Nkhani zokhudzana ndi ulamuliro wa amai zakwaniritsidwa kale ndi oskomu. Mwamuna yemwe ali pansi pa chidendene cha mkazi wake akuwonekera mochuluka ngati mawonekedwe achilengedwe a maubwenzi m'banja. Izi siziri zatsopano. Kumayambiriro kwaumunthu, kubadwa kwa amayi kunali kofala kwambiri pakati pa anthu. Amazoni otchuka sizinayambidwe ndi olemba akale. Amuna achikulire amasiku ano amachokera ku ulamuliro wa amayi pa maphunziro. Ndipo m'matchalitchi, ndi kusukulu, ndi m'banja, maphunziro a anyamata amapangidwa makamaka ndi amayi. Amuna akupereka nthawi yambiri yogwira ntchito ndi zosangalatsa. Ndipo anawo amangoyang'anitsitsa pang'onopang'ono. Mafuta mumoto anatsutsa chiwerengero cha mabanja osudzulana ndi kuleredwa kwa ana ndi amayi amasiye.
Komabe, chifukwa cha kulamulira kochuluka kwa akazi kumakhalanso ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Azimayi akhala akuyesetsa kukhala omasuka ndi odziimira okhaokha. Iwo anasintha miinjiro kuti apange mathalauza, zikhoto zonyekedwa, anayamba kulemetsa ndi bokosi. Azimayi amakhala ndi maudindo akuluakulu komanso amakhala ndi bizinesi yawo. Iwo akhala akuyesa kwa zaka zana kuti atsimikizire kuti palibe chinthu chokhacho chachimuna. Choncho, kumasulidwa kwa zaka mazana za kusayeruzika kunayambitsa zochitika zomwe akazi anakhala amuna.
Kodi ndi zabwino? Kaŵirikaŵiri ulamuliro wa mwamuna kapena mkazi m'banja sichimathandiza kuti ubale ukhale wogwirizana. Komanso, izi sizikondweretsa mwamuna kapena mkazi. Pa mbali imodzi, nthawi zina ndi bwino kuzindikira kufunikira kwanu. Koma, mbali ina, kulimbikitsidwa nthawi zonse kwa udindo pa zosankha zomwe mwasankha. Palibe njira yofunsira, kufufuza zolakwa zanu, ndipo potsiriza, "kulira ndi chovala." Kulamulira kosalekeza kwa mkazi pa mwamuna kumawononga khalidwe lake, lomwe limakhudza kwambiri utumiki ndi ubale wa banja. Ndipo kupanikizika nthawi zonse kumachepa thupi ndi thanzi labwