Akusiyani inu kwa abwenzi ake. Kumapeto kwa sabata, pamene mukufuna kulowerera maphwando pamodzi, amapita kukapha nsomba ndi mnzanu. Nthaŵi ina amathawira kwa wophunzira naye kumanga dacha. Ndipo mwatsala nokha pakhomo. Ubwenzi wamwamuna - ndi mtundu wanji wa kuukira ndi momwe mungamenyere? Funso lodwala kumoyo wa amayi ambiri.
"Siyani anzanu chifukwa cha ine ..."
Kotero, nchifukwa ninji mwamuna akusowa mwamuna wina? Tsoka, mwamuna wokhala ndi mkazi ndi wabwino, koma kwazing'ono. Panthawi ina iye amafunikira gulu la anthu kuti amve ngati munthu. Kotero izo zimakonzedwa. Koma izi sizikutanthawuza kuti musamalankhulane momasuka ndi abwenzi a mwamuna wanu ndipo nthawi iliyonse amavomereza kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe amapereka kwa mamembala ake. Tiyeni tione zomwe zikuchitika pachitsanzo chenicheni. Pano pali khalidwe lodziwika bwino (Julia E., Ekaterinburg). "Poyamba ndinali wosangalala kuti mwamuna wanga Ivan, ali ndi mabwenzi ochuluka kwambiri. Nthawi zonse amakhulupirira kuti ubwenzi wamwamuna si woopsa (sindikutanthauza chikondi chofanana-kugonana). Ndizoopsa kwambiri pamene mwamuna ali ndi chibwenzi. Pa ukwatiwo, abwenzi ake anandigwira m'manja mwanga, ndinamva ngati mfumukazi. Komabe, miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kenako zonse zinasintha. Mwamunayo adakumananso ndi anzao, amapita kukawaphatikiza nawo, kumwa mowa ku mowa wa mowa kumapeto kwa sabata, komanso asanakwatirane. Sindinamvetse izi. Pambuyo pake, iye tsopano ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa, ali ndi banja, koma amakhala ngati kuti ndi wodwala! Zinapezeka kuti abwenzi ake ndi ofunikira kwambiri kuposa ine. Ndiyenera kukhala ndekha pakhomo, ndipo panthawiyi adzamwa mowa ndi anzanga akusukulu! Potsiriza, anandikwiyitsa pamene adayamba kupita kukathandiza mnzanga wina kumanga nyumba. Lamlungu lililonse - kwa iye. Ndipo ngati zinali zapindula, za ndalama - ndikanamvetsa. Ndiyeno kwenikweni iye anagwira ntchito pachabe. Iye akuti, "Ndife mabwenzi, tikusowa thandizo, adzandithandizanso pamene ndikufunika." Zidzathandiza! Ndikukayikira kwambiri izi. Iye ndi wofooka chabe, mwamuna wanga, ndizo ntchito yake. Sindikudziwa choti ndichite chiyani, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? ". Choyamba mungamulangize Julia - musamachedwe. Mwinamwake, ngakhale chaka chimodzi chitatha ukwatiwo. Kulenga banja ndi njira yatsopano ya moyo, chiyero chatsopano. Sikuti munthu aliyense akhoza kutaya msanga njira ya moyo yomwe iye amatsogolere, pokhala munthu wathanzi. Monga lamulo, abwenzi akale amachoka kumalo owonera mwamuna pang'onopang'ono: akwatirana, achoka, achokapo ... Kodi ndizofunikira nthawi yomweyo ukwati ukamupempha kuti abweretse chiyanjano choyamba ndi kudzipereka yekha kwa inu ndi banja lanu? Kwa ena, kukwaniritsa zofunikira zotero sikovuta. Koma ngati moyo wa mwamuna wamwamuna usanakhale nawo pamsonkhano wapadera, ndiye kuti tsopano wakhala mbali ya umunthu wake. Choncho, m'pofunika kuchita mochenjera ndi kusankha. Dzifunseni funso ili: ndi chiyani chomwe chimagwirizanitsa wosankhidwa wanu ndi abwenzi ake? Ndi kuya kwanji kwakumverera? N'chifukwa chiyani amamatirira anthu? Kodi ndi mabwenzi otani? Ngati ndi funso la ntchito, zodzikongoletsa - munthu ayenera kukhala