Wanzeru
Kuti munthu wanu asiye kukhala "pamaso panu" pamaso panu, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungamulimbikitsire. Musayambe kuyankhula mwachindunji, fotokozerani zomwe zimapangitsa kuti musamalankhule. Makamaka ngati mupeza kuti zinthu zomwe zimakwiyitsani mumaonekera mu khalidwe lake ndi khalidwe lake zaka zambiri zapitazo ndipo adakhala nawo mwangwiro, mwinamwake ngakhale ankakonda zonsezo. Ndipo tsopano mwabwera, ngati mumakonda, ndidzidzidzi, ndipo mwadzidzidzi Mwadzidzidzi tiyambe kufotokoza "fairy" yanu za theka lanu lachiwiri. Choncho, ngati mukufuna, kuti mnyamata ali ndi tidier, simuyenera kunena kuti amawoneka ngati nkhumba ndipo mumachita manyazi kuti muwoneke ndi anthu abwino. Izi zikhoza kutsogolera kumudziwa kwathunthu kwa mau anu, kapena zomwe munthu angachite kuti akunyozeni. Choncho, muyenera kumangom'uza zomwe mumakonda kwambiri komanso zabwino kwambiri, koma ngati tsitsili ndilolendo, shatiyo imamangidwa, ndiye kuti idzakhala mfumu ya maphwando. Makhalidwe amtundu uwu nthawi zambiri ndi anyamata abwino ndipo mukhoza kupeza zotsatira zabwino.
Sikoyenera kuti tidziwitsenso munthu, koma kutchula maganizo ake pa iye. Kumbukirani kuti ngati mutasankha kukhala munthu wamba, momwe mukuwona zolephera, ndiye kuti muyenera kuphunzira kutseka maso anu kwa iwo. Apo ayi, simungathe kukhala pamodzi ndipo muyenera kugawanitsa. Ndipo ngati mukudabwa kuti mungachite chiyani, ngati simungathe kulandira amene mumamukonda, ndiye kuti ndi chiyani, ndiye kuti kupatukana sizomwe mungakonde. Choncho, nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna kukwiya ndi mnyamata pazochitika zina zosavomerezeka kwa inu, kumbukirani makhalidwe ake abwino. Ganizirani zomwe mumakonda ndikuwona mmene maganizo oipa amatha kukhalira pa dongosolo lachiwiri. Mnyamata wanu akulondola pa chinachake, kukuuzani kuti inu munayamba kumukonda iye monga choncho. Ichi ndi Choonadi, tikamakonda kwambiri, timafuna kwambiri kuti tikhale munthu weniweni. Ndizo zolinga chabe zomwe sizikuchitika, ndipo mnyamatayo sadzayesera kukhala amodzi. Choncho musayese kuzifanizira ndi fano lomwe mumalenga, ndipo zidzakhala zosavuta kuti muzitha kuzigwiritsa ntchito.
Landirani moyo
Kawirikawiri, amayi samatha kumvetsa ndi kuvomereza munthu, chifukwa moyo wake, zokondweretsa, maubwenzi ndi zina zotero zimawoneka kuti ndizolakwika komanso zopusa. Pankhaniyi, mkaziyo sayenera kutsogozedwa ndi munthu wamba. Inde, ngati izi sizikugwiritsidwa ntchito pazochitikazo pamene akuwona kuti malo ake ndi zokondweretsa zimamuvulaza ndikumukweza pansi. Pankhaniyi, pamodzi ndi iye muyenera kulankhula mozama, yesetsani kutsegula maso anu. Palibe chifukwa chake mumamuuza zoona zake ndikuyembekeza kuti munthuyo adzakukhulupirirani ndipo nthawi yomweyo azichita. Ndikofunika kumupatsa chidziwitso chopanda pake, kumukakamiza mwamtendere kuntchito zoyenerera, kupanga zochitika zomwe akuwona kuti moyo woterewu uli wovulaza. Ndipo ngati munthu ali ndi nettak, ndipo zonsezi ndizofunikira kwa chilengedwe, ndiye pamapeto pake amadzimvetsa yekha ndi kusintha. Apo ayi, muyenera kuganizira za kutha.
