Tidzayesa kukuthandizani kuyankha funsoli: "Mmene mungalimbikitsire chikondi kwa mnzanu." Mmodzi "koma": Mukuyenera kulimbitsa chikondi wina ndi mzake, mwinamwake kuyesa kwanu kudzakhala kopanda pake.
1. Dziwani America.
Maubwenzi amphamvu amatsimikiziranso kukhalapo kwa chikhulupiliro ndi kugwirizana pakati pa maubwenzi. Koma, awiriwa si inshuwalansi kuyambira pamene akuyamba kuwoneka kuti palibe tsogolo la ubale wanu. Mwamuna ndi mkazi samasiya kukondana wina ndi mzake, sasangalala ndi zochitika zilizonse.
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Ganizirani zomwe zingasangalatse nonse awiri. Lankhulani pa mutu uwu, gawanani zikhumbo zanu ndi maloto anu. Ngati mutapeza chifukwa chofala chimene aliyense angafune, izi zidzakuthandizani kwambiri. Mwina mungapeze chinachake chatsopano mwa mnzanuyo, chinachake chimene simunachidziwe kale.
2. Simukuwoneka ngati? Sangalalani nazo.
Wokondedwa wanu ndi mtheradi wosiyana ndi inu? Kodi simukukonda kwambiri khalidwe lake?
Mwinanso mudzadabwa, koma palibe anthu omwe ali nawo mdziko - ndi khalidwe lomwelo, zokonda, zowawa. Musayesere kusintha wokondedwa wanu. Ganizilani zomwe simukufanana. Phunzirani zinthu zonse za munthu wanu mosamala kwambiri.
Mulole mnzanuyo kutenga nawo mbali pa masewerawa ndi kulemba mndandanda wa makhalidwe omwe ali nawo, koma alibe. Potero, mudzadziwana bwino. Mwa kulola nokha kukhala - mumakhala pafupi, kulimbitsa maubwenzi komanso kulimbitsa chikondi chanu kwa mnzanu.
3. Choonadi ndi kanthu koma choonadi.
Musati mubweretse vutoli mpaka apo. Pamene aliyense wa inu mukhola adzasonkhanitsa mafupa ambiri. Khalani omasuka kwa mnzanuyo, asamaope kuuza zinsinsi zanu kapena zinsinsi zanu.
Kutsutsana kulikonse, komwe sikuyenera kufotokozedwa ndi kukambirana, kumapangitsa kuti pakhale mgwirizano waukulu mu ubale wanu, womwe sungathe kumangiriza pamodzi wina aliyense.
Yesetsani kumanga maubwenzi ndi kukhazikitsa chikhalidwe chotero kuti aliyense wa inu akhale omasuka ndipo sanawope kugawana mavumbulutso. Ngati mnzanuyo atsegula moyo wake kwa inu, zomwe adamuuza milandu yambiri, kunyozedwa ndi zina zoipa, ndikudziwa kuti sangalole zolakwitsa zina.
Ngati chinachake sichikugwirizana ndi inu, kambiranani momveka bwino, motero, mudzakhala oyandikana. Mudzaphunzira kudalira wokondedwa wanu ndikuyamikira ubale wanu.
4. Musawope kusonyeza kufooka.
Pamene miyoyo yanu ndi mitima yanu ili pafupi ndi mnzako, kulimbitsa ubwenzi wanu. Musaope kuti mugwere muubwana ndikuwonetsa zofooka zanu kwa mnzanu. Tiuzeni za zinthu zomwe munalota monga mwana. Musaope kunyengedwa, munthu wachikondi amamvetsa komanso kumuthandiza mwamuna wake.
Pofuna kulimbitsa chikondi kwa mnzanuyo, kumbukirani zolembazo, kumbukirani zonse. Yesetsani kuthawa mchitidwe wofiira, kuiwala mavuto onse. Tangoganizani, nchifukwa ninji inu munamukonda kale bambo uyu? Kodi mumaganiza kuti zasintha? Inde, mwinamwake iye adasinthidwa kunja kwina - sadali mnyamata wamng'ono amene adathamanga pamadoko ake, akugwirani m'manja mwake. Koma, ndithudi inu mwasangalala nazo osati maonekedwe, ndi zina zolemetsa - chifukwa cha makhalidwe abwino kapena zochita zawo.
Yang'anani pa wokondedwa wanu ndi maso ena - ndipo simudzasowa kulimbikitsa chikondi.