Chiphunzitso
Zimachokera pa kuphunzira za zinthu zakuthupi zomwe zimachitika m'thupi mwa chikondi.
Yemwe ndi zomwe timasankha
Timakonda amene mwana wathanzi ndi wanzeru angabereke. Ndipo tikakumana, timayesa munthu molingana ndi deta yake yakunja - kodi ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuti azigonana bwino? Kodi ali ndi mapewa otani komanso wansembe wamphamvu? Ndipo pamlingo woyenera timafotokozera fungo la thupi lake kuti tizindikire momwe zinthu zake zilili ndi chitetezo chokwanira komanso momwe zimakhalire ndi mahomoni ogonana, momwe muli pafupi kwambiri. Kupitirizabe kuchotsedwa kwa inu ndi chiwerengero cha DNA yake, zochepa ndizo chiopsezo chokhala ndi mwana ali ndi nthenda yochokera kwa iye. Ngati fungo la munthu silikusangalatsani, sipangakhale chikondi - wopemphayo sali woyenera kubereka ndi kubadwa kwa ana. Ndipo nzeru ndi uzimu wa mnzanuyo zimayesedwa m'malo omalizira - malingana ndi mfundo yotsalira.
Chikondi
Mukamaona munthu wokongola, thupi lanu limalengeza kuti: "Ndikulifuna, ndikutha kubereka!" Mukukumana ndi chilakolako cha kugonana ndipo mukudandaula: "Nanga mungatani?" Hormone yachisoni norepinephrine imalowerera m'magazi. Maganizo amakula, mtima umenyedwa, maso. Usiku, sungathe kugona, masana, nkhaŵa imatha, anthu ena amalephera kudya ndi kulemera. Koma mwabwera palimodzi ndikugonana. Kusokonezeka maganizo kumachepa, norepinephrine imagwa. Koma kaphatikizidwe ka zizindikiro za chisangalalo, chimwemwe ndi zosangalatsa - dopamine ndi serotonin kumawonjezeka. Dopamine ndi hormone yolinga, kuyang'ana pa lingaliro limodzi, kukhudzidwa kwa chilakolako ndi mphamvu yabwino kwambiri. Iwo omwe amalamuliridwa ndi kutuluka kwake, samawona chilichonse chozungulira kupatula okondedwa awo, ndipo chifukwa cha izo akhoza kusintha mapiri. Maganizo amamasintha kuchokera ku "zikuwoneka, akonda, tsopano ndikukweza," mpaka "zikuwoneka, sakonda - ndipo sindidzipachika ndekha" ... Chikondi chimayamba pa dopamine ndipo chimapita ku serotonin. Iye ali ndi udindo wa chisangalalo chosangalatsa bwino: ndinu wabwino, ndipo wokondedwa wanu ndi chozizwitsa chabe, ndipo dziko ndi lokongola. Ndipo musalembe ndakatulo? Kodi n'zotheka kulembera lipoti lakumapeto kwa maola awiri? Gawo la ejection la dopamine ndi serotonin - ichi ndicho chodabwitsa kwambiri cha chikondi chosangalatsa komanso chachikondi, kuti tipulumuke zomwe timalota. Zoona, kusintha kofanana kwa zinthu zakuthupi - ndi kusokonezeka mu kugona ndi kuzindikira za zenizeni-zimachokera kwa iwo amene amasewera, ataya udzu kapena amagwera mu schizophrenic psychosis ... Bwerani! Chikondi cha mahomoni chimakhala champhamvu chaka chonse, kotero kuti okonda nthawi zambiri amagonana ndi kugona mwana. Ndiye msinkhu wawo umachepa - chirichonse, chikondi chatha. Banja lina linayang'anani wina ndi mzake ndikuyang'ana bwino - kenako anathawa ndi mantha.
