Potsiriza izo zinachitika: iwe unakomana naye munthu wa maloto ako! Iye ali ngati yemwe anabwera kwa inu mu maloto ndi zomwe inu mumaganiza kuti masiku onse atalika. Mumamva bwino kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zoopsa: bwanji ngati chimwemwe ichi chidzatha? Koma patapita nthawi, mumayamba kuona kuti anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi inu, kaya anzanu kapena achibale, sakugwirizana ndi zomwe mumasankha. Amanena molimba kuti: "Iye si banja kwa inu" - ndipo ndizo! Ndipo izi ziribe kanthu kuti amakukondani kwambiri. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi lingaliro likumveka mwa: "Kodi mwamuna wanga ali woyenera kukhala pachibwenzi?"
Kodi mukuganiza kuti mayi amamva bwanji akakhala ndi chibwenzi ndi chibwenzi chake, akamva mayi ake tsiku ndi tsiku kuti: "Kodi mumapeza chiyani mwa iye!" Kapena kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo: "Izo sizikugwirizana ndi inu!" ? Gwirizanani kuti, mwinamwake, ali wokhumudwa ndi wokhumudwa. Chifukwa adangomusankha yekha kuti akhale pachibwenzi, ndipo, poganiza kwake, iye ali ngakhale angapo.
Zoona, pachiyambi, mkazi wachimwemwe, wouziridwa ndi wouziridwa, sangagwirizane kwambiri ndi mawu awa. M'malo mwake, iye amafuna kuti azikondana kwambiri ndi anthu apamtima - pambuyo pake, chifukwa munthu aliyense mwachibadwa amakhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kutulutsa maganizo abwino, kuwauza za dziko lonse lapansi. Monga, apo iye ali_munthu wanga! Ndipo chimachitika ndi chiani? Zimakhala zovuta.
Mwachitsanzo, amabwera ndi chibwenzi chake ku phwando, akuwala mokondwera ndi kunyada, kuti ali ndi munthu wabwino kwambiri, akusangalala komanso akusangalala kunyumba. M'maŵa amacheza, bwenzi ndi chisangalalo cha munthu wodziwa bwino matenda amayamba kuyamba kusokoneza mnzakeyo. Anayankhula mawu osangalatsa patebulo ponena za kuopsa kwa mankhwala ophera tizilombo ndipo amawoneka ngati chidziwitso chathunthu, kukana chifukwa ichi kuchokera ku saladi ya masamba atsopano. Izi zinkasokoneza mwangwiro mkangano pakati pa mkaziyo ndi mwamuna wake, ngakhale kuti analibe malingaliro odalirika pa nkhani ya zokambiranazo ndi kunyoza podziwa za izo. Ndipo kotero, ndi zina zotero ...
Willy-nilly, mayi wosauka akuyamba kukumbukira zomwe kuyang'ana kwachisanu ndi mawu akunyoza zidaponyedwa ndi abwenzi ake akale motsogoleredwa ndi chevalier watsopano, ndipo amakhala wosasamala. Amayamba kumvetsa kuti adagwidwa pakati pa moto wachiwiri, ndipo kumverera kumeneku, mukugwirizana, sikungapangitse kudzidalira kwake. Inde, mukhoza kudutsa m'mbuyomo makutu a zovuta zazikulu za wokondedwa, koma siyense amene angathe. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, tonsefe timayamikira maganizo a anzathu ndikuyesera kumumvetsera nthawi iliyonse.
Mwa njira, kuyesa kubwezeretsanso kabukuka mu chiyembekezo kuti asinthe malingaliro a abwenzi sikuwatsogolera ku chinthu chabwino chilichonse. Amapezako zofooka zatsopano kwa mnzanu, zomwe zimakhala zambiri, nthawi zambiri mumamubweretsa ku kampani yanu yakale. Kukula kofanana kwa zochitika nthawi zambiri kumakumana ndi komwe, mmalo mwa abwenzi aakazi, udindo wotsutsidwa umasewera ndi amayi. Mukangoyamba kumunamizira wokondedwa wanu machimo onse ochimwa, sakuwoneka kuti sakuima. Kotero ndiwe yani yemwe muyenera kumvetsera: anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi inu, omwe, ndithudi, akukhumba inu bwino, kapena mawu a mtima wanu? Palibe yankho lachidziwitso ku funso ili, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza. Ndipo ngakhale kuti mukuyenera kupanga kusankha kovuta, ndipo nokha, musanyalanyaze malangizo a akatswiri. Ndiponsotu, adathandiza anthu ambiri kuyenda movutikira.
