Tiye tikambirane za momwe tingathandizire munthu atapatukana ndi wokondedwa.
Pambuyo pagawani, munthuyo ali mu chisamaliro chokwanira, akumva wosasangalala, kudzidalira kwake, chilakolako chokhala ndi moyo, akugwa mofulumira. Mwachidule, iye wataya kukoma kwa moyo. Mosakayika, akusowa thandizo ndi kuthandizira maganizo, zomwe zingamuthandize kubwerera kumtima wosangalala.
Chinthu choyamba kunena kwa munthu amene anaponyedwa: "Simungathe kuthandiza misonzi!". Mwinamwake wina angapeze izi zamwano, koma munthu wotayika ndi wosasangalala ayenera, poyamba, kugwedeza, kupanga moyo ndi kuchita. Choncho, m'pofunikira kuti am'pangitse "kuyanika" misonzi, ndi kuyamba njirayo patsogolo - molunjika m'tsogolomu yatsopano, yowala komanso yofunika kwambiri.
Mapeto a chiyanjano cha chikondi - izi ndizopweteketsa mtima wina aliyense. Makamaka, izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa milandu yomwe mzake mnkhanza ndi woipa adaponyera ena. Madokotala woyenera - akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti miyezi iwiri yoyamba pambuyo pa kupuma ndikovuta kwambiri kwa munthu wotayika. Koma nthawi iyi ikhoza kuchepetsedwa kwambiri ngati "zabwino" kuthandiza wodwalayo.
Chinthu choyamba kufotokoza kwa msungwana wotayika (kapena mnyamata): ubale unatha kwanthawizonse, palibe kubwerera. Monga lamulo, zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu amve ndi kuzindikira izi, koma nthawi zambiri amalankhula mofuula, komanso kumva kwa ena, mofulumira ululu wa mawu awa udzatha, ndipo ichi ndi sitepe yaikulu pa "kuchira".
Munthu sayenera kusiya yekha ndi mavuto ake. Ichi ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa momwe mungathandizire munthu atapatukana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Akuyenera kukhala panja, kukumana ndi abwenzi, kapena bwino, kuti akambirane za mmene amamvera, monga anthu ambiri momwe angathere. Njira imeneyi imatchedwa "kusweka kwachisoni". Ndichifukwa chake akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amakhulupirira kuti ngati munthu ali ndi abwenzi ambiri zimakhala zophweka kuti apulumuke mavuto alionse.
Ngati ndi munthu wotsekedwa amene sangathe kugawana chisoni ndi ena, ndiye aloleni kuti alembe kulembera zomwe akukumana nazo. Komanso, pofotokoza zomwe zimachitika pamapepala, munthu amatha kumvetsa bwino zomwe zachitika.
Pakapita masiku angapo, munthu amafunika kuchiritsidwa. Zimakhala izi: khalani naye pagalasi ndikumupemphe kuti adziuze yekha za mavuto ake. Izi zimathandiza kuthetsa nkhawa. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, pamene munthu amaliza nkhani yake, am'mwetulire pa galasilo chake, iye mwiniyo sadzazindikira momwe zingamuthandizire.
Gawo lotsatira ndi kupita kuntchito. Dokotala aliyense amatsimikizira kuti iyi ndi imodzi mwa mankhwala abwino kwambiri pa zolephera ndi zovuta zirizonse. Ndi ntchito yomwe ingakhoze kukoka munthu pamene zimakhala zovuta kwa iye. Chabwino komanso chofunika kwambiri, ntchito monga mankhwala a maganizo, ali ndi mwayi wapadera kuposa ena onse: umaperekedwanso.
Ngati munthu ali ndi ntchito "yokhala pansi," muofesi, ayenera kumakakamizidwa kuti azigwira ntchito yowonjezera, makamaka. Moyo wathu ndi thupi lathu zimagwirizanitsa, ndipo thupi likatopa - moyo umakhala wosavuta. Angathe kuchita chilichonse: masewera, kuyeretsa m'nyumba, komanso kukonzanso.
Kumbukirani lamulo limodzi lofunikira: panthawi ya "mankhwala" munthu sayenera kubisa maganizo ake enieni, amve, amve, aswe mbale. Ngati munthu amasungira zonse mkati mwake, ndiye kuti maganizo amayamba "kumuphwanya", kumuwononga iye kuchokera mkati.
Chilengedwe! Pano pali mankhwala ena opweteka: ulendo wopita ku nkhalango, mapiri, kunyanja kapena paki, kumathandiza munthu kuona kuti moyo umapitirira, nthaka imatha, mitengo imakula. Kawirikawiri, munthu amene ali muvuto la maganizo ngati limeneli sakufuna kupita kulikonse, koma ayenera kukakamizidwa, ndikofunikira kuonetsetsa kuti moyo wake uli wodzaza ndi zochitika.
Malinga ndi akatswiri ambiri azachipatala, yoga ndi kusinkhasinkha ndi njira zabwino kwambiri zothetsera misonzi yosatha. Kusinkhasinkha kumathandiza munthu kupumula thupi ndikukhazika mtima pansi, kuphatikizapo mazira ambiri a yoga amaonetsetsa kugona.
Pambuyo panthawi yopuma pali osachepera sabata, pakubwera nthawi yothandizira imodzi yokha: "kutaya kunja wakale - kulola muyatsopano". Langizani "wodwalayo" kuti atulutse zinthu zonse zomwe zikukukumbutseni za yemwe kale anali naye. Zikuwoneka kuti chirichonse chimakumbutsa izi: mipando, makoma ndi misewu, zomwe anthu oyambirirawo anayenda. Koma muyenera kuchotsa: makalata, zithunzi, ndi zina zotero. Pazimenezi, m'pofunika kutaya popanda kuwerenga ndi kupenda zithunzi zakale.
Pakapita mwezi, munthu amayamba kumva kuti mavuto aakulu atha, kupwetekedwa kumatha, ndikosavuta kupuma. Koma zowawa izi, monga lamulo, zimanyenga. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pambuyo pochita zachiwawa, pamakhala "chete", ululu wosasangalatsa, umene nthawi zina umapweteka kwambiri. Choncho, ngati wogwidwayo ali ndi mwayi wamtengo wapatali, ndiye kuti ndibwino kupita ulendo, osachepera pang'ono, koma osachepera sabata. Kuchokera paulendo, akubwerera kale munthu wosiyana. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti njira yabwino yothetsera ululu watsopano "wamtendere" ndiwatsopano, amzanga atsopano.
Tsopano chinthu chachikulu sikumusiya munthuyo kuchoka njira yomwe akufuna, iye akuukanso kale, koma akusowa nthawi. Pa nthawi yomwe akufunikira kulankhula zambiri, aloleni kuti adziwe zomwe moyo wake unalipo asanayambe kukomana ndi wokondedwa wake, chomwe chinali cholemera, mabuku omwe adawerenga ndiye, mafilimu omwe ankakonda, komwe ankasangalala ndi anzanga, kumene anapita kumapeto kwa sabata. Chofunika koposa, kuti akakamize "wodwala" kusiya njira iliyonse yobwezera, ndiyenera kutsimikizira kwa iye kuti "kukonzekera kubwezera, akukonzekera manda awiri" komanso kuti sudzabweretsa mpumulo aliyense, koma kungowonjezera njira yothetsera.