wochenjera kwambiri. Nikita P. - wokwera pampando, zaka zambiri anapita kumapiri, anagonjetsa nsonga zonse za Caucasus. M'misonkhanoyi kangapo kamodzi kanali kuthandizana wina ndi mzake. Kuwonjezera apo, mapiri ndi moto, nyimbo za gitala ... Ubwenzi ndi ena okwera akupitiriza ndikubwerera kwawo. Mkazi wa Olita Olga "amalekerera" zosangalatsa za mwamuna wake, podziwa kuti kuchokera ku mbali yotere ya moyo wake munthu sangathe kukana, ngakhale amakonda kwambiri mkazi. Nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi amamuitanira ku maphwando kumene okwera nawo amakumana ndi akazi awo. Olga anakhala bwenzi ndi limodzi la mabanja awa. Kuchokera ku "abwenzi achimuna" chotero palibe chowopsa. Mwamuna wa Olga amayamikira "kumvetsetsa" kwake, amadziimba mlandu nthawi zonse akamapita kumapiri, kumusiya yekha. Koma pakubwerera kwake amayesa kumupatsa chidwi kwambiri momwe angathere. Kuyankhulana ndi abwenzi, nawonso, pa nkhaniyi ndi kwabwino kwa iye. Musaiwale: Kuti mwamuna wanu azikhala ngati mwamuna, ayenera kudziyerekezera ndi amuna ena! Ayenera kuti awonetseredwe mwa mtundu wake: amapirira chipiriro, kulimbika mtima, kudzipereka, udindo, kumayambitsa makhalidwe a amuna (inu mukupindula!). Kumbukirani, mmalo ati kukula "amayi a amayi": chabwino, mwazimayi.
Ngakhale mutatha kumanga "mwamuna kuketi" - zotsatira zingakhale zosiyana. Zinachitika ndi Anna. Anakwanitsa kukwaniritsa zomwe mwamuna wake anasiya kuchita. Popeza Sergei (dzina lake) ankakondwera kwambiri ndi Anna, iye, monga adanena, anadziimba yekha pakhosi pake ndipo anakhala "banja". Zotsatira zake - kuchokera kwa munthu wosalankhula, wodalirika, wodzidalira yekha, adatembenuza zakazo kukhala chinyengo chosakwiya, chofooka, chosasamala. Kuthamanga ndi kuyankhulana ndi othandizira ena kumamupatsa mphamvu ya mphamvu yake, yomwe inalenga chithunzi cha "I-man." Mwamuna sayenera kuchita ndi mitsempha ya amayi, ayenera kulimbikitsanso kwambiri zofooka zazimayi ... Sergei onsewa anali ndi zinthu izi zomwe zinamukopa kwa Anna. Pogwiritsa ntchito gliding, "chifaniziro chachimuna" chinagwa pang'onopang'ono, Sergei anayamba kuthamangira, osadzipeza yekha. Izi zinakhudza zochita zake, ubale wake ndi mkazi wake. Ndizomvetsa chifundo, koma lero sakhalanso pamodzi. Onse awiri sakukondwera: Anna adapeza munthu wina, koma osasangalale naye, ndipo Sergei sangabwerere ku chizoloŵezi chake chachimuna ... Zoonadi, chikhalidwe cha amuna chimakhala chosiyana. Choncho, musanaweruze, ganizirani za mtundu wa mwamuna wanu. Monga lamulo, mwa munthu mwiniwake, mwa njira yomwe iye amavala, momwe amadzipangira yekha, mwa njira yake yolankhulira - chirichonse chikuwonekera momveka.
Chabwino, ngati mwamuna wanu atazunguliridwa ndi amuna molondola tanthauzo la mawuwo. Ngati awa ndi opambana, oimira odziwika bwino a ntchito zabwino, olimba mtima. Chabwino, ngati zokondweretsazo ndi mapiri, nyanja, kulumphira kapena kuthamanga. Ndipo ngati botolo kapena mankhwala? Ngati anthu akusonkhanitsa, kuti "atenge malirime", akunena za akazi? Makampani ngati amenewa ndi "abwenzi" amakhalansopo. Koma kodi iwo ndi amuna okha? Ndipo angapereke chiyani kwa "fano" la mwamuna wanu? Chinthu chimodzi ndi chakuti mwamuna sakufuna kukuuzani inu abwenzi ake, akuyenera kukuchenjezani.
Samalani - bachelor wakale!
