Kodi ndi amuna otani omwe amuna amawafuna?
Mutu wa munthu aliyense amakhala ndi fano la mkazi wabwino. Amuna amafuna zinthu zonse mwakamodzi: kuti apange mkazi wokongola, wanzeru komanso wamakhalidwe apamwamba, komanso makamaka kambupi pabedi ndi hostess ku khitchini, ndipo ngati amacheza ndi anzake ndi kukonda mpira, ndibwino kwambiri! Kufikira kwina, fano la mkazi wabwino mwa amuna laphatikizidwa kukhala osiyana. Mkazi wapamtima, yemwe wapatsidwa tsiku loyamba, samangokhalira kumangokhalira kuganiza komanso amadziwa zomwe akufuna - ndithudi amamukonda, koma kaya akufuna kuti apange banja limodzi kapena kuti ayambe kukondana? Mwinamwake chidziwitsocho chidzatha mmawa wotsatira, pamene chomwe chimatchedwa "mmawa woyamba" matenda akulowa - munayamba kulankhulana, koma inu munalibe kugwirizana pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna.
Koma chifaniziro chachiwiri cha mkazi wokongola (tiyeni timutchedwe banja) chikugwirizana ndi zikhalidwe zosiyana - kudzichepetsa, naivety, kumaseketsa. Kodi mkazi ayenera kuchita chiyani pa izi? Kumbukirani kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi zolinga zenizeni sangayambe kukakamiza zochitika, kusokoneza ndi kukhazikitsa zinthu "kapena mukuzichita, kapena ndikuchoka ..." Inde, amayi ndi opupuluma ndipo nthawi zina timafuna kupatsa wokondedwa wanu nthawi yomweyo kuti asonyeze kuti ndinu abwino kwambiri . Koma ife tikulangiza kuti tisamachite izi! Mwamunayo ndiwe msaki. Nthawi zina anyamata amataya chidwi ndi atsikana omwe sayenera kupambana. Musapereke kudzikuza chifukwa cha izi. Mwinamwake ndinu wokonza kuphika ndipo mbale zanu ndi zokoma modabwitsa, koma munthu ayenera kupambana ufulu woyesera. Mudziyese nokha ndi luso lanu!
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mumakonda munthu?
Momwe mungamvetsetse kuti mumakonda bwanji mnyamata, kodi ali wokonzeka kupita chiyanjano chanji ndipo sakuona kuti ubale wanu ndi chinthu chiti? Choyamba, tiyeni tizinena izi: dziko lathu likuphwanya chiwerengero cha amuna omwe akuyang'ana banja pokhapokha. Amuna, mofanana ndi amayi, safuna kutaya nthawi ndi ndalama mu maubwenzi omwe sangatsogolere ku chirichonse. Inde, mwamuna aliyense ali ndi nthawi yake yeniyeni pakati pa ubale weniweni ndi nkhani. Koma, monga lamulo, ngati mwamuna amakusamalirani kuposa mwezi umodzi - mungathe motsimikiza kuti zolinga zake ndizovuta kwambiri.
Ndikoyenera kumvetsera pa chibwenzi. Kodi nthawi zambiri munthu amakupatsani mphatso, kukonzekera zodabwitsa zazing'ono, ndipo zomwe zikuwululidwa kwambiri, amasintha zolinga zake kukumana nanu? Onse oimira gawo lolimba laumunthu amagwirizana kuti ngati mtsikanayo akonda, iwo ndi mapiri ali okonzeka kumtembenukira. Choncho, asungwana sayenera kumvetsetsa anyamata awo omwe samawasamalira. Ndikhulupirire, amuna ali ndi chifukwa chimodzi chokha cha khalidwe - osati zambiri komanso ndikufuna. Inde, maubwenzi sikumangopatsa munthu udindo kuti asiye ntchito yake komanso kuti ndiwe wa inu, koma misonkhano yowonongeka ndi zoyenera ziyenera kukhala.
Kodi amuna amafuna chiyanjano cha chikondi?
Ndipo apa kachiwiri kufunikira kwa amuna athu okongola kumaonekera. Amafuna ubale wabwino. Oopsya ndi odzudzula kwambiri mwa amuna mu chiyanjano ndi kuthamangira kwa mkazi. Zomwe zikhoza kuwonetsedwa ngati mawu (kupachikidwa malemba "ndife banja", kukambirana za tsogolo la ukwati), ndi ntchito (kudziwa makolo, kupezeka maphunziro a okwatirana kumene ndi zina zotere). Kumbukirani kuti amuna ali omasuka kwambiri pa ufulu wawo, musawachotse iwo ngakhale m'mawu. Amuna amayamikiranso chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro cha amai, amakonda kumvetsetsa magawo awiri omwe sangathe kuwapatsira kuti apite ku cafe, powona kuti mwamunayo ali ndi mavuto kuntchito kapena osati m'maganizo.
Monga mukuonera, gawo lolimba laumunthu silikufuna mwachikondi chinthu chopanda pake, kwenikweni, chinthu chomwecho tikuchifuna mwa amuna ndi ife, akazi. Mutha kumvetsa bwino munthu, ngati mumayankhula naye nthawi zambiri, nkhanizi sizingakhale zofunika. Kambiranani za chirichonse ndi chirichonse - kuyankhulana kudzakuthandizani kuti mufike pamtima!