Kawirikawiri nsanje imabwera chifukwa chosakhulupirira kwambiri kwa iwe mwini, kwa mnzanuyo. Anthu achisoni amayamba kudziyerekezera ndi adani kapena enieni, ndipo monga lamulo, mwayi wawo ndi wotsika. "Mkazi uyu ndi wokongola kwambiri / wamtali / wamtali / wowerenga bwino, koma bwanji ngati iye akukonda?" Ichi ndi chifukwa chenicheni cha nsanje. Chifukwa cha nsanje yonse, muzu wa zoipa ndi kudzichepetsa. Kukhazikika mwaokha kumapanga malingaliro ofanana: "Ngati wina ali wabwino kuposa ine, akhoza kundinyalanyaza."
Mulimonsemo, nsanje ndikumva kosokoneza komwe sikubweretsa mgwirizano ndi kukhutira mu ubale. Ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi chikondi. Pambuyo pake, chikondi, choyamba, chimachokera ku chidaliro, ulemu, chifundo. Chikondi chenicheni, iye alibe zinthu.
Ngati muli ndi nsanje za m'mbuyomu, ndiye simunamalize maubwenzi anu, osakhala ndi malingaliro anu, omwe ali okhudzana ndi zomwezo. Ndipo ngati izi zonse ziri zoona, ndiye izi zidzakhala ndi zotsatira zoipa pa ubale wanu weniweni weniweni ndi mkhalidwe wanu. Choncho, tifunika kuthetsa vutoli, ndi kusiya zonse m'mbuyomo. Tiyenera kukhala panopa, kuthana ndi zomwe ziri, osaganizira, kutenga udindo wathunthu pamalingaliro athu, zochita zathu, maganizo athu ndi kukhala enieni.
Malamulo Khumi a mkazi wachikondi. Malangizo a zamaganizo
Psycholoji ya amuna ndi yakuti nthawi zonse amafuna kusintha. Ngati mumayamikira munthu wanu, muyenera kuphunzira kupanga zolakwika zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala zomwe mukufuna kuthawa. Akatswiri a zamaganizo anapeza mfundo 10 za "khalidwe loipa".
1. Kulimbikitsidwa kogwira mtima ndizomwe zimatchulidwa. Ngati mukuchita zinthu zosavomerezeka, ndiye kuti simungamveketse, koma kungokhala chinthu chobisika. Ubale umapha nthawi zonse zosakhutira ndi khalidwe la wokondedwa, mikhalidwe ndi moyo.
2. Simukusowa kukhala ndi wokondedwa wanu maola 24 patsiku, chifukwa pamene ali pafupi, amamva zofunikira, monga mpira, nsomba, chilakolako chowona bwenzi lapamtima. Iye ayenera ndipo akhoza kukhala ndi mbali za moyo, kumene iye angakhale womasuka. Tiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yathu mosiyana, ndiye kuti misonkhano idzakhala yolandiridwa komanso yovomerezeka.
3. Musasinthe wokondedwa wanu m'chifanizo ndi chifaniziro, mum'kondeni monga momwe aliri, mverani kwambiri makhalidwe ake abwino kusiyana ndi zolephera.
4. Tsiku lililonse yesetsani kukhala osiyana ndi dzulo, poyamba ziwoneka zovuta komanso zachilendo, koma pakapita kanthawi mudzakonda masewerawa. Pakatikati, mwakhalabe wokhulupirika kwa inu nokha.
5. Musasonyeze kuti mulibe mphamvu. Dziwani nokha kuti ndinu wodzikonda komanso wokhutira. Musamuvutitse ndi mayitanidwe osatha, kangapo pa ora, zidzangotengera zoipa. Mukayitana, yesetsani kupeza chinthu chachikulu, musati mutenge nthawi yanu ndi mafunso ang'onoang'ono.
