Ndi tsoka bwanji - zaka zimatha
Mawu oti "mavuto" amachokera ku Chigiriki "krineo", ndipo kwenikweni amatanthawuza "kugawa kwa misewu." Ndipotu, ino ndi nthawi yovuta kupanga chisankho, kusintha kwa moyo wa munthu, bungwe, gawo, chilengedwe, kapena ubongo wina uliwonse wa chilengedwe. Pazochitika zinazake, vuto limapitilira m'njira zosiyanasiyana, ngakhale mavuto onse ali ndi dongosolo limodzi. Kuti mumvetse bwino za mavuto omwe alipo m'maganizo a munthu, ayenera kuwongolera ngati Sherlock Holmes. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, kuchokera kwa anthu onse mpaka payekha. Akatswiri a zamaganizo a anthu amagawaniza mazunzo aumunthuwa kukhala mitundu iwiri: munthu payekha -yekha komanso wam'badwo. Vuto lililonse la msinkhu ndi lokha komanso laumwini, komabe, payekha-munthu sangakhale wachibale. Zaka, nawonso, zidagawidwa ana (pano palinso achinyamata) ndi akuluakulu. Zokhudza zovuta za ana zimadziwika ndi dongosolo lalikulu kwambiri kuposa za akulu, pazifukwa ziwiri.
Choyamba, amafunika kuphunzira zambiri, kusinthika ndi kugonjetsa. Gwirizanani kuti mwayi wa mwanayo kuthana ndi kusintha kwake mosasunthika ndi teksi mu njira yolondola ndi dongosolo loposa kukula kwa wamkulu yemwe ali ndi chidziwitso. Chifukwa chachiwiri: kuphunzira kwawo kumaperekedwa mosavuta kusiyana ndi kuunika kwa akulu akulu, momwe chikhalidwe cha munthu aliyense chikuwonjezeka ndipo "kuwona mtima" kwa mayankho kawirikawiri ndi "opunduka". Mkhalidwe wamasewerowa usanafike ukhoza kukula kwa zaka, ngakhale zaka makumi ambiri. Mwinamwake, ndithudi, kwa miyezi ndi masabata. Koma zinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse zimakhala zofanana: timapitirizabe kuchita chinachake "cholakwika" m'moyo. Sitimadya, sitimakhala ndi iwo, timagwira ntchito kumeneko. Komanso, pansi pansi tikhoza kuganiza zomwe tikuchita molakwika. Koma kuchepetsa "kumene kumatsatira" kaya ulesi, kaya ndi chisoni, chifukwa umawopseza ndi zina zotayika, kaya chitsogozo cha "malo" ichi sichidziwika.
Omasulira ndi okonda zinthu amafotokozera zomwe zimayambitsa zovuta m'njira zosiyanasiyana, koma chofunikira cha izi sichimasintha. Nthawi zina zochita zolakwika zimagwirizanitsa, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi "timapindula" pulogalamu yonse. Zotsatira zake, ife tikukumana ndi chiwerengero choyamba cha mkhalidwewo, ndipo pakubwera mavuto a zaka. Chifukwa cha kusokonezeka maganizo, moyo umasintha. Ndi nthawi ya mavuto omwe anthu amatha kusudzulana, kusemphana kwakukulu ndi anthu oyandikana nawo, kuthamangitsidwa, nthawi ya maphunziro osauka ndi zopotoka mu makhalidwe. Vuto lachilendo liri ngati kupasuka kwa bomba la atomiki. Chirichonse chikuwoneka kuti chikutsutsana. Maganizo athu ndi zochita zathu zingatidodometse. Ndingachite bwanji izi? Kodi ndimaganizadi za munthu uyu? Pambuyo pavutoli, pali njira ziwiri zomwe zingatheke:
"Imfa ndi kubweranso." Poyamba ndinapindula, ndiye ndinamvetsa chifukwa chake, ndinaganizira, ndinakonza zolakwitsa, ndasambitsa zonse zosafunikira, ndinapitiriza kukhala ndi moyo watsopano ndi wokhazikika - kwa ena;
"Black Strip." Ndili ndi "kulandiridwa" mwamphamvu, sindinaphunzirepo kanthu ndipo ndinasunthira patsogolo pakufufuza njira zosavuta, zomwe posachedwa kugwa kwina kudzakhalanso pansi - kwa ena.