ZIMENE MOMMA AMADZIWA KWAMBIRI?
Amayi ambiri, monga mukudziwa, amafunira kuti ana awo aakazi akhale ndi banja losangalala. Ndipo zimadalira m'njira zambiri - ndipo izi n'zovuta kutsutsana - momwe mwanayo adzasankhire bwino. Koma mau oti "opambana" amayi ndi ana awo nthawi zambiri amachiritsidwa mosiyana. Makolo akufuna kuti mwana wawo wokondedwa akhale ndi mwamuna mwa njira zonse: a) wabwino; b) zovuta; c) munthu wotetezedwa. Ndicho chimene amalamulira chakudya chovuta - ndikuti palibe mbale yochepa. Zochitika zimasonyeza kuti popanda chosowa chimodzi mwazifukwa zitatu, amayi samavomereza kuti agwirizane.
Choncho, mukakondana ndi munthu yemwe "sagwirizana" ndi lingaliro la amayi anga labwino, amayamba "kuyendetsa ubongo wanu," ndi chifukwa chabwino. Ndipo amachita zimenezi nthawi zina mochenjera kwambiri kuti kukumbukira ambiri Bambo Kashpirovsky ndi mphatso yake ya lingaliro chabe pales iye asanayambe mphamvu ya hypnotist.
Koma panthawi yomweyo, mayi wachikondi, mwatsoka, sakudziwa kuti mumakopeka makhalidwe osiyana kwambiri ndi osankhidwa anu. Mwachitsanzo, mukuwona kuti kupitiriza kwake kukwaniritsa zolinga zake, posachedwa adzapeza malo apamwamba, ngakhale kuti izi sizidzitamandira. Kapena mumakonda kuti amasamalirani kwambiri, chuma chake, ludzu lake la ubale weniweni, chiyembekezo chokhazikika komanso chisokonezo. Inde, pali makhalidwe angapo omwe amatipangitsa kukhala osangalala, chifukwa aliyense ali ndi zake zokha. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti amayi anga "ali nawo" amalembedwa pa nkhaniyi, mwanayo akugwira ntchito mwakhama, ndipo nthawi zina amakwiya.
Ndipo popeza ziri kwa inu kusankha, monga poyamba, muyenera kudziyankhira nokha ku funso la momwe mumayesetsera bwino makhalidwe a umunthu wanu. Ndipo ngati muli otsimikiza kuti alibe zifukwa zazikulu komanso kuti munthuyu ndi woyenera chikondi chanu, ngati mulibe kukayikira kuti mungadwale naye kwachiwiri, ndiye kuti muyime nokha. Musawope mawu a amayi anu, "Kapena iye, kapena ine!" Kuti tiyankhe "Iye", momwe zingakhalire zovuta. Zochitika zikuwonetsa kuti ngati mutapanga chisankho, osati monga chionetsero (izi siziyenera kuchitika mwanjira iliyonse!), Pamapeto pake zonse zidzasintha bwino.
Ndipo amayi anu azikwiyira mukamamutcha tsiku la ukwati wake, ndipo pa mwamboyo azivala zovala zakuda ndipo adzapukuta misozi molakwika. Ngati moyo wanu wa banja ukuyenda bwino, ngati amayi anu akumvetsa kuti patapita zaka zingapo inu ndi mwamuna wanu mukhala osangalala komanso osangalala wina ndi mzake, adzatayika, onetsetsani. Ndipo sitinakukulangizeni kuti mupitirize kukangana ndi amayi anu kapena kubisala kulakwitsa kwake kwakukulu. Musaiwale kuti anakukhudzirani moona mtima, ndipo analapa moona mtima.