Chikondi chachikondi
Mawiri otsala a "mahomoni achikondi" amaloledwa zaka zina ziwiri kapena zitatu. Mkazi amatha kuyamwitsa mwana ndi bere, ndipo mwamuna-kumusamalira. Komanso, mkazi amatha kukhalabe popanda mnzake. Tsopano gawo lachikondi latha. Choncho, chiwerengero cha chisudzulo chimatha chaka chachisanu chaukwati.
Chikondi-chikondi
Kodi mudakali pamodzi? Choncho, thupi lanu limafuna kulera mwana ndi mnzanuyo. Amapanga oxytocin - mahomoni achifundo ndi okoma mtima, ndipo vasopressin - hormone yotetezera katundu ndi nsanje: "Mai-musakhudze!" Chikondi cha chikondi chimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale ndi maganizo oyenera komanso ofatsa. Pambuyo pa zaka khumi, magwero a mahomoni amalephera, chifukwa mwanayo wakula. Ndipo chikondi chachepa, pakuti tanthauzo lake ndi kubereka ndi munthu uyu. Zoona, pali maanja omwe ngakhale pa chaka cha 15 chokwatirana mahomoni akufanana ndi magawo oyambirira a chiyanjano. Anapezedwa ndi asayansi a ku Italy. Ndipo tsopano ndikudabwa kwambiri momwe izi zingakhalire.
Zomwe zili muyeso
Mwinamwake simunayambe kukondana chifukwa chakuti mwachibadwa mumachepetsedwa ndi dopamine ndi serotonin? Kukopa thupi ndi. Pa chikondi cholimba, ndi oxytocin ndi vazoiresin, mumatha. Ndipo "mutu unagwetsedwa" gawo - ayi. Sipadzakhalanso. Osati okonzedwa chotero. Ndipo palibe chodikira.
Chifukwa ndi zotsatira
- Karmic Theory
Zimachokera ku mgwirizano pakati pa chifukwa ndi zotsatira. Moyo sufa, sagonana, ndipo sungakumbukire chilichonse cha moyo wakale. Ngati mwachita chinachake choipa, pobwerera mudzapeza mavuto ndi kuzunzika - osati mu moyo uno, kotero mtsogolo. Wachita bwino - dalitso likuyembekezera iwe, osati tsopano - kotero ndiye, koma ndilofunikira. Ndipo pali chikondi cha mitundu iwiri.
- Chikondi "karmic"
Sipangidwe kowonjezera chikondi, koma vuto lanu lalikulu lomwe silingathetsedwe kuchokera kumayambiriro oyamba. Ndipo amapatsidwa chifukwa chogwira ntchito pa karma yoyipa - kukonza zolakwika zakale. Ndikoyenera kulitcha "karma yowonjezereka".
Yemwe ndi zomwe timasankha
Chikondi chimakangana ndi omwe kale anali okwatirana kapena achibale apamtima omwe anakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri mu moyo wakale. Atangokhala otanganidwa ndi kusokonezeka. Ndipo tsopano tinali ndi mwayi wokonza chirichonse. Ndizosatheka kupeŵa izo - ndi thanthwe.