Julia sakunena kanthu za msinkhu wake ndi msinkhu wa mwamuna wake. Ngati mwamunayo ali ndi zaka makumi awiri, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuti asanamvepo, ndi malo ati omwe abwenzi ayenera kutengera m'moyo wake, ayi. Iye sanamvepo kuti ali ndi banja lathunthu (kuti izi zichitike, ifenso timafunikira khama pa gawo la mkazi). Monga lamulo, kusintha kwakukulu ndi mawonekedwe a mwanayo. Kulemera kwa banja mu malingaliro a munthu kumawonjezeka, ndipo sikuli kovuta kuti iye "achoke panyumba," chikhumbo chimachokera ku chibadwa cha atate kuti "azikhala m'nyumba ya mwiniwake," "mwana wake yekha." Pakadali pano, mwamuna wa Julia amachita ngati mwana wamwamuna, sankadziwa bwino za banja lake. Komabe, ngati Ivan ali pafupi zaka makumi atatu (kapena makumi atatu), ndiye kuti pali chifukwa chilichonse cholira phokoso. Mwamuna wachikulire, ngati alibe banja, amayamba kupeza njira yolankhulana mofanana ndi iye mwini. Pali, monga momwemo, ubale wokhala wosungulumwa (kumverera wokha) amuna. Ndi miyambo yawo yosayimbidwa, nthawi zonse pamisonkhano, ndi zokambirana zawo. Kawirikawiri, pamene okwatirana ndi amuna akupitiriza kusonkhana pamodzi, kumwa, kupita kukawedza, kusaka, kuti asiye malo osasuntha omwe anali nawo asanalowe m'banja. Zili ngati chipinda chogawanika muzogawidwa: iye anapita kumeneko, anatseka chitseko kumbuyo kwake, ndipo chonde musasokoneze. Ndipotu, palibe cholakwika mu izi - mpaka chikhalidwe chatsopano sichimatsutsana kwambiri ndi womasuka. Mfundo yofunikira: pamene mkaziyo amadziwika kuti ndi colonizer mpaka pano. Iye chinachake, wotsutsa, abwenzi ndikukambirana za nsomba. Mphindi wotsirizayi ndi owopsa kwambiri. M'malo mophunzirira kupeza zosamvetsetsana m'banja, mwamunayo amayamba "kuvala zovala zonyansa m'nyumba." Kuwuza abwenzi za mkazi wake, mwamunayo, kumubwezera chifukwa cha manyazi omwe wavutika, amachiza kudzidalira kwake. Amamanga "chifaniziro cha iyemwini," chomwe chimam'tumikira monga fulcrum, koma osati m'banja, osati mwa mkazi wake, koma - kunja! Kusakhulupirika kumeneku kumangowonjezera kukonda mkazi wake. Kusiyana pakati pa okwatirana kukukula. Tinganene kuti ichi ndi chiyambi cha mapeto.
Leonid B. nthawi zambiri amakangana ndi mkazi wake, ndipo nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha kukangana kunali mavuto a kugonana. Pa nthawi yomweyi sanazindikire momwe adavulazira mkazi wake. Akutsegula chitseko, anapita kwa anzake. Ndipo iwo akhoza kukhala mu zofanana zomwezo. Ndipo apa chifukwa cha mabwenzi okwera mowa mumsampha adatengedwa kukakambirana ndi akazi awo. Izi zikuwonekeratu chifukwa chake iwo ankakonda kwambiri "misonkhano ya amuna" iyi: pamisonkhano imeneyi iwo ankaona kuti ndizosaoneka ndi "amai". Kodi ndikufunika kufotokoza kuti maonekedwe amenewa anali achinyengo, nthawi zina amangowonongeka, pogwiritsira ntchito mawu osayenera? Ndipo zokambirana za kuopsa kwa moyo wa banja zinapangitsa kuti, pamapeto pake, mkazi adachoke Leonid.
Amzanga amadzaza chotsalacho.
Ngati pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu muli chiyanjano chenicheni cha uzimu ndi chauzimu, mwamuna wake sadzasowa kufunafuna "katundu" kumbali. Pali, ndithudi, amuna omwe sangathe kukhazikitsa chiyanjano chotere ndi mkazi. Koma nthawi zambiri timayankhula za kusagwirizana, kusakhutira kugwira ntchito muuzimu, kudutsa m'dziko la mavuto, zovuta, zochitika za munthu amene mumakhala naye. Choncho pang'onopang'ono mpweya umapangidwa, omwe amuna ena (ngati sakufuna mbuye!) Akuyesera kudzaza poyankhula ndi amuna.
