Zoonadi, mkazi aliyense ali paulendo wake adakumana ndi anthu osauka. Ngakhale kuti maonekedwe awo angakhale osiyana: owala, oganiza bwino, okwiya, osasamala, - kulemetsa kumawonekera kwa oimira mphamvu zogonana. Ndiye kodi zimachokera kuti? Kuperekedwa ndi cholowa monga mtundu wa tsitsi kapena mawonekedwe a mphuno, kumawoneka ndi msinkhu kapena ukuphuka chifukwa cha zovuta za kunja kwa mkhalidwe?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amagawanitsa amphongo amphongo m'magulu angapo, omwe amadalira mkhalidwe wamaganizo ndi makhalidwe.
Gulu loyamba la anthu-bore ndi amuna introverts. Iwo akhoza kunenedwa kuti amanyamulidwa ndi dziko lawo lomwe. Zovuta zoterozo ndi zovuta kupirira, chifukwa nthawi zina zimawopseza, ndipo zimayambitsa kuyendetsa moona mtima. Pamene alankhulana, amuna oterewa amathera mphamvu zawo, ndipo maganizo awo amasintha ndi nkhawa, makamaka ngati pali mtsikana wokondwa, wokondwa komanso wamphamvu. Chifukwa cha ichi, amangokakamizidwa nthawi ndi nthawi kuti adzichoke okha, kusiya zenizenizo. Izi sizikutanthawuza kuti mnzanuyo akunyalanyazani, momwe mukuganizira molakwika, mosiyana, akukhulupirira ndikumudalira kuti mumamvetsa, koma mwanjira ina sangathe kufotokozera.
Gawo lachiwiri la tsache limene likhoza kukumana ndi amuna omwe ali ovuta kwambiri. Iwo ali achangu, olimbikira, okondweretsa komanso nyengo, nthawi zonse amaika zonse pamasalefu mwadongosolo linalake. Pamene anthu awa ali odzikonda okha, aliuma, choncho zilizonse zimakhala zofunikira, iwo amapita kumapeto ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zawo. Munthu sangathe kumvetsetsa yekha, sangathe kupirira maganizo ake ndi zilakolako zake, choncho amayesa kubwezeretsanso moyo wake weniweni ndi wozungulira.
Amuna amtundu wankhanza nthawi zonse amaphunzitsa mkazi ndikumuimba mlandu wosasamala, pamene akuganiza kuti mawu a mkazi ndi abwino komanso abwino. Ndi bwino kulankhula ndi amuna oterewa mothandizidwa ndi chilolezo chokwanira. Izi ndizobwino kuti tigwirizane kusiyana ndi kufotokoza chifukwa chake munthu sakufuna kuchita izi.
Ngakhale kuti akusowa kwambiri, amunawa ndi ofunika kwambiri ndipo amayenda mofulumira pamsinkhu wa ntchito, kusintha nsanamira zawo, mofulumira kupita kumtunda, ndikukwaniritsa zomwe apanga. Chifukwa chake, amudandaule, apumule ndi kukhala ndi chidaliro ndi munthu wotere, udzakhala ngati khoma lamwala.
Gawo lachitatu likuphatikizapo boring pessimists . Mulimonsemo, amuna oterewa sakhala okondwa ndipo nthawi zonse amangodandaula za mavuto osiyanasiyana omwe angathe kuchitika osati iwo okha, koma ndi ena onse. Kupweteketsa koteroko kumachokera kupirira kupirira. Mabala awa nthawi zonse amauza anthu ena momwe zinthu zilili zoipa ndipo tsiku lililonse lidzaipiraipira, ndipo iwo eniwo amakhulupirira kuti adzatonthozedwa ndi kukhumudwa. Makhalidwe oterewa amatchedwa constitutional-depressive, choncho chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi pamene mutayankhulana ndi amuna otero, musatengeke ndi maganizo oopsya pa moyo ndi kuunika kosatha. Mukudziwa kuti palibe chifukwa chomveka chosinthira malingaliro awo pa zenizeni, koma musaiwale kuti maulosi ndi nkhawa za man-nerds sizikutanthawuza kanthu, iwo ali, monga lamulo, motengera zozizwitsa. Mayi aliyense yemwe ali pachibwenzi ndi munthu wotero amadzimva kuti alibe chitetezo. Komabe, mwa amuna oterowo, kuderera komanso ulemu. Iwo sangayembekezere kuti asinthe konse inu ndi kusiya banja lanu. Iwo akungoyamba kuganiza za chiwonongeko ndipo akuganiza kale momwe mavuto, matenda ndi zoopsa zikutsatila, ndipo kotero malingaliro onse a "mapulaneti" akuthawa akugwa mwamsanga.
Mwachidziwitso, pali mabotolo ambiri ndi akatswiri a maganizo omwe apeza chifaniziro cha munthu woteroyo ndi zizolowezi zomwe zimawoneka bwino komanso zomwe zimachitika.
- Iwo sangathe kusiyanitsa chachiwiri kuchokera kumwambamwamba, ndiko kuti, nthawi zonse amakoka pazithunzi.
- Iwo amaletsedwa ndi chisangalalo, chifukwa nthenda imodzi imatha kuyambitsa chisangalalo kapena kusekerera, koma lingaliro lafilosofi, limene, monga lamulo, limathera m'malo mwachisangalalo.
- Makhalidwe awo ndi osayenera, zikhoza kuchitika pa nthawi, mwachitsanzo, pamene anthu amatsogolera mosavuta, zosavuta, zokambirana zokondwera, pamene iye adzakhala pansi ndikuyika masentimita ake asanu, kuti chirichonse chiri choipa kapena kuti sichifotokozedwa molakwika penapake.
Ngakhale ngati wosankhidwa wanu anali wobadwa ndi munthu, musamangoganizira zachinyengo chake, komanso yesetsani kuti musamangokhalira kuchitapo kanthu. Tangoganizani monga kusowa kosautsa kwa mwamuna. Komabe, mulimonsemo, mungavomereze nawo kuti akhale chete, koma panthawi yomweyi muzichita mwanjira yanuyomwe. Chifukwa cha ichi, mkazi ali ndi nzeru, zomwe zimakhala bwino ndizochita zamachenjera.