Momwe zikuwonekera
Zimachokera pa kuyang'ana koyambirira: munaziona - kudabwa, mutu mu utsi wamoto. Ndipo kulira kuchokera ku kuya kwa moyo: "Ichi ndi icho!" Chikondi nthawizonse chimakhala chokhwima ndi chokhumba, malingaliro oterewa amawaponyera iwo pamodzi palimodzi kuti athetse vuto limodzi. Nthawi zina - kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo wina ndi moyo wake sali okwanira. Ndipo amakhala moyipa, koma sangathe kugawa. Kawirikawiri - opanda ana, chifukwa ana angasokoneze makolo awo ku ntchito za karmic. Tiyerekeze kuti mkazi anakwatira, anabala ndipo anali kudwala kwambiri. Mwamuna sanapereke mkazi wake ndi ana ake, koma mwamantha adathawira kwa wina - wamphamvu ndi wathanzi. Mkazi wake anatemberera, koma sanalole kuti apite ndi Mulungu, monga munthu wofooka ndi wopanda thandizo. Iwo anawonjezera karma: iye_iye wopanda tsankho, iye_kusakhululukira. Kuti mutsegule mfundo iyi ya karmic, okwatirana ayenera kukonza cholakwikacho. M'thupi lomwe liripo tsopano, amakumana ndi chikondi chodziwika pa nthawi yoyamba ndi kukwatirana. Patapita zaka zisanu, mwamuna wake akudwala kwambiri. Ndiye zochitikazo zingathe kukhala ndi kuthera m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Mapeto abwino
Mwamuna wake amalima ntchito zitatu ndipo amapereka banja, kuchokera m'moyo wovuta, mkazi wake amasintha. Mkazi wake amakhululukira komanso amamuyamikirabe. Awonongeke! Mfundoyo imasulidwa. Kenaka kumverera kumakhala kopanda pake - ichi ndi malo enieni a chikondi cha karmic. Mkazi akukhala bwino. Mwamuna amakumana ndi chikondi chatsopano. Banja likusudzulana. Patapita nthawi, wokwatiwa akale amakwatira. Iye ndikumverera kuti asintha kuti akhale abwino, moyo wawala, moyo watha.
Mapeto oipa
Mwamuna amamwa ndi chisoni kapena amatsata kuti asokoneze, kumbuyo kwa chovala chilichonse, mkazi amavutika, amalumbira komanso amawomba. Iwo sangakhoze kukhala limodzi ndipo sangakhoze kumwazikana. Pamapeto pake, wokondedwayo amamwalira, ndipo mwamuna amamangirira mutu wake pa bokosi ndipo amadziimba mlandu. Ndipo mu chikhalidwe chotsatira iwo adzakumananso kachiwiri ndipo adzawonongedwa ndi chikondi cha karmic - mpaka iwo ali ndi malingaliro okwanira kuti azikhala ndi ulemu mu mayesero.
Chikondi ndi "chowonadi"
Zimatanthawuzidwa kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chirichonse mwa dongosolo ndi karma, ndipo nthawizonse sali ogwirizana ndi zochita zathu mmbuyomu.
Yemwe ndi zomwe timasankha
Chikondi chenicheni chimayambira muwiri. Yoyamba: miyoyo yomwe imagwirizanitsidwa ndi zochitika zabwino-abwenzi, amodzi mwa iwo omwe ali m'thupi lamwamuna, kapena mbale ndi mlongo, kapena azakhali ndi mphwake, amakumana ndikudziwana. Ndipotu, ndi mphotho ya khalidwe labwino ndi ntchito zabwino m'mbuyomo. Chachiwiri: chikondi chimabadwira pakati pa anthu omwe sagwirizane ndi zochitika zakale, koma amatha kusunthira limodzi ku bwalo latsopano la chitukuko - kulowa mu gulu lina kapena kupeza talente yatsopano mwa iweeni. Kawirikawiri chikondi cha "moyo watsopano" chimachokera pa kuwerengera ndipo chimabwera kuchokera mu malingaliro mpaka kumverera. Iyeyo amagwira ntchito mochedwa usiku uliwonse pa ntchito imodzi ndikukonzekera kukwatirana, kotero kuti pali mawu omwe angayankhule nawo, ndipo amakhala osungulumwa kwambiri ndipo amaganizira kwambiri ntchito.
Momwe zikuwonekera
Chikondi chimakula pang'onopang'ono komanso pang'onopang'ono. Maso ake samaphimba ndipo mutu wake sukutuluka. Poyamba zimawoneka kuti ndizodzichepetsa, zopanda moto, koma ngati chakudya chamadzulo: zopitilira - tastier ndi zosangalatsa kwambiri. Zitha kwa zaka zambiri.