ANASINTHA LINGUISTICS
Ndili ndi makolo akuwoneka kuti zonse zili bwino. Amayesetsa kupereka ana awo aakazi moyo wamtendere, wopambana, ndipo ndi banja losangalatsa lomwe likuwoneka ngati chitsimikiziro cha chimwemwe. Koma atsikanawo sakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi dongosolo la tsogolo lanu kuti atenge nawo mbali pa nkhaniyi. Ndiye sadziwa chifukwa chake nthawi zina amatengedwa kuti asanyoze wosankhidwa mwako?
Pambuyo pake, mutha kuvomereza - ndi zophweka kwa aliyense, monga bwenzi lapamtima, kuti amvetsereni, anzanu! M'malo mwake, amayesa, pa nthawi iliyonse, kuti aziwombera pamtunda - kaya ndi zolemba zake za "kindergarten", ponena za zilembo zamasewera, kapena kuti ndi tie yake yatsopano, yomwe imatcha "Kulira kwa nsomba yamtunda usiku nkhalango. " Atazindikira kuti akuwerenga Anna Karenina mwezi wachitatu, adzalankhula mokweza kuti Tolstoy analemba bukuli mofulumira kwambiri kuposa momwe akuliwerengera.
Dontho, monga mukudziwa, likupera mwala. N'zotheka kuti malingaliro ovuta adzachititsa malonda awo "wakuda," ndipo pakapita nthawi mudzayamba kukayikira kuti: "Kodi mwamuna wanga ndi woyenera kwa ine? .." Komanso, amayi ambiri amakonda kukhala ndi diso pamalingaliro a bwenzi. Ndipo ngati bwanayo sakuvomereza, kuchokera kunja, nthawi yomweyo amakanidwa, ngakhale mtima wa mkazi ukutsutsana nawo.
Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, khalidwe ili la abwenzi amayamba chifukwa cha nsanje ya banal. Izi zokha sizikutanthauza kuti nayenso, ali pachibwenzi ndi chibwenzi chako ndipo amakuchitira nsanje ngati wokangana (ngakhale izi zikuchitika). Kawirikawiri zibwenzizi zimapweteka chifukwa chakuti mnzanu watsopano watenga nthawi yanu yaulere ndipo chifukwa cha ichi mwachoka kwa anzanu akale. Msungwana wina wamantha amadziwa kuti maganizo anu, omwe amudziwa bwino, angasinthe motsogoleredwa ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndipo inu ndi mkaziyo mungakhale ndi mavuto mukumvetsetsa.
Osati mnzanu aliyense amasangalala ndi lingaliro la kudzidalira kuti mumayamba kuyang'ana ngati mkazi wachikondi. Mwinamwake, muubwenzi wanu, iye ankakonda kugwira ntchito ya wothandizira komanso wosasinthika, ndipo panthawi ina amadzimva kuti simukufunikira izi. Ndipo wina wa abwenzi ake ayenera kuti anasangalala ndi udindo wake wamkuru pamaso panu, ndipo zimamuvuta kuti avomereze kuti tsopano mukuchitira nawo zida zatsopano mwinanso ulemu waukulu.
Koma musathamangire kudzudzula chibwenzi chovuta. Yesani kumvetsetsa, ndipo izi zidziike pamalo ake. Anthu ambiri amamva zowawa zachibadwa, pamene ubale wautali ndi wathanzi umalowerera mwachindunji ndi wina wachitatu. Ndipotu, nsanje ndi mdani wamkulu wa ubale weniweni, ndipo kulimbana nawo sikuli kophweka nthawi zonse. Choncho ngati inu ndi mnzanu muli otsimikiza kuti muli ndi malingaliro komanso zolinga zabwino, yesetsani kuti musamamve mawu a mtsikanayo komanso musamuyankhe mofanana. Makamaka kuyambira panopa mumadziwa kuti wokondedwa wanu alibe chochita ndi ichi.
