Anthu ambiri ali ndi lingaliro kuti ngati mkazi ali wosungulumwa, ndiye kuti ayenera kudana ndi amuna ndi kuwapewa. Ndipotu, mawuwa si oona nthawi zonse. Ndipo tsopano tikambirana za mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya amayi osakwatira komanso ubale wawo ndi amuna.
Kukhumudwa ndi dziko lonse lapansi
Akazi oterewa sadzaphonya mwayi woti akambirane muzhchin, ndipo afotokoze zomwe ziri mbuzi ndi mbuzi. Azimayiwa amadana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe akugonana nawo. Chifukwa cha zolephera zawo pamsana wa ndalama, asungwanawo akufika kumapeto kuti anthu onse ndi amseche, sangathe kudalira, iwo amawapereka ndi kuponyera. Amayi awa amadana ndi aliyense popanda kusanthula. Amawona munthu aliyense ngati mdani ndikuyesera kutsimikizira mabwenzi awo ndi abwenzi awo kuti amuna awo adzawapereka ngati atachita kale izi. Koma, mwachisangalalo, palibe amayi ochuluka ngati amenewa.
Akazi
Sitinganene kuti akazi oterewa amadana nawo amuna. M'malo mwake, iwo amanyozedwa. Ogwira ntchito zokwanira okha omwe apindula kwambiri pa moyo, koma sanaphunzire momwe angapangire ubale ndi amuna, nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kufuula kuti anyamatawa ndi oimira anzawo osagonana, aslaboy, kotero iwo alibe ntchito. Akazi otere sangathe kukanthidwa kapena kutengedwa. Amayankha chilichonse chabwino cha mwamuna: "Ndinachita bwino" ndikulola anthu ofooka ndi osapunthika kuti apite kwa ine, ndipo onsewo amawafotokozera ngati chitsimikizo cha mawu awo onena kuti sangathe kuchita chilichonse. Amayi awa nthawi zonse amakhala okha ndipo amanyansidwa ndi amuna, chifukwa iwo okha ali olamulira kwambiri m'chilengedwe ndipo safuna kupereka kwa wina.
Ulemerero Woyamba
Akaziwa sangapeze awiri, chifukwa amadzikonda kwambiri. Mwa mwamuna aliyense, mkazi wotero amawona zolephera ndipo kuchokera pa aliyense amafunikira kumvera kwathunthu ndi kuyamikira. Ngati izi sizichitika, kapena abambo amodzi mwadzidzidzi "amamenya nkhondo", mayiyu amayamba kukwiya ndi chidani chamtundu wa anthu onse ndi kunena kuti ndi maluwa amene amafunika kukonzekedwa ndi kukondedwa, ndipo iwo, zolengedwa zoipa, safuna kumusamalira, choncho ngakhale sayenera kutchula dzina lake. Koma izi zikupitirira mpaka nthawi yomwe kukongola kukupeza kuyamikira kwatsopano. Kumva kuti iye ndi wokongola komanso wosakhudzidwa ndi munthu yemwe ali khungu chifukwa cha kukongola komanso osadziŵa kuti mkaziyo ali ndi ululu, mkazi wotereyo amatsitsimula ndipo amayamba kukonda amuna, mpaka kamphindi, kuchokera pamenepo sichidzasiya.
Odziimira okhaokha
Akaziwa, monga oyamba, anawotchedwa mu chiyanjano koma m'malo mofuula padziko lonse kuti anyamata a mbuzi, mazimayi oterewa amadziyesa kuti ali apamwamba kusiyana ndi kukwiya ndi kukhumudwa. Choncho, atsikanawo amachitira zinthu bwino ndi anyamata komanso mwaulemu. Poyamba, ndi amayi oterewa, mwamuna ndi wabwino kwambiri kulankhula naye. Koma izi ndizoyambirira. Amayi amtundu uwu samadana ndi amuna kuposa onse. Chifukwa amayesa kuoneka mosiyana, malingaliro amawadyetsa mkati. Choncho, pozindikira kuti munthuyo ali ndi vuto linalake, msungwana wotero, akupitiriza kumwetulira, amayamba kumukhumudwitsa ndikudzipangira yekha amayi ena. Nyumba yoteroyo silingavomereze kuti kusungulumwa kumawapondereza. Iwo nthawi zonse adzapachikidwa kumbali zonse chifukwa adapeza mphotho yeniyeni, chifukwa alibe msonkho kwa wina aliyense. Koma kwenikweni, iwo ali ndi nsanje yoopsa kwa abwenzi onse amene achoka mu chipinda kapena akumana. Azimayi otere amalira usiku ndi ululu osati osati ndi ululu, ndiyeno, kupitiriza kumwetulira, kuyesa kusokoneza moyo kwa ena, kulimbikitsa iwo pochita zabwino. Atsikana awa amadana osati muzhchin. Amadana ndi onse omwe amakhala abwino ndi osangalala, ndipo ali okonzeka kuchita zonse kuwononga miyoyo ya ena.