Nthawi zambiri kuchokera kwa ife eni ndi milomo ya ena timamva za "gulu lakuda" m'moyo. Koma malingaliro a akatswiri a maganizo, pali "magulu oyera" ambiri m'moyo wathu! Ndizodabwitsa, ngakhale kuti kupanda ungwiro konse kwa dziko lapansi, nthawi zambiri vuto laumwini limathera pachiyambi choyamba. Ichi ndi chifukwa chakuti vuto ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zakusankha zakuthupi. Pafupifupi tonsefe timayang'anitsitsa mosamala kuti tiyende bwino. Mapeto abwino kwambiri a vutoli ndi moyo wamtendere komanso wotsatira. Kawirikawiri, pambuyo pa zaka zovuta, chilengedwe chimayambira. Anthu amasankha kusintha kwambiri miyoyo yawo kuti ikhale yabwino. Yesetsani kuzipanga mu moyo, chinthu chofunikira, chofunika.
Koma iwo omwe ali opsinjika, omwe ali aulesi kwambiri kuti amvetse zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la zaka ndi zotsatira zake, adzakumana ndi tsoka losatha. Zotsatira zowonjezereka ndizomwe zikuchitika, matenda (kuphatikizapo maganizo), mavuto osakhala ndi abwenzi, m'banja, kuntchito. Tikayandikira funsolo mophiphiritsira, timayang'ana pansi, ndikuponyera mapazi athu pansi (ngati frog mu nthano yoipa kwambiri) - kapena timamira.
Kusokonezeka kwa zaka za ana
Ndi mavuto a ana, nkhaniyi ndi yosiyana, koma, ndizofanana. Pali kusintha kwatsopano kwa thupi ndi psyche, zachilendo, kumalo ena osakhalamo, "osasinthidwa" ndipo chifukwa chake. Mu gawo la ana, mavuto ochuluka angapo amachitikira, pakati pa omwe angakhale omwe angatheke. Komabe, mwayi ndi kuchuluka kwa mawonetseredwe awo ndizokhakha komanso zovomerezeka.
Zomwe zimachitika chaka chimodzi - poyang'ana poyamba, zopanda pake, koma poyamba. Uwu ndiko kufotokoza kwa chiyanjano ndi dziko lapansi ndi chisankho chachikulu chopanda chidziwitso chovomereza kapena ayi. Kukonda ena, kunyoza, kapena kuopa, kumasankhidwa pano ndi tsopano.
Vuto lazaka zitatu ndilo khalidwe loipa ngakhale kuti ali ndi maganizo abwino. Kuzindikira za lingaliro la "ayi", "kosatheka," choyamba chokhala chosalandira zomwe mukufuna.
Vuto lazaka zisanu ndi ziwiri ndilo vuto la kupatukana ndi ubwana. Socialalization, kuyika zinthu zonse zomwe zingathe kuchitikapo (ndi zomwe sizingatheke), kusankha pa mphanda pakati pa kudzichepetsa ndi kumverera kwaokha. Pa nthawi ino, ambiri a ife timaphunzira kubodza.
Nthawi yautali nthawi zambiri imawonedwa ali ndi zaka 12 mpaka 14. Ngakhale izo zikhoza kuyamba mu zaka 9, ndi kumaliza pa 21. Mwachidule, achinyamata ambiri "amapita" kudziko lina kuyambira zaka 11 mpaka 17. Zaka za kudzizindikiritsa kugonana ndipo, motero, kuwonjezeka kwaukali, kupwetekedwa kwa mahomoni ndi kusinthasintha kwamadzi. Kulimbana ndi kudziimira, kudzikuza koyamba kwa mavuto a m'maganizo. Kuyambira zaka 18 mpaka 20, kawirikawiri kumakhala kulekanitsa komaliza kuyambira ubwana, kusankha ntchito, kuyamba kwa nthawi yayitali ndi kulimbika kwa malo kumalo.
Zovuta za Midlife
Kuchokera zaka 20 mpaka 27 ndikulingalira kuti ndi opanda pake. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, zovuta zomwe zikuchitika m'badwo uwu ndi za khalidwe laumwini. Anthu ambiri amakumbukira zaka zimenezi ngati zabwino pamoyo wawo. Akatswiri ena a maganizo amaganiza kuti tsiku lodziwika bwino la "zaka zapakati pazaka zovuta" liyenera kutengedwa kuchokera ku nthawi ya moyo yogawana pakati, osachepetsereka nthawi yokhala ndi moyo. Pachifukwa ichi, adafunsidwa kuti aganizire mavuto omwe ali ndi zaka 25. Komabe, kutsutsana kwa lingaliro lotero ndilowonekeratu. Kuwonjezera apo, zaka za kulengedwa kwa banja ndi kubereka m'zaka zaposachedwa zafika zaka 35, kuwonjezera achinyamata athu osasamala.