Andrei L. anafuna kukhala woyang'anira filimu, koma sanathe kuwombera filimu imodzi. Lero akutsogolera mzere wodabwitsa, akulemba masewera omwe palibe amene amaika. Ali kale zoposa makumi atatu, ndipo moyo umamuwoneka wopanda chiyembekezo. Anakwiya, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi maganizo oipa. Posachedwa anayamba kumwa. Kodi mkazi wake amamvetsa? Amatsutsa motsutsana ndi "kutayika" kwake, pamene akuitcha. Koma pamene Andrei anayesera kumufotokozera zomwe zinali kuchitika mu moyo wake, mwinamwake anamukwiyitsa. Iye amaganiza kuti ndizokodetsa chikhumbo cha mwamuna wake kukhala wokonza filimu. Zotsatira zake: Andrew nthawi zonse amakumana ndi amuna ochokera ku bwalo lamakono la bohemia, komwe akumamvetsa bwino, kupeza mawu olondola, kulimbikitsa, ndi kuthandizira mwauzimu. Koma posachedwa Andrew sakanakhoza kupirira ndipo anayamba kudandaula kwa abwenzi za mkazi wake. Ndipo apa Ndinapeza kumvetsetsa pakati pawo! Iye sasiya banja, koma samafuna kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsetsa, kusiyana pakati pawo kumakula. Zoyembekeza zimakhala zovuta: sizingatheke kuti banja ngatilo lidzatha nthawi yaitali. Kodi mumatha kuthandiza mwamuna wanu kukhala woyang'anira filimu? Ayi ndithu. Komabe, mukhoza kumvetsa mavuto ake, maganizo ake, nkhondo yake yamkati. Ndipo izi ndi zokwanira kupanga chikhulupiliro, ndipo mwamunayo anayamba kufunafuna chithandizo mkati mwa banja, osati ndi abwenzi kumbali.
Mabwenzi a mkazi wake.
Zili ngati mbali yotsutsana ndi vutoli. Wachibwenzi wanu ndi mwamuna wanu (kapena mnzanu). Ubale wa mwamuna kwa bwenzi la mkazi wake nthawi zambiri umakhala ndi kugonana (mosamala!). Pali amuna omwe potsiriza amayamba kuzindikira mkazi wawo ndi chibwenzi chake. Makamaka ngati kawirikawiri amapezeka mnyumbamo ndipo amalepheretsa nkhani zonse. Akuti zovala zomwe muvala. Amalangiza kuti asankhe mapepala ati. Ndipo amathandiza pepala lojambula! Amapereka malangizo pa momwe angakhalire bwino pabedi. Kotero, iye alowa mu malo apamtima a mwamuna. Kumverera kwa mkazi kumayamba kunyamulidwa kwa chibwenzi! Mwamuna samadziwa kumene bwenzi lake kuli, komanso kumene mkazi wake ... Njira ina yothetsera unansi wa mwamuna ndi bwenzi la mkazi wake ndi "bwenzi labwino ngati wokondana." Izi zimachitika, ngati munthu ali ndi mwana, akumva mwachikondi ndi mkazi wake ndipo sakufuna kugawana nawo ndi wina aliyense. Iye samasowa akazi ena. Koma mzimayi nthawi zonse "amapita kwa bwenzi lake": akucheza naye pa foni, kumupatsa nthawi yochuluka (chifukwa cha chidwi cha mwamuna). Sipanapite nthawi yaitali kukangana: mukhoza kuchitira nsanje mnzanu! Kodi ndizodabwitsa? Ayi. Kumbukirani mmene mumamvera mumtima mwanu mpira kapena usodzi wa mwamuna wake. Mwina, ofanana kwambiri: munthu wopanda wina akufuna kugawana moyo wa mnzako. Kuchokera apa ndikuvutika. Choncho amatsutsa. Malangizo okhawo ndi kuvomereza kuyanjana, kukomana wina ndi mzake, kuyesera kumvetsa malingaliro a mnzanuyo.
Simungachite chilichonse:
• amakumana ndi mabwenzi mosagwirizana
• Pakati pa misonkhano amakumbukira zochitika zakale, zosangalatsa, nthabwala
• mumadziwa nokha abwenzi ake
• Akuyesera kukonzekera msonkhano kuti asakuperekere, zofuna za banja
• Amagwirizana ndi abwenzi ndi ma bizinesi
KODI MUYENERA KUKONANI:
• misonkhano yowonongeka komanso yokhazikika
• Misonkhano ndi yaitali (maola ochuluka, ngakhale masabata onse)
• Amayi, atsikana akukambirana pa misonkhano
• Misonkho ya misonkhano imakwiyitsa: ngati kuseka, ndiye kukwiyitsa, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri
• Amapewa kukuuzani inu abwenzi ake
• Mukamamupempha kuti azikhala pakhomo, amamunyoza khomo ndi masamba