Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu wamkulu, ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama kwa mtsikana? Funsoli ndi lodziwika kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire. Inde, mayi aliyense akufuna kumvetsera, zomwe siziwonetsedwa muuzimu, koma komanso mu ndege. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mnyamata wokondedwa amayenera kutulutsa chinachake kapena kuyika zinthu. Komabe, tiyeni tiyesere kuyankha funsoli, ngati munthu wamkulu, ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama kwa mtsikana?
Chabwino, choyamba, nthawi zonse amavomereza kuti ndi mwamuna yemwe ali woyang'anira wamkulu m'banja. Aliyense amadziwa kuti kamodzi mkazi atagwira ntchito yokhayo ya mwiniwake wa nyumbayo. Ndipo ntchito ya amuna inali kupeza ndalama za nyumba, banja, ndi mkazi wokondedwa. Mnyamata aliyense amafuna kuti chibwenzi chake chikhale chokongola komanso chosasunthika. Ndicho chifukwa chake akuyesera kumugulira chokongoletsa ndi chovala. Inde, zonsezi zimadalira mphamvu zachuma za mnyamatayo. Mwamunayo ndi wamkulu, choncho, mwachiwonekere, ali ndi mwayi wambiri. Koma, komabe, ndi bwino kusiyanitsa mgwirizano womwe mkazi alowa nawo kuti apindule ndi ndalama, kuchokera pachibwenzi pamene amangokonda munthu wamkulu kuposa iye kwa zaka zingapo. Ngati tikukamba za chikondi chenicheni, ndiye kuti mkazi samasowa munthu kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama. Ndipo, kwenikweni, alibe chifukwa chochitira zimenezo. Mwamuna wokonda nthawi zonse amayesera kuchita zabwino. Ngakhale ngati ali wophunzira akugwira ntchito ziwiri, mnyamata amayesa kusunga ndalama kuti agule mphete kwa okondedwa ake, kapena mizimu.Ngati mkazi akuganiza za kufunsa achinyamata kuti apatse mphatso, ndiye kuti ali ndi ndalama zokwanira ndipo amamuwona kuti ali ndi mpata wokalandira zina. Kapena, mnyamatayu ndi wamisala, yemwe amamvera chisoni mkazi wake chifukwa cha ndalama zina. Pachifukwa chachiwiri, msungwana ayenera kuganizira zomwe zikuchitika. Ngati akufuna kugwirizanitsa moyo ndi munthu wotero, ndiye kuti ayenera kumvetsa kuti, mwinamwake, mwamuna sangagwiritse ntchito ndalama zambiri pakhomo, pa chakudya, kapena pa mwanayo. Inde, pali skuperdya ndi skrugi, zomwe zimagwedeza pa ndalama iliyonse. Anthu oterewa amagwiritsa ntchito ndalama monga cholinga, osati monga njira yotembenuzira moyo maloto ndi zikhumbo za anthu oyandikira. Amapindula chifukwa cha mphoto, amaika ndalama mabanki ndikugulitsa ndalama zogulitsa nyumba zomwe sagwiritsa ntchito, zilizonse, Mulungu amaletsa, palibe chomwe chinachitika, ndipo ndalamazo sizimatenthe.
Amuna amenewa ndi ovuta kukonda, ndipo kukhala nawo ndizovuta kwambiri. Pafupi ndi mwamuna wotere, mkazi ayenera kuganizira nthawi zonse momwe angadzipezere yekha ndalama komanso ana, kuchita zabwino, kukwaniritsa chikhumbo china. Amuna omwe ali ndi malingaliro ofanana, owopsa, pragmatic ndi anzeru. Iwo sawona mfundo pakupereka mphatso kapena kupanga zodabwitsa zochepa. Amalongosola khalidwe lawo chifukwa cha kusowa chiyembekezo kwa zochita zoterozo, chifukwa sapeza phindu lililonse kuchokera kuzinthu zoterezi. Makhalidwe abwino ndi malingaliro kwa anthu otere sizofunikira ndi zofunikira. Chinthu chachikulu kwa iwo ndi ndalama za nkhaniyi. Ngati munthu sangathe kubweretsa phindu la ndalama, ndiye kuti sikuyenera kulipira. Zofanana za khalidwelo, mwa njira, zimakhala ndi abambo akulu. Pakati pawo, amuna ambiri amalonda omwe adziwa kale kukoma kwa ndalama, adalowa muwombera ndipo sangathe kuima.
Choncho, ngati mayi ayamba kukwatirana ndi bizinesi wodalitsika, kuyembekezera kuti akhoza kumusandutsa moyo kukhala paradaiso, zimachitika kuti wakhumudwa kwambiri, chifukwa munthu ndi wovuta kuposa wophunzira wosauka.
Inde, mwamuna ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama pa mkazi wake wokondedwa. Ndipo iye, nayenso, ayenera kumupatsa mphatso ndi kupanga zodabwitsa zokondweretsa. Mu ichi, chikondi chaumunthu chikuwonetseredwa. Palibe chachilendo kuti wina akufuna kuwapatsa wina chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo chabwino. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya ndi mphatso yanji. Chikondi chimayesedwa osati ndalama, koma mwa chidwi. Nthawi zina positi ikhoza kukhala yotsika mtengo kuposa galimoto. Chinthu chachikulu ndi zomwe zimaperekedwa mphatso.
Sikuti anyamata onse ali osokonezeka. Pali anthu amene nthawi zonse amayesa kukondweretsa chinachake ndikudabwiza okondedwa awo. Mwa njira, musati musokonezeke ndi chikhumbo chogula malingaliro. Pamene mwamuna afunsa mkazi kuti asiye ndi kuvomereza kukhala ake, ndi zosiyana kwambiri ndi pamene mnyamata akungosonyeza chikondi chake mwanjira iyi.
Mwamuna uyu nthawi zonse amapeza mwayi wokondweretsa wokondedwa wake pang'ono pang'onopang'ono, kuchepetsa filimu kapena cafe. Palibe amene akunena za kuti nthawi zonse mumafunika kukaona malo odyera okwera mtengo ndikusangalala ku Maldives. Koma mowa ndi mbewu kwa mtsikana wokondedwa mwachiwonekere sizimasonyeza malingaliro omwe mayi wachibadwa amayembekeza. Mwina, ndichifukwa chakuti achinyamata ambiri amakono sakufuna mwayi kuti amvetsere kwa mtsikanayo ali ndi mphatso ndipo funso likuwoneka: ngati mwamuna wamkulu, ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama kwa mtsikana? Mwina, posankha mnyamata wokalamba, msungwanayo amayesa kupeza munthu amene angapereke pang'ono. Ndipo, kaŵirikaŵiri, nkhaniyo sichiti za mzimu wazimayi. Momwemonso mzimayiyo akuyang'anitsitsa msilikali ndi getter yemwe angathe kudyetsa ana ake. Ichi ndicho chofunikira cha chikhalidwe cha akazi. Choncho, achinyamata ayenera kulingalira za momwe amalipira kwambiri amayi awo komanso mmene amasonyezera malingaliro awo. Sikuti amayi onse amasankha mnyamata chifukwa cha luso lake. Koma, ngakhale zili choncho, mkazi aliyense amafuna nthawi zina kuti alandire maluwa a maluwa kapena maluwa osangalatsa osati kulemekeza holide, koma monga choncho. Monga chisonyezo cha chikondi chake ndi chisamaliro chake.