Chiyambi cha kukula kwa msinkhu ndi zaka 27-29, kutsogolo kwa "vuto la makumi atatu" . Panthawi ino timafotokoza maloto ndi zowona, ndipo ndikudandaula ndikudandaula. Chiyembekezo choposa chimasintha mtundu wa ntchito ndi njira ya moyo. Akazi, mpaka 30 omwe anamanga ntchito, mwadzidzidzi adzipereka okha ku kulengedwa kwa banja ndi kubadwa kwa ana. Ndipo amayi a mabanja, m'malo mwake, ayamba kuchita ntchito. Chimodzi mwa izi ndi chifukwa cha nthano zowonjezereka mu chidziwitso cha "kubereka 30". Kuyambira ndi mwana wa zaka 30, zovuta zonse zomwe zikuchitika mwa munthu zimakhala pansi pa chizindikiro cha kusinthidwa kwa zikhulupiliro ndikufunsanso chilichonse chomwe chinapangidwira m'moyo. Panthawi imeneyi maganizo amayamba: "Ndine kale, ndipo ndikadakali" ndipo "ndipo ndizo zonse zomwe ndimayenera?"
Pazaka zakubadwa za zaka 30, " mavuto a pakati pa moyo" akutsatira, zomwe zingapweteke kwambiri payekha, ntchito, komanso chofunika kwambiri, kukhala ndi banja la munthu. Zaka 40 mpaka 45 - zaka za kusudzulana ndi maukwati obwerezabwereza, "ziwanda mu nthiti" ndi nkhanza zowonongeka. Ndi wa zaka makumi anayi omwe nthawi zambiri amatembenukira kwa psychoanalysts. Ndipo ngati atachoka pavuto, nthawi zambiri amalowa m'magulu osiyanasiyana. Gawo la "pakati pa moyo" nthawi zambiri limawoneka patsogolo pathu ndi galasi lopotoka, momwe zolakwitsa zathu zimasonyezedwa kupambanitsa, ndipo zopindulitsa siziwonekera konse.
Mavuto a okalamba
Pafupifupi zaka 55 mpaka 75 munthu amadutsa "vuto la ukalamba" , lingaliro lomwe, mwinamwake, liri losavuta kwambiri. Nthawiyi ili ndi magawo angapo, nambala yeniyeni ndi nthawi yake zimadalira momwe moyo umakhalira pa ntchito ndi m'magulu. Ndiponso kuchokera ku msinkhu wochenjera ndi wauzimu wa munthu. Pa msinkhu uno, mukhoza kuyamba kumenyana ndi maganizo a imfa, ndikuyanjanitsa ndi iwo ndipo moyenerera kupita kumapeto. Mmene mungasinthire moyo wanu kukhala wosasunthika, ndikupanga gulu la okonda achikulire omwe amagwira ntchito. Ambiri amaopa kuti "adzapulumuka" kupita ku ntchito yopuma pantchito ndikuyamba kugwira ntchito bwino kuposa achinyamata. Ena, mwa njira, akwatirane. Chimodzi mwa magawo a ukalamba ndi "nthawi yovuta" (zaka 70 mpaka 80), pamene munthu asonkhanitsa, monga ngati mtolo, chirichonse chimapindula, chilandidwa, chitayika ndipo chinachitika. Iye ali kale "pano", ndi "apo," ndipo nthawi zina mwauzimu amakhala omasuka kuposa ana a zaka 25. Nthawi zambiri munthu amatha kukhala ndi moyo zaka 100. Anthu amene apulumuka ku chaka chozungulira chiwonetsero amakhala ndi "mavuto aakulu" , pozindikira kuti posachedwapa achoka, ndikukhalabe chifukwa cha sayansi. Pakati pa zaka zana limodzi, ngakhale ziri zomveka bwanji, kuyesa kudzipha ndibwino kwambiri. Komabe, "kuunikiridwa" pa msinkhu uno ndi weniweni. Amuna achikulire sakhala opanda pake nthawi zonse ndipo m'mitundu yonse amawoneka kuti ali anzeru.
N'zosatheka kuonetsetsa kuti kusokonezeka maganizo kwa munthu kumayambitsa zaka. Komabe, ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti vutoli, monga chirichonse mu moyo uno, liri ndi mapeto ake. Ndipo momwe zidzakhalire zimadalira inu nokha. Zingayambitse magawo awiri osatha komanso gawo latsopano losangalatsa m'moyo.