Zomwe zili muyeso
"Karmic" chikondi si chilango, koma ntchito yomwe imafuna yankho. Mukafika pamapeto ndi yankho la vutoli, ndi nthawi yofuna chikondi chenicheni. Chikondi chenicheni ndi chinthu chabwino. Ndipo kuti mupeze izo sivuta. Chisankho cha okondedwa ndi chokongola: kuzungulira apo pali amuna ambiri, omwe miyoyo yathu yatsopano imakhala yabwino. Kapena omwe ali oyenerera ife pakalipano, kuti tipeze ndikukula pamodzi.
Cholinga
- Nthano yopeka
Mwa mitundu yosiyana ndi ziwembu, iye amayendayenda mu ntchito za olemba mabuku, zamakono zamakono zalemba za iye ndi kunjenjemera.
- Yemwe ndi zomwe timasankha
Timakonda munthu amene tingadziwe tokha, chifukwa amakukondani ndikukuthandizani kuti mukhale ngati inu mumakhala ndi Mulungu kapena Cosmos - osati mngelo wokoma mtima, mwinamwake ngongole yonyansa. Munthu wanu yekha akugwirizanitsidwa ndi inu mu malo achinsinsi-mphamvu ndi dongosolo la Kumwamba. Cholinga chanu chimakukankhira kumsonkhano, ndipo mwamsanga mudzapeza. Zopeka, simungachoke m'nyumbayi: mnyumba ikuluikulu idzawonekera - ndipo munthu wolimba moto adzabwera mofulumira kukupulumutsani, kapena chitoliro chidzaphulika - ndipo mapuloteni achinyengo adzakonza. Izi sizikudziwikiratu zomwe mungachite ngati mwambo wanu wam'mwamba amanyamula ngozi kapena matenda. Tchimo liyenera kukhala lopanda iye, kapena lidzaloledwa ndi wina wochokera ku "mzere wachiwiri" - pakuti mkazi aliyense waikidwa pamtanda.
- Momwe zikuwonekera
Ndizosatheka kuti musaganize kuti uyu ndi "mwamuna wanu": inu pamodzi ndi iye kuchokera kumsonkhano woyamba ndikudabwitsa zabwino ndi mfulu, ngati kuti mwadziwana kwa nthawi yaitali. Muli ndi kugonana kosangalatsa. Moyo wothandizana si ntchito yovuta kupanga banja, koma ndondomekoyi ndi yachibadwa, monga kupuma, zomwe sizifuna zozizwitsa ndi kulekerera. Mukutsutsana, koma musamazunze ndikuzunzana wina ndi mnzake. Mwachikondi, mumakhala osangalala kwambiri. Koma moyo wonsewo ukhoza kutha: Bon kapena sanakumane ndi Clyde, ndipo iwo anapita kukaba mabanki, mtsogoleri wamkulu a Masha anakondana ndi katswiri wa zinyama Yura ndipo anachoka m'chipululu, kumene kulibe chikhalidwe kapena chitonthozo. Koma nthawi zonse sitifuna kubera mabanki kapena kukhala m'nkhalango, ngakhale chifukwa cha chikondi chachikulu. Chifukwa chake, timasiya wokondedwayo ndikusankha mitundu yonse ya chisangalalo ku chimwemwe cha chikondi - ubwino wa ana, chitetezo, ntchito yokhutira, ubwino.
- Zomwe zili muyeso
Ndipo bwanji ngati mkazi wokwatiwa abwera kwa iwe kokha pambuyo pa zaka za zana la makumi asanu ndi limodzi? Kungakhale kwanzeru kuti asamayembekezere, komabe amasangalala - ngakhale ngati sichidakonzedweratu chikondi, koma kugonana, ubale wabwino ndi wowonjezera ndi amuna ena. Msonkhanowu udzakumana - mukuyembekezera buku lalikulu. Kuchokera mu chikondi chokonzedweratu, simuyenera kukana popanda kulawa. Kotero kawirikawiri ife timafuna kwenikweni chinachake - kwenikweni, ndi mutu wathu, chingwe cha msana, mtima ndi mnofu ... Ndiyeno_pamene mukusankha, zidzakhala choncho. Ngati mwaphonya ndipo simukuyesera, mudzatopa ndikuzunzidwa.