Mwa njira, kawirikawiri abwenzi apamtima, ngati ali enieni, amasintha pakapita nthawi maganizo awo pa zosankha zanu zabwino. Monga momwe amachitira amayi, izi zimachitika pamene akuwona kuti mumakhala mosangalala ndipo mukukhala moyowu kwa nthawi yaitali. Chabwino, iye sankakhoza kukugonjetsani inu mwathunthu - kodi mungachite chiyani! Tiyenera kupirira izi.
CHIKONDI CHA AKHUNGU
Bwanji ngati mmodzi kapena awiri abwenzi kapena amayi osakwatiwa akudzudzula wokondedwa wanu, inu, ndikuyembekeza, zatha kale. Koma ndizotheka ndipo gawo lachitatu la chitukuko cha zochitika - pamene paliponse, ngati kuti ndi mgwirizano, amangolankhula za osankhidwa okha. Ndipo amzanga, ndi anzako, ndi achibale - onse momveka "adamuthirira ndi matope." Pano mukufunika kumvetsera maganizo a anthu ndikuganiza mozama.
Pambuyo pake, chikondi, monga mukudziwa, chizolowezi chokhala wakhungu. Kotero, anthu ena nthawizina amawona zomwe zimabisika ku nkhope yanu yachikondi. Choncho, mukufunika kuti mufike mwakuganiza mwako ndikuyenda mosamalitsa ndipo, ngati nkotheka, kusanthula mwachidule umunthu wa msilikali wanu ndi ubale wanu wonse. Kumbukirani makhalidwe onse omenyana omwe anthu omwe mumakhala nawo pafupi amupatsa, ndikuwone kutali komwe akuchokera. Konzekerani kuti mwamsanga mudzapeza choonadi chochepa.
Kotero ngati muuzidwa kuti wanu wokhomerera ngongole ndi wamisala, osasangalatsa, monga ntchentche yothamanga, kapena akusowa zolinga zamalonda, dzifunseni kuti: "Kodi iye akundisowa ine, kodi ndikumva ine - mwamuna wanga alibe zokwanira zogonana izo ndi izo ndi izo ... "Mwachiyero, yesani kuchoka kwa magalasi angapo a pinki. Makamaka ngati mwanjira inayake akukupwetekani inu poyamba, koma munayang'ana maso. Musayambe masewera otentha a masewera owopsa otchedwa "ife tikutsutsana ndi aliyense" chifukwa cha malingaliro apamwamba. Mvetserani pamene mukuitanidwa kuti muganizire chifukwa cha maganizo ake osakhazikika, kuti asintha ntchito zitatu kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapitayi kapena kuti ndi slut yoopsa komanso yakuda. Inu simukutha kuti mutha kuchigwiritsa ntchito. Amayi ambiri amapunthwa pa mwala uwu m'moyo wawo wonse. Inu mwamsanga mwangodzipachika katundu wolemetsa wa inu nokha - ndizo zonse.
Ganizirani za izi, koma kodi ndizofunikira kuti mudzidziwe nokha kuti mutenge chikondi cha munthu uyu? Ndipo ziri choncho, kodi muli ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuti muwononge zofunikira, monga mpweya, maubwenzi ndi achibale ndi abwenzi ndikukhala m'dziko lopangidwa kukhala mabwinja kwa inu awiri? Kodi mudzakhala okondwa pa mtengo wotere, makamaka ngati kutentha kwa mphamvu zanu kumachepa ndi nthawi? Pambuyo pake, panali milandu pamene mayi yemwe anachita zosiyana ndi kulangiza kwa achibale, motero, anakhalabe yekhayekha: wokondedwayo sanagwirizane ndi ziyembekezo zake, ndipo kunyada kunalepheretsa mgwilizano wakale kubwezeretsa mgwirizano wakale. Kaya izi zikuchitika kapena ayi, zimadalira inu nokha. Chinthu chachikulu, musaiwale kuti udindo wa chisankho chosangalatsa ndi umene umagwiridwa ndi mtima wanu ndi malingaliro anu.