Atsikana amakhala osatetezeka, osakayika zamoyo, zomwe nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kupambana mikangano, zodandaula ndi kusamvetsetsana ndi wokondedwa. Aliyense wa iwo akulota kukhala chibwenzi chake wokondedwa kwambiri, msungwana wabwino kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi. Koma nthawi zambiri amafunsa mafunso: "chifukwa chiyani anakhumudwa?", "Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?", "Kodi angafotokoze bwanji kuti izi sizikusangalatsa?" Pali mafunso ambirimbiri kapena masauzande ambiri.
Komabe, tsiku lirilonse funso lomwelo likufunsidwa kangapo: momwe mungakhalire msungwana wabwino kwambiri kwa chibwenzi chanu?
Mwinamwake, msungwana aliyense nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti kulakwitsa kulikonse, kulakwitsa kochepa kapena kusamvetsetseka ndi mawu a mnyamatayo kumayambitsa mikangano komanso zosokoneza zambiri. Koma ganizirani: Amuna oposa 53% amayesetsa kuti aphunzire mavuto a ubale wawo, koma amatsimikiza kuti n'zosavuta kuti mkazi achoke pamsana ndi kumwetulira pa nkhope yake mofulumira. Musamasonyeze bwenzi lanu chidandaulo chakuti amamvetsera inu mosamalitsa kapena osamvetsetsa mawu anu.
Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti mau angapo omwe tinauza wokondedwa athu sakhala ozindikira kwa ife, pamene munthu akhoza kukhumudwitsidwa, kapena akhoza kuchepetsa kudzidalira kwake. Yesetsani kupewa mawu owopsya pofotokozera vutolo, koma makamaka, dikirani malo otentha, otetezeka, osasangalatsa, omwe sangathe, pofotokozera zifukwa ndi zodandaula, kukupangitsani kukangana. Amuna amakonda kwambiri ngati amamvetsera kwambiri, amayamikira, amalemekeza komanso amasonyeza kuti amamukonda kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti chikhale choposa. Ndiponsotu, ngati mnyamata akuwonetsa kuti ali pachibwenzi amasankha chilichonse, ndiye kuti zimakhala zovuta kubwera pamodzi ndi iye pa chinthu chimodzi, kumbukirani izi poyankha funsolo: "Momwe mungakhalire msungwana wabwino kwa chibwenzi chanu."
Ambiri mwa amuna, koma makamaka anyamata, amakhulupirira kuti apatsa mtsikana kwambiri kutentha, chikondi ndi chikondi, ndi angati omwe angalandire kubwezeretsa (izi ziri ngati mawu otchuka "inu kwa ine - ine kwa inu"). Makamaka, izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri chifukwa mnyamata wanu adali ndi zovuta pamoyo wawo pogonana ndi atsikana. Pamene amayesa ndikuchita zonse zomwe angathe komanso mwamsanga momwe angathere, ndipo pamapeto pake salandira kanthu, kapena kulandira, koma, pamene akuwona mosagwirizana ndi mtima wonse wosasamala maganizo ake. Pambuyo pazochitika zoterezi, anthu akhoza kusintha kwambiri. Atsikana onse amadziwa zimenezi m'njira zosiyanasiyana: ena safuna kuganizira zambiri za mavutowa komanso amakhala ndi mavuto ambiri, ndipo ena amafunitsitsa kuthandiza theka lina kuti adzipezenso, ngakhale zitakhala nthawi yosatha. Ngati pali mtsikana wokonda pafupi, mukhoza kusintha chirichonse. Ichi ndi chosatsutsika, chifukwa ngati mnyamata amamukonda kwambiri - sangalole kuti apite naye kapena kuti azikhala ndi wina.
Funso lomwelo nthawi zambiri limadzutsidwa: Nchifukwa chiyani satchulapo kawirikawiri ine, ndipo ife sitingathe kuwonana? Koma sikuti nthawi zonse zimangokhala mwa mnyamata wanu. Taganizirani izi, kapena mwinamwake mukuchita chinachake cholakwika? Ngakhale mnyamata wamba komanso wachikondi akhoza kukhala ndi nthawi yambiri pamene pamsonkhano uliwonse umayamba kuthetsa mavuto kapena kupeza kukula kwa vutoli mu ubale wanu.
Choncho, pofuna kupeĊµa zinyalala zosafunika, amuna akungofunafuna nthawi, ngakhale opusa kwambiri, kuti asakumane nanu nthawi ina. Inde, palinso zifukwa zina. Mwamuna akhoza kukhumudwitsidwa ndi mavuto ndi abwenzi kapena zovuta kuntchito. Njira yabwino yopanda kukwiyitsa wokondedwa wanu ndikupeza kuti zomwe zimamuchitikira ndi zomwe zikumuvutitsa ndikukhala palimodzi (sikofunikira kukonza ulendo wopita ku nyanja, madzulo kapena maola awiri pakiyi ndikwanira). Nthawi zina, mnyamatayo ayenera kuthandizidwa. Ngati amakuuzani nthawi yomweyo kuti vuto lake ndi lotani komanso limamuvutitsa bwanji - amakukhulupirirani kwathunthu ndipo amayembekeza thandizo kuchokera kwa inu. Musaganize kuti munthu ayenera kukhala wovuta komanso kuthetsa mavuto ake. Uyu ndi mwamuna komanso maganizo ake sizitsulo. Koma ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti ngati theka lanu lachiwiri silikumva pamsonkhano wanu kapena amangotembenuka kuchoka ku mawu aliwonse - izi sizili momwe mungathetsere mavuto anu pachibwenzi. Musayesetse kupeza chilichonse - chidzaipiraipira ndipo, kawirikawiri, sichidziwika chomwe chingathe.
Kodi mukufuna kukhala msungwana wabwino kwa chibwenzi chanu? Phunzirani kumvetsa. Ndipotu, ngakhale mutatha kulankhulana kwa miyezi itatu, mukhoza kufotokozera momveka bwino chikhalidwe chake, zinthu zomwe amakonda, zokhuza ndi zokondweretsa, bwalo lolankhulana ndi maganizo anu. Ndikofunika kuphunzira kuti akhale mwamuna weniweni. Mayi, abambo, abwenzi apamtima ndi omvetsetsa, interlocutor wokondwa ndipo ndiye msungwana. Mukhoza kuthandizira pa nthawi zovuta, kuseka zopusa zanu ndi kukangana, ndikuchepetsani zokhumudwitsa zonse ndikumwetulira komanso kufuna kukhalapo nthawi zonse.