Yemwe ndi zomwe timasankha
Mkazi amayamba kukonda ndi munthu yemwe amawoneka ngati abambo. Ngati palibe bambo - muyeso ndi fano la munthu yemwe amasamalira m'bale wake, amalume, agogo ake. Mmenemo chirichonse chomwe chiyenera kukhala mwa munthu chimapangidwira kwa iye. Zonse, ngakhale zabwino kwambiri, nthawi zambiri samalola anthu. Ndipo nthawizina samadziwa ngakhale. Mnyamatayo amayamba kukonda ndi mkazi yemwe amawoneka ngati amayi ake. Zimakhala zopusa. Mzanga wanga wazaka 30 akudandaula kuti wakhala akuchita zinthu ngati apongozi ake posachedwapa. Ndipo zimakhala zoopsa kwambiri kwa iye-apongozi ake, sangathe kuyima. Koma alibe mantha: amafanana ndi apongozi ake komanso nkhope yake ndi khalidwe lake, zomwe mwamuna wake adamukonda. Ndipo sagwirizana ndi apongozi awo chifukwa ndi ofanana kwambiri ndipo amachitira nsanje mwamuna ndi mwana wake.
Momwe zikuwonekera
Mmene buku lathuli limakhalira zimadalira momwe ubale ulili ndi kholo la amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Choyamba chinali chisamaliro ndipo nthawi zonse ankamukonda mwanayo - msungwanayo amamverera kwa osankhidwa kumverera kukhala ofanana ndi ogwirizana, ndi chilakolako cha kugonana ndi kukhudzidwa kwamtima.
Njira Yachitatu
Bambo sankakonda mwana wake wamkazi, kapena sanatero konse - anachoka chifukwa cha chisudzulo ndipo sanatumize moni iliyonse. Msungwanayo adzakhumudwa poyamba kuona ndikumveka phokoso: adamva mawu abwino kapena akuwona dzanja labwino la munthu ndi zala zala-ngati bambo-ndipo zatha! Chilakolako chimenechi ndi kugonana kwambiri kuposa maganizo. Ndipo chikondi chogonana choterechi ndi choyenera, chifukwa chimalola mkazi kudumphira pazitsulo za kusamvetsetsa kwa amuna ndi kuwopa. Pamene chilakolako chopenga chidzadutsa - yang'anani, ndikumvetsa khalidwe lake. Ndipo adzakondana naye. Sizimakhala choncho nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zambiri.
Zosankha Zinayi
Ngati abambo a mtsikanayo sanali, amamukonda kwambiri ndipo amasankha bambo wachikulire-bambo. Kugonana ndi kochepa, koma ndikumverera kwambiri.
Zomwe zili muyeso
Malingana ndi chiphunzitso ichi, chikondi nthawi zonse chimakhala chikondi komanso kugwirizana. Pamene mutaya pansi pansi pa mapazi anu - wokondedwa adzakuchotsani. Ngati mukumva chisoni, mudzamva ndikuthamanga, "muli pa intaneti" naye. Mkhalidwe wanu wa thanzi ndi maganizo amadalira wokondedwayo: zimamupweteka - komanso inunso, akumva chisoni - ndipo muli ndi chisoni. Ndipo ngati wina amakana ubwenzi - tsopano ndi wopangidwira - ndipo akunena kuti mwachikondi muyenera kukhala "wodziimira ndiufulu", kuchokera kwa mwamuna wokonda ufulu, muyenera kuthamanga mwamsanga. Chifukwa akufuna kukugwiritsani ntchito pulogalamu yonse - pamagonana, m'maganizo, komanso pa zachuma, koma sangapereke kanthu kalikonse - kapena kugonana nthawi zonse, kapena chifundo, kapena abwenzi abwino. Mu moyo wa mkazi aliyense pali lingaliro la mtundu wa munthu yemwe angafune kukhala kunja ndi mu khalidwe. Chithunzi ichi chimatchedwa "animus". Mu moyo wa munthu aliyense pali chithunzi chomwecho cha mkazi yemwe angafune kukhala, wotchedwa "anime".