Koma tikukamba za zochitika zomwe moyo wa mnyamata uli wabwinobwino, sizomveka kwa inu. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata amakonda masewera a pakompyuta omwe simukuwona mfundoyo, ndipo abwenzi ake akuwoneka kuti ndi achipongwe, ngakhale kuti amawaona ngati opanda pake. Pankhaniyi, atsikana ambiri amapanga kulakwitsa kwakukulu - kuyesa kukondana ndi moyo wake. Amathera maola ambiri akuphunzira masewera atsopano, zomwe mnyamatayo amalankhula nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse amayesera kuyankhulana ndi abwenzi ake ndi kunena kuti ndi abwino. Izi ndizokha, masewera ndizowononga nthawi, ndipo mabwenzi ali akufa. Ndipo pamene okwatiranawo ali ndi chibwenzi china, msungwanayo samayiwala kunena kuti iye anayesa molimbika kwambiri, anaphunzira kuti mnyamatayo azisewera masewera ake komanso amacheza ndi mabwenzi apamtima, ndipo sadayamikire. Kumene mnyamatayu ananena mosapita m'mbali kuti sanafunsepo nsembe zoterozo. Chowona chake chiri, akazi okondedwa, kuti musayesere kutenga moyo wa mnyamata. Inu muyenera kumvetsa izo. Ndiyeno inu mukhoza kudzilandira nokha, ndi moyo wake. Dzifunseni nokha, inunso muli ndi zokondweretsa, zomwe ambiri samvetsa komanso samazigawana. Ndipo ngakhale kwa inu ndi zopanda pake zopanda pake, koma kwa mazana masauzande a anthu, masewera awa ndilo chizoloŵezi chachikulu mu moyo. Choncho, musaweruzire mnyamata ngati zokondweretsa zanu siziri zofanana. Muloleni iye azichita basi zomwe iye amakonda, ndi inu. Chinthu chokha chomwe chili choyenera kukonzekera ndi kuyika zonse kugwira ntchito panthawi imodzi, ndikukhala ndi nthawi kwa wina ndi mzake. Pachifukwa ichi, simudzakhumudwa chifukwa cha zokondweretsa komanso khalidwe lake, popeza simungatope.
Zomwezo zimapita kwa anzanu. Munthu sangakonde chilichonse. Ndipo palibe chachilendo ngati simungathe kulowa naye. Koma mwamtheradi ndi wopusa komanso wopanda chifundo kuti amunamizire kuti akhale mabwenzi ndi anthu oterowo. Kumbukirani kuti ngati munthu atikwiyitsa, ndiye kuti timamuyang'ana molakwika ndikuona zabwino. Chifukwa chake, mwinamwake, mumaganizira za abwenzi ake si maganizo abwino. Ngati anthu awa ndi abwenzi, ndi abwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali, ndiye kuti ali ndi chinthu chofanana. Kuwonjezera apo, amuna ali ndi zifukwa zosiyana kwambiri za ubale. Kawirikawiri, amatsutsa momwe abwenzi amachitira ndi abambo awo, amakonda ma nthabwala olakwika, samvetsera mwachidwi. Choncho, ngati mukukwiyitsa gulu la mnyamata, yambani kukambirana naye. Koma palibe chifukwa chomunyoza mwamuna ndi abwenzi ndipo samaletsa kulankhula nawo. Ndipo akapita kwa anzanu, amangolankhulana naye. Pankhaniyi, onse adzakhutitsidwa ndipo palibe amene adzasokonezedwe ndi kukwiya.
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri zimangowoneka kuti ife sitingathe kulandira munthu monga momwe aliri. Ndipotu, tachivomereza kale pamene tinagwidwa chikondi. Ndizoti tsopano sitingavomereze kuti sizigwirizana ndi makhalidwe abwino omwe tawasankha. Choncho, muyenera kungoganizira mozama ndikukhala moyo weniweni, ndiye kuti mumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza wokondedwa wanu.