6. Musayese kukhala ndi nsanje. Nsanje ndi chizindikiro cha chikhumbo chosamvetsetsa kuti mumudziwe munthu ngati chinthu, kutseka mwamuna ku nyumbayi ndikuziganizira kuyambira m'mawa mpaka madzulo. Ndi ichi, palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Nthawi zonse kukayikira za kuchedwa kwa ntchito kapena ntchito, kuwerenga SMS, kungakhale kokayikira ubale wanu.
7. Zolakwika zazikulu za amayi zomwe zingakuwonongereni kwambiri ndi chikondi cha miseche. Yesetsani kuthetsa mavuto anu ndi wokondedwa wanu, musatenge zovala zonyansa m'nyumba. Osalankhulana za momwe angamvekerere atamva kuti ali ndi bwenzi lanu.
8. Musaganize kuti wokondedwa wanu adzatenga chidwi chanu kupita kumsika ndi masitolo. Maulendo awiri olowa pamodzi adzawononga chiyanjano. Choncho, ndibwino kupita kukagula ndi abwenzi anu aakazi, ndipo mutha kukambirana.
9. Musamaumirire kuti wokondedwa wanu azigawana zakukhosi kwanu. Ngati sangakhale omasuka, ndiye bwino kubwezeretsa zokambiranazo kenako.
10. Musamadzikakamize kudikira motalika kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, n'zovuta kupeza munthu amene angakondwere nazo, kuti mwakhala mochedwa kwa ola limodzi ndi theka.
Mmene mungachitire ndi nsanje
1. Sungani pakamwa panu.
2. Ngakhale mnyamata wachikulire akukuthamangitsani mu galimoto yamoto, musafulumize kuuza ena okondedwa nkhaniyi, simuli kuvomereza.
3. Musamutche Sasha wanu wokondedwa ngati dzina lake ndi Misha.
4. Pamaso pa zokoma musakumbukire chikondi chanu choyamba ndi chotsiriza.
5. Ngakhale ngati pali zifukwa zokwanira, chotsani zifukwa zonse, ndikuzichita molimba mtima komanso molimba mtima.
6. Phunzirani ku bodza losangalatsa. Luso limeneli likhoza kuchita zozizwitsa.
7. Ngati zili choncho, samalirani. Alibi wodalirika kwambiri amaperekedwa ndi amayi ndi abambo, osati abwenzi abwino kwambiri.
8. Kwa funso lakuti: "Mwavala ndani?" Yankhani mofatsa: "Kwa okondedwa anu."
9. Musadziteteze m'chipinda chokhala ndi manja m'manja mwanu, dinani nambala zachinsinsi zokha.
10. Mmawa uliwonse, lipoti kwa wokondedwa wanu za mapulani a tsikulo, ndipo madzulo tikambirane zotsatira za tsiku lapitalo.
11. Musamakangane ndi amuna ena pamaso pake.
12. Ngati mukukangana ndi amuna ena pamene sakupezeka, musamagwirizane ndi zomwe mumakonda.
13. Owombera othamanga okongola, ojambula, owonetsera TV. Muzivomereza mafuta okha, otupa ndi onyansa okha.
14. Mukapita koka, tengani ana kapena amayi. Adzayang'anira anawo, ndipo mudzamasuka kuchoka kwa zokoma.
15. Musabweretse kugonana muzogonana ndi zogonana zomwe simunalandirepo kale. Chilichonse chiyenera kuoneka mwachilengedwe, ngati kuti munaganizira chifukwa cha nthawi yogona.
16. Kambiranani za banja lanu nthawi zambiri, kuti mukhale okhulupirika kwa wina ndi mzake.
17. Musasinthe mtundu wa tsitsi ndi tsitsi koma musamudziwitse wokondedwayo, ndibwino kunena pasadakhale masiku atatu kapena 4.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi nsanje, kutsatira malangizo a katswiri wa zamaganizo, mudzawonjezera mwayi wopambana kwa munthu wokondedwa wanu. Kuti musakhale nsanje, muyenera kukhulupirira nokha, mwa wokondedwa wanu, mu mphamvu zanu ndi kumanga maubwenzi osati pachinyengo ndi kusagwirizana, koma ndikudalira. Chilichonse chingathetsedwe kupyolera kukambirana.