Kusanthula njira yanu, zolephera zanu ndi zochitika zanu, munthu mwadzidzidzi amadziŵa kuti, ndi mawonekedwe ake omwe anali atakhazikitsidwa kale ndi olemera, umunthu wake suli wangwiro. Zikuwoneka kuti nthawi yawonongeka, zomwezo ndizochepa poyerekeza ndi zomwe zikanatheka. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kuyesedwa kwina kwa makhalidwe kumachitika, munthu amayang'ana mozama "I" wake. Munthu amadziwa kuti zinthu zambiri m'moyo sizingasinthidwe. Simungasinthe nokha: kuphunzitsa, kusintha ntchito, kusintha moyo wanu wokhazikika. Vuto la thirties nthawizonse limanyamula ndi kufunikira kofunika "kuchita chinachake". Zimasonyeza kusintha kwa munthu ku msinkhu watsopano - siteji ya munthu wamkulu.
Kodi vuto la zaka makumi atatu ndi liti?
Ndipotu, vuto la zaka makumi atatu mu amuna ndi akazi - lingaliro lovomerezeka kwambiri. Matendawa akhoza kubwera pang'ono kapena pang'ono, ngakhale zimachitika kangapo, ndi ziphuphu zazing'ono.
Amuna nthawi zambiri amasintha malo awo ogwira ntchito kapena kusintha moyo wawo, koma kuika ntchito zawo pa ntchito ndi ntchito sikungasinthe. Cholinga chachikulu chosinthira malo akale a ntchito ndi kusakhutira kwakukulu ndi chinachake mmalo mwamba - malipiro, mkhalidwe, kukula kwa ndandanda.
Akazi panthawi yamavuto a zaka makumi atatu nthawi zambiri amasintha zinthu zomwe amadziika okha kumayambiriro kwa akuluakulu awo. Akazi, omwe poyamba adakwatirana ndi kubadwa kwa ana, tsopano amakopeka ndi zolinga zamaluso. Anthu amene adapereka mphamvu zawo zonse kuti aziwongolera okha ndipo ntchito yawo imayamba kuwatsogolera pachifuwa cha banja.
Kupulumuka mavuto oterewa kwa zaka makumi atatu, munthu amafunika kulimbikitsa chikhalidwe chake mu moyo watsopano, kutsimikizirika momveka bwino kuti ali ngati munthu wobatizidwa. Amafuna kukhala ndi ntchito yabwino, amayesetsa kukhala bata ndi chitetezo. Munthu akadali ndi chidaliro kuti akhoza kuzindikira bwinobwino ziyembekezo zake ndi maloto ake, ndipo amayesera kuchita zonse.
Zomwe zimakhala zovuta komanso zochitika pazovutazi zingakhale zosiyana. Zimadalira chikhalidwe cha munthuyo. Izi zingakhale kumverera kwachisokonezo chamkati, kuphatikizapo kusintha kofewa, kopweteka. Zingakhale ziwonetsero zamantha, zowonongeka kwambiri ndi zilakolako zakuya, zomwe nthawi zina zimayambitsa kukangana koyambirira. Vutoli likuphatikizidwa ndi kumverera kwakukulu, ngakhale kumayambitsa matenda. Matenda omwe amapezeka nthawi zambiri ndi opanikizika, kusowa tulo, kutopa kwanthawi yaitali, mantha owonjezeka, mantha osiyanasiyana osasokonezeka. Kuphweka kovuta kwa vutoli kumadalira momwe munthu angathandizire kuthetsa mavuto ake.
Kusiyana pakati pa vuto la amuna ndi akazi
Kupyolera muvutoli, amuna ndi akazi amapita kumlingo womwewo, zomveka zawo zimangosinthidwa. Psycholoji ya anthu imalunjikanso ku chitsimikizo mu ntchito. Kawirikawiri malo osankhidwa a ntchito akusiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zingawathandize kuti apambane. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, zaka 30 zokondwerera mwamunayo zimagwirizana kawirikawiri ndi kusintha kwa zolinga ndipo palokha palinso funso la kudzidzidzimutsa - kodi ndimagwirizana ndi zifukwa izi, ndine yani pakalipano tsopano ndi chiyani chomwe ndikuyesera m'tsogolomu?
Pambuyo pa zaka 30, amai akuwerenganso zomwe amachita. Azimayi, amene zaka zazing'ono anali kuganizira za ukwati, kubadwa ndi kulera ana, tsopano akugwira nawo ntchito zambiri. Pa nthawi yomweyi, omwe poyamba ankagwira ntchito, monga lamulo, yesetsani kupanga banja mwamsanga ndi kubereka ana.
Kudzidalira kwakukulu ndi kumvetsetsa luso lanu, komanso kukhazikitsidwa kwa madandaulo okwanira malinga ndi zochitika pamoyo wanu, kumapatsa munthu kukhutira. Anthu sakhulupirira kuti ali ndi chozizwitsa, koma adzisankhira okha: "Kupambana kwanga kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi kuchuluka kwa khama lomwe ndikufuna kuchita izi." Kusunga nthawi yanu yaulere, zokonda zanu zomwe mumazikonda zimakulolani kuti muzindikire kuthekera kwa munthu m'moyo. Kupita kumalo osapeŵeka a zaka 30 kumapangitsa munthuyo kusintha moyo wake mwadzidzidzi komanso molimbika, kuti athetse zolinga komanso zofunikira patsogolo. Zaka makumi atatu ndi zaka za kukula, umunthu wa umunthu. Ino ndiyo nthawi yomwe kusintha kwa mfundo za moyo ndi zolinga kumatheketsa kukwaniritsa ngakhale zolinga zabwino kwambiri.
Mavuto a maganizo ndi zamaganizo
Zochitika zamaganizo za m'badwo uwu (malinga ndi ntchito ya machitidwe onse a thupi) zimagwirizana kwambiri ndi maganizo. Physiologically, mwa amayi ambiri a zaka makumi atatu (pafupifupi 65%), kugonana kwachiwerewere kumafika pa chitukuko chonse. Pa mlingo uwu, udzakhala kale zaka pafupifupi 60. Zoona, mwa amayi ena pali kuchepa kwakukulu kwa chikhumbo, makamaka pafupi zaka 40. Mwa amuna, komabe, kufunikira kwa moyo wogonana ndipamwamba pamakhala zaka 25-30. Ndiye pali kuchepa pang'ono. Ndicho chifukwa chake akazi ambiri a zaka 30 akudandaula kuti amuna awo ali otanganidwa kwambiri, ngakhale ali pabedi pabedi, ndipo pambuyo pa zaka 30 nthawi zambiri amangodandaula kuti amuna awo sagonana mokwanira.
Kunja, achikulire, anthu azaka makumi atatu azaka zapakati akukula. Mwachilengedwe chawo, iwo amatha kuonedwa ngati achinyamata, osadziwa ngakhale izo. Chifukwa chake, achinyamata omwe adalenga banja pakati pa zaka 30-35 sakuyembekezeratu chiyambi cha moyo wa banja, komabe ndi mavuto omwe amapanga. Ndi pa nthawi ino yomwe mikangano yosavuta kwambiri pazochitika zaumwini ikuwonetseredwa.