Mwina, kuti mukhale kholo labwino, muyenera kuyamba kuphunzira izi? Tinayamba, mwachitsanzo, kukonzekera amayi ndi abambo amtsogolo kuti abereke mwana. Komabe, mutangoyankha mafunso okhudzana ndi thanzi la mwanayo, mukhoza kukhala ndi mafunso ena ovuta, omwe simukupeza yankho nthawi yomweyo:
"Kodi ndimachita zonse bwino?","Kodi sindimamupweteka kwambiri?",
"Kodi izi zafotokozedwa bwanji kwa mwanayo?",
"Kodi ndiyenera kuchita izi?".
Mafunso onsewa ndi achilengedwe. Nthawi zambiri sagwirizana ndi chikhumbo chanu chofuna kudziyesa nokha pa udindo wa amayi, koma zimayambitsidwa ndi chilakolako chodziwikiratu chothandizira mwanayo pa chitukuko chake komanso kusadziŵa bwino momwe angachitire.
Choonadi chosadziwika
Mwamwayi, mabungwe a padziko lonse alibe. Chimene chiri chabwino kwa mwana mmodzi chingakhale chovulaza kwa wina. Chimene chimagwirira ntchito bwino kwa makolo ena sichigwira ntchito kwa ena. Chowonadi chokhacho chokha chimene palibe kukayikira ndi chakuti inu ndi mwana wanu muli amoyo omwe amatha kuwona ndi kumva wina ndi mzake, kumverera wina ndi mnzake, kukhala opanda ungwiro, kukwiya, kukhululukira, chinachake choti chisinthe kuzungulira iwe ndi iwe mwini.
Wothandizira kwambiri
Koma mungasamalire bwanji mwanayo? Choyamba, ndi bwino kunena ndekha kuti mayi wabwino kwambiri ndi amene mwanayo ali nawo, chifukwa ali ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri: ndi kugwirizana ndi mwana uyu ndi chikhumbo choti asamalire. N'zoona kuti si aliyense amene samvetsetsa momwe angachitire, koma kholo lililonse ndi mwana aliyense amatha kusintha okhaokha. Pambuyo pake, mwanayo amakhalanso wokondwa kwambiri kumva ndi kumvetsa! Kotero ubale wanu ndi mwana wanu wamwamuna kapena mwana wanu ndiye mlangizi wabwino kwambiri. Ngati mukulankhulana nawo simumayesetsa kukhalabe pa "msinkhu" wamaganizo-mlingo wamalankhulidwe, koma okonzeka kuyankhula m'chinenero chawo chakumverera ndi thupi, ana omwewo adzalimbikitsa momwe angawasamalire. Ngati mumadalira maubwenzi anu ndikudalira iwo, ndiye kuti simukusowa kuti muwononge pafupi ndi mwanayo nthawi zonse, popanda kumuchotsa maso. Mwanayoyo amadziwa nthawi imene akukufunani, ndipo atakonzeka kukulolani kupita. Muyenera kungowapatsa zosoŵa zake, ndipo ngati chinachake chikulakwika, vuto lanu la makolo likuposa kuposa wina aliyense amene akuyang'anitsitsa adzakuyang'anirani, mvetserani, mutenge zofunikira.
Musaope zolakwa!
Ngati mwakonzeka kuzindikira kuti ndinu opanda ungwiro, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mulole mwanayo azindikire. Pokhapokha payekha iye sangawope kutsutsidwa kapena kukanidwa ndipo adzaphunzira kulankhula za iye mwini ndi zomwe sakonda ndi zomwe akudandaula. Kotero zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mumuthandize kuti apulumuke chinachake chomwe sichingasinthidwe, ndikuphunzitseni momwe mungagwirire zilakolako zanu zosagwirizana ndi anthu m'njira yosasokoneza aliyense. Mwana wanu, mofanana ndi inu nokha, adzakumbukira zolakwa, manyazi, chisoni. Sipadzakhala njira ina kuti iye akule. Komabe, mu mphamvu zanu kuonetsetsa kuti ubale wanu ndi wofunika kupulumutsa, ndipo mwanayo amamvetsa tanthauzo lenileni la zikhalidwe zomwe mukuziyika mwa iye.