Ndani ali mu chikondi, iye amadziwa - kumverera sikungatheke. Kuthamanga kwa moyo koteroko, chisangalalo chopanda pake sichingakhoze kuchitika mu dziko lina lililonse. Chifukwa ndi zophweka kudziwa ngati mumakonda kapena ayi. Koma ndi kusintha kotani ndi momwe, ngati chikondi chanu sichigwirizana?
O, zambiri zikusintha! Makamaka pamene zikuwonekera kale. Malinga ngati mwayi ulipobe kuti ukhale ndi chinyengo cha kubwezeretsa ndikukhala moyo wodzinyenga, wina akhoza kumangokhala wosangalala. Koma momwe mungakhalire, pamene zizindikiro zonse pamwamba pa "ndi" zakhazikitsidwa kale, ndipo palibe kukayikira, palibe chiyembekezo? Momwe mungapulumuke vutoli, momwe mungapulumuke? Kodi mungapewe bwanji kukumbukira ndikukumana ndi zowawa ndi zopweteka, zomwe zimayambitsa mtima?
Ndi anthu ochepa amene angakhulupirire, koma pali njira yokonzekera yokonzekera. Izi zimadziwika kalekale, ndi zophweka komanso zovuta nthawi yomweyo. Ndi zophweka, chifukwa ziri zomveka bwino zomwe muyenera kuchita. Ndipo zimakhala zovuta chifukwa ndi zovuta kuti mugonjetse nokha. Ndipotu, funsolo, ngati lakonzedwa-ndilo lopanda chikondi: lingathetse bwanji? Sichilondola. Inde, chikondi sichidziwika, koma simuyenera kuchichotsa. Ndi bwino kuchotsa maganizo oipa kwa iye.
Choyamba, chikondi n'chiyani? Chikhalidwe cha moyo, chodziwika ndi kukhala wachimwemwe ndi chimwemwe. Ndiye bwanji mukuchotsa izo? Kodi alipo aliyense amene safuna kukhala wosangalala? Pazifukwa zina, sikokwanira tsopano amene akudzifunsa yekha funso ili. Ngati chikondi sichitha, nthawi yomweyo imatchedwa "chikondi chosasangalatsa." Ndipo izi ndichifukwa chakuti chikondi chake chimapambana ndi kupitirira china chirichonse. Ndipo mochuluka kwambiri moti sichidziwitsidwa kumveka kosavuta kwa mawu - ngati chikondi ndi chimwemwe, ndiye chimwemwe chingakhale chosasangalala bwanji?
Ndipotu, chikondi chosasangalatsa sichichitika. Pali kutanthauzira kosayenera kwa khalidwe la wokonda kapena wokondedwa, lomwe limatanthauza kugwirizana. Zilizonse, ziyembekezero ndi chitsanzo cha tsogolo losangalatsa ziyenera kukhala zogwirizana kwambiri ndi izo, popanda kulola zina zotheka. Koma kwenikweni ndi munthu wina, ndi malingaliro, chidani ndi chifundo. Ndipo ngati mtima wake suli wa inu, kodi iye akulakwa chiyani? Kodi munamanga nyumbayi mumchenga? Mukuti mudakondana, ngakhale m'chikondi, ndipo simunakonzekere kuyankha "ayi"?
Taganizirani izi, kodi ndiwe "phwando losokonezeka", limene limangokhalapo kuti udzimvere chisoni? Nchiyani chasintha kuchokera ku mfundo yakuti mwaphunzira choonadi - chikondi chanu chiyenera kupatulidwa? Mudayamba kukonda pang'ono?
Ndikhulupirire, anthu okonda moona mtima safuna chilichonse. Iwo amadziwa bwino bwino choonadi chophweka kwa luntha - mwachikondi chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kulandira, koma kupereka. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi kosavuta kwambiri kukhala wachimwemwe: chikondi ndipo musayembekezere kalikonse. Ndipotu, kumverera komweku kwa chikondi kumapezeka kwa anthu ndi chisangalalo chachikulu.
Kodi mukudwala chifukwa cha chikondi chopanda chikondi? Yesani kulingalira kwa kamphindi kuti chinthu chomwe mumapembedza chanu chadzidzidzika mwadzidzidzi kwamuyaya. Kodi mudzamva chiyani pamene mukuchita izi? Ngati palibe kalikonse kapena mpumulo, ndiye kuti chipatala, monga akunena, chikuwonekera - simunachikonda, choncho zonsezi zidzatha posachedwa ngati mphuno. Ndipo ngati mtima unatsefukira ndi kutentha, ngati lingaliro "ayi, osati izi!" Anabadwa, ndiye mutha kuyamika nokha - chikondi chanu ndi chenicheni, champhamvu komanso chakuya. Ndipo, mwinamwake, mudzamvetsetsa mwamsanga kuti kuti mukhale osangalala muyenera kudziwa kuti wokondedwa wanu ali kwinakwake pano pa dziko lino lapansi. Iye ali wamoyo, wathanzi, wokondwa, ngakhale ngati chisangalalo chimenechi simumamupatsa. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti muli ndi chikondi chimene palibe amene angachotse.
Ngati muyang'ana zonse kuchokera pa malo awa, mudzayambiranso ndi zomwe mumvetsetsa, ndiye mudzakhalanso ndiyeso mwamsanga ndikubwerera kudziko la chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe. Ndipotu, iwo omwe amagwera mu kupsinjika maganizo kapena kuyesa kudzipha chifukwa cha chikondi chopanda chikondi, kuyesa kuchotsa kuvutika - kwenikweni, anthu ofooka komanso egoists. Chimwemwe chawo pa iwo ndi chofunika kwambiri kuposa chikondi, chofunika kwambiri kuposa chisangalalo cha wokondedwa.
Koma inu simuli monga choncho, kulondola? Inu mukudziwa tsopano njira yopezera chisangalalo chosagwedezeka - ndi zophweka ndi kutsimikiziridwa kwa zaka zambiri. Ndipo iwe umangodzipindulitsa wekha-kuphunzira momwe mungakonde moona mtima, mosadzikonda, mosasamala zomwe ziti zichitike kenako ndi ngati padzakhala chirichonse. Ndipo iyi ndiyo njira yosavuta komanso yowonjezera yothetsera chikondi chopanda chikondi, chomwe chiri njira yokha yosangalalira.