Kulemba-kusokonezeka kwaukwati, momwe mungapewere izo?

Kotero, izo zinachitika, inu munaperekedwa, ndipo patapita kanthawi mwambo waukulu waukwati unatsatiridwa. Ndipo chirichonse chikanakhala chabwino: ndi inu mulipo mwamuna wa maloto anu, pali nyumba yanu, koma pali chinachake cholakwika, ngakhale palibe chifukwa cholira ndi chisoni.
Ngati simunakhale ndi ukwati ndiye kuti mudzatha kupewa zolakwa zambiri, komanso kupewa kupezeka kwachisokonezo chaukwati. Malingana ndi chiwerengero cha chiwerengero, ndi mwezi woyamba wa moyo wokhudzana ndi anthu omwe angokwatirana kumene amakumana ndi zokhumudwitsa zambiri, zogwirizana ndi kusiyana pakati pa ziyembekezo ndi moyo weniweniwo.

Ukwati ndi, mosakayikira, chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wa munthu aliyense, ndipo nthawi zina izi zimakonzedwa osati mwezi umodzi, koma mwambo wapamwamba kwambiri iwo amakonzekera miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ndi chaka. Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti ukwati umasanduka cholinga chofunika kwambiri pa moyo, atakwaniritsa ndi kuzindikira kuti, munthu amamva chisokonezocho, chifukwa ndiye sakuwona cholinga chochititsa chidwi pamaso pake.

Ukwati umatha masiku 1-2, kotero kuti pambuyo pa chikondwerero ichi, nsonga yaukwati isabwere, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuganizira pazinthu zotsatirazi za moyo wanu komanso kuti musaganizire kuti tchuthilololololoka. Pamene mukukonzekera ukwati, musaiwale za moyo wanu wamba, kuyankhulana ndi anzanu, chitani zofuna zanu.

Pambuyo paukwati, ndibwino kuti nthawi yomweyo mukhale ndi phwando laukwati, monga akunena kuchokera ku holide kupita ku mpira. Pa nthawi yachisangalalo, kupuma ndikubwera ndi zolinga zatsopano za moyo. Inde, mukhoza kuyang'ana mavidiyo ndi zithunzi kuchokera kuukwati, koma simusowa nthawi yambiri kuti musamangoganizira, musathamangitse zakale, muyenera kuganizira zam'tsogolo ndi kukonzekera kwake.

Kuti mupange chiyanjano mu ubale mukhoza kupita kwa wovala tsitsi ndi kusintha kwambiri tsitsi lanu, potero mudzapanga zachilendo.

Kawirikawiri, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti pambuyo paukwati, moyo wokhudzana umangowonjezera chikondi, komatu ndi momwemo, koma munthu ayenera kukhala wokonzekera kuti mwamuna weniweniyo sangakhale wabwino ngati pamisonkhano, makamaka ngati mulibe mgwirizano chidziwitso. Ndikofunika kuti mupeze zosokoneza.

Pambuyo pa chikondwerero chaukwati, tsatirani njira ya moyo yomwe munali nayo musanafike. Ngati mudali kudya, pitirizani kuwatsatira, pita nawo masewera - ngakhale bwino. Mwamuna amakonda zakudya za mafuta ndi zapamwamba? Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kudya chimodzimodzi. Kawirikawiri, chitani chilichonse chomwe chinkachitika musanakwatirane, musadziponyetse nokha ndipo musakhale mayi wamba wamba (musaiwale kuti muzichita zomwe mwamuna wanu akubwera kuchokera kuntchito). Pangani zodabwitsa kwa mwamuna wanu, mumusokoneze, koma mosamala.

Akazi ndi ovuta kwambiri pa ukwatiwu, kwa amayi ambiri kuyambira ali mwana, cholinga chofunika kwambiri pa moyo ndi madiresi oyera ndi kalonga pa kavalo woyera, kotero n'zosadabwitsa kuti akazi oterewa atatha ukwati sakusangalala. Pambuyo paukwati, musamaletse mwamuna wake kulankhula ndi anzanu, ndipo musaiwale za anzanu.

Pambuyo paukwati, nthawi yatsopano imayambira mu moyo wa munthu aliyense, yomwe thupi limasowa nthawi kuti asinthe. Moyo wothandizana siwophweka komanso wowala, monga ukuwonekera poyamba. Moyo wa banja ndi siteji yatsopano pamoyo wa munthu ndipo zimatengera nthawi kuti ufanane nazo, kotero ngati simudandaula pambuyo paukwati, chisokonezo ichi chidzatha posachedwa.

Monga momwe mukuonera, kusokonezeka kwaukwati pambuyo pake sikuli koopsa, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kudziwa momwe mungapewere, kapena kuchepetsa zotsatira zake.