Mtsikana mnzanga
Koma musaganize kuti amayi onse osakwatiwa ali osayenerera. M'malo mwake, okhawo omwe sadziwa momwe angachitire molondola pa maphunziro a tsogolo, kupanga zosankha zawo ndi kupanga zosankha zawo, sakhala ndi khalidwe lokwanira ndi lowawa, popanda kutaya udindo wonse wa kuthetsa. Mwachitsanzo, pali amayi omwe nthawi zonse amacheza ndi amuna. Tsiku ndi tsiku iwo amatembenukira ku gulu la amuna, amamvetsera nkhani za anyamata ndikuganiza. Kuchokera kwa amayiwa, amuna samabisala kalikonse, chifukwa, poyamba, amamuwona mtsikanayo, yemwe ndi mnzawo. Choncho, anyamata amamasuka ndikuwonetsa zomwe amabisala ndi azimayi ena. Kawirikawiri, amachita zinthu zankhanza, amadandaula nthawi zonse za okondedwa awo, omwe sadziwika chifukwa cha zomwe amachita monga munthu wodetsa mtima, maloto a chigololo kapena kulankhula za kugonana kwawo kumbali. Kumvetsera zonsezi, mtsikanayo akuyamba kuganiza ngati akufuna kuti wina azitchula za iye, ngati mwamuna akufuna kusewera kwambiri pamaso pake, ndiye kulira kwa abwenzi, momwe zimamukhudzira kuti iye nthawi zonse amakhala ake kunyozedwa ndipo akufuna kusintha. Kawirikawiri, posankha kusungulumwa, atsikana awa sachita izi chifukwa amayamba kudana muzhchin. M'malo mwake, iwo amatero chifukwa amaphunzira kuwamvetsetsa. Mzanga mnzanga amadziwa zomwe anthu alidi, ndipo izi ndi zenizeni, zenizeni, zimakhala zosavuta komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo iwo akhoza kukhala abwenzi mwangwiro ndi, chifukwa ubale wamwamuna, nthawi zambiri, ndi wodalirika ndi wamphamvu kuposa akazi. Koma, kwina, chirichonse chimene chimanena kwa mnzako sichiti chabwino kwa chibwenzi chake. Ndipo ngati mutadziwa nokha zomwe amalingalira nthawi iliyonse imene mumudana naye, ndiye apa pakubwera lingaliro lakuti ndi bwino kukhala nokha kusiyana ndi kuwononga moyo wa iye ndi wekha. Atsikana oterewa sangamwetse anthu ndi dothi. M'malo mwake, podziwa psychology ya onse awiri, amatha kupereka amayi ena nzeru zoyenera kuti asawopsyeze anyamata kwambiri. Ndipo amuna, nawonso, amafotokozera momwe angachitire kwa amatsenga otsutsa a mkazi wake ndi zomwe siziri zolondola mu lingaliro lake.
Zomwe zinakuchitikirani ndi kutopa
Ndipo gulu lina la amayi osakwatira omwe ali ndi maubwenzi abwino ndi amuna ndi akazi omwe amadziwa zambiri. Kawirikawiri, amakhala ndi mautumiki osiyanasiyana mosiyana pambuyo pawo, amadziwa mtundu wosiyana wa khalidwe la amuna ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kunena zomwe mwamuna amafuna komanso momwe angachitire. Azimayiwa amadziwa kuti palibe zolinga, ndipo kukhala ndi chidziwitso sichiwalola kuti akhale ndi munthu wina. Kotero, atatopa ndi zonse zomwe zimapangika, zimakhala zokongola kwambiri. Kwa amuna onse, amayi oterewa amawaona ngati opanda nzeru, ali ndi chiwerengero chokwanira. Mnyamata wotsatira akamayesa mtsikanayo, amamuseka kwambiri, amamuuza zonse zomwe adzachite maola otsogolera, kenako amamuuza mnyamata wodabwa kuti asasokoneze nthawi yake kapena kuti azigwiritsa ntchito mosamala komanso alibe maonekedwe (ngati amamukonda komanso sakuganizira) mwa njira, izi sizili nthawi zonse zakuthupi, kawirikawiri ndizofunsana kawirikawiri) Amayi otere samatsutsa aliyense chifukwa chokhala yekha, chifukwa amakonda kusungulumwa. Iwo amangoyang'ana moyo ngati nkhani zochititsa chidwi ndikuganiza chiwembucho.