophweka, chiyero chawo, chiyero chawo, ndipo uwu ndi njira yodzibisira okha, kotero kuti iwo sadzaika konse pangozi kuti asalowetse mu miyoyo yawo munthu wina yemwe si wangwiro. Amaopa kukonda.
Tsopano mwanayo watetezedwa kwambiri kwa ena. Mwachitsanzo, iye akuti: "Sindimakonda mnyamata uyu," amachenjeza ena kuti amakonda mtundu wina wa anyamata, mnyamatayo amachenjezanso kuti amakonda mtsikana wina, koma kwenikweni amawopa, amawopa kukonda .
Mwanayo amayamba kudziwonetsera yekha, kusonyeza kuti alibe chidwi ndi ena. Chifukwa adakali ndi nthawi yolindira, ndipo mavuto omwe akukhudzana ndi kuyembekezera chikondi amakula. Panthawiyi, mwanayo, akuyang'ana momwe ena amachitira. Iye amadalira kwathunthu. Ndipo amayamba kuona momwe ana ena, makamaka ngati ali atsikana okongola kapena anyamata, amachiritsidwa. Izi zimapangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa yodetsa nkhaŵa, amaopa kukonda. Amasonyeza kusayanjanitsika ndikunyansidwa, samalola aliyense, koma maloto ndi maloto achikondi.
Chifukwa cha kuyandikana uku, mwanayo kulikonse akuyamba kuona osasamala. Tsopano dziko likuwonekera izo mwanjira inayake. Kuchokera pamtima wosasinthasintha, iye tsopano "amapuma poizoni," amapuma kwambiri, samadziwonetsa yekha, sachita zonse momwe akufunira, iye sakula ndipo amayamba kutseka kwambiri pamene amva kupweteka kwake. Tsopano iye mwiniyo samakhulupirira kuti chikondi chidzachitika konse, iye akuwopa kukonda.
Ndipo, potsiriza, chikondi ichi chimabwera kwa iye, pa msinkhu wina, mnyamata wina amabwera akuti: "Ndimakukondani!". Komabe, sangathe kutseguka, angakhale wokondwa, akudikirira, asamakhale wabwino, adalota, akufuna, adayang'anitsitsa. Komabe, tsopano, atayandikira kwa iye, sakudziwanso choti achite. Alibe zomveka, alibe zofuna zake zoti achite. Tsopano akuopa ululu umene amamva mumtima mwake.
Kotero, njirayi ndiyi: kapena iye akukana kulongosola, poopa kuti adzasiyidwa, kapena ayamba kungomenyana ndi wina, zimakhala zovuta kuti aphunzire kukonda. Ngati sakonda mnyamatayo, amayamba kusonyeza kusayanjanitsika kwake, kusayanjanitsika kwake, kusonyeza kuti sakufuna naye, komabe panthawi imodzimodziyo akuvutika, kumamatira, osadziwa momwe angachitire, osakhala ndi mwayi wokonzeka kutseguka.
Ana awa amadzipeza okha mumsampha wamkati, sakudziwa momwe sawope kukonda. Munthu wopanda chikondi sangathe kukhala ndi moyo, akuyenera kulandira chidziwitso kuchokera ku chikondi. Ndipo zimakhala kuti wina amawoneka, koma samalola zoyenera, paliponse pali chisokonezo chobisika. Munthu wotero mkati mwake ndi wowawa.
Iye amaganiza kuti pali misampha paliponse, paliponse pali zitseko zongotsekera. Chikondi chimabwera, ndipo sangathe kupeza zokwanira, kapena kutenthedwa, chifukwa chakuti sichikugwirizana ndi zoyenera zake, zomwe adazidziwa.
Iye sangathe kudziulula yekha, chifukwa amadziwa kupweteka kwa ululu, ndi momwe aliyense analibe chidwi naye. Zonsezi zimangopita ku skew: mwina ndikuwulula, kapena zobisika. Izi ziri paliponse madigiri oposa. Palibe pamene mwana wonga mwanayo angakhale wokondwa. Ndi momwe munthu amakhala.
Kotero ndi bwino kusasewera ndi psyche yanu. Ana amafunika kuphunzitsidwa kuti asakhale ndi maudindo otere omwe amaphunzira kuti asawope kukonda. Chifukwa malingaliro ndi dziko lenileni. Ndipo ngati wina apita kumeneko, amabweretsa chinachake, ndiye chimakhala kumeneko. Ndipo iwo amabweretsa chirichonse, ndipo nthawizonse, popanda kumvetsa kulikonse.
Chirichonse chikuchitidwa kotero kuti kuyambira pachiyambi malingaliro a mwanayo anali zapichkan. Ndipo pamapeto, ana awa, ndiyeno akuluakulu, sangathe kukhala moyo wonse. Miyoyo yawo yonse idzafuna chikondi, imayenera ndipo ipewe. Chifukwa chakuti akuwopa kwambiri kuwonetsetsa, sangatenthe.