Yemwe ndi zomwe timasankha
Mzimayi amakonda munthu yemwe ali ndi zochitika zake, kuti adzipeze yekha gawo ladziko lachimuna lomwe akufuna. Mwamuna ndi yemwe amawoneka ngati maimoyo ake, chifukwa amafunikira dziko lachikazi losangalatsa. Ndipo pakadali pano, chikondi chawo ndi champhamvu komanso chalitali-timamvetsetsa bwino kuti ndani ali mbali ya umunthu wathu. Chikondi ichi chikhoza kubweretsa pamodzi mosayembekezereka, poyang'ana, awiri. Mwachitsanzo, pafupifupi dokotala wamkulu wa ana, kupulumutsa miyoyo ya ana akhanda, ndi wojambula zithunzi wa ku Moscow wolemba mbiri yochititsa manyazi omwe amajambula olemekezeka akutafuna kapena ataledzera mu utsi, ndipo amalipira: magazini - zithunzi, nyenyezi - chifukwa chokana kufalitsa. Amamukonda, chifukwa amatsata zoletsedwa ndipo sasamala za makhalidwe abwino. Ndipo adanena izi - chifukwa cha chiyero ndi zosakhudzidwa ndi ana. Mmenemo, palinso chisangalalo ndi manyazi, chilakolako chakulavulira makhalidwe, koma sakuwonetsa izi. Iwo ali mu theka lake lachimuna, lachete. Ndipo iye akanakhala mkazi wodzichepetsa komanso wopanda dyera ndipo ankatamanda ana. Amakondana osati chifukwa chakuti otsutsa amakopeka, koma chifukwa ali ndi zofanana. Nditangoyamba kuwerenga za chiphunzitso ichi ndikuganiza kuti ndidziwonetse ndekha ngati munthu, ndinakhala chithunzi cha mwamuna wanga, ndi kusiyana kokha. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndinamulemekeza kwambiri mlembiyo.
Momwe izo zikuwonekera kuchokera kumbali
Zochita za munthu uyu zikuwoneka kuti ndi zomveka komanso zomveka - ife m'malo mwake tinkachita chimodzimodzi. Mzimayi amakhululukira kwambiri munthu - monga amadzikhululukira. Ndipo amamvetsa bwino kwambiri. Amatha kumulola kuti apite ulendo wautali ndikudikirira kuti abwerere kwa zaka zambiri. Nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi moyo wake wokondedwa, kumuiwala - monga akazi ambiri a atumiki omwe saganizira za ntchito yawo, koma pokhapokha - pokhuza mwamuna wake. Komanso, nthawi zina sitingamvetsetse komanso ndi wowolowa manja, munthu amavomereza - amavomereza mkazi atapandukira mobwerezabwereza. Nthawi zina amapanga ntchito yake komanso kuti wokondedwa wake apindule ndi mtundu wonse wa moyo. Chikondi ichi chikhoza kukhala moyo wonse. Ndipo samangoyima pomwepo - amafunikira mphindi ya choonadi, mtundu wina wotsitsimula, kuti anthu athe kutseguka, kutembenuka mwadzidzidzi ndikuwonana. Chikondi ichi chimabadwira paulendo, pa phwando la rock, madzulo, pokambirana mwachidwi, ku ofesi yayitali.
Zomwe zili muyeso
Ndizodabwitsa bwanji: ngati mkazi sanafune kukhalapo, ngakhale ola limodzi ndi mwamuna ndipo sangathe kudziyerekezera ndi chifaniziro cha munthu ndipo amasangalala ndi masewera otere, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri, zosatheka kuti iye akonde wina. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi amuna. Mwinamwake, mu mzimu wotere mulibe malo a munthu wachiwiri. Ndipo palibe chikhumbo choyamikira, kumvetsa ndi kulandira wina ... Palibe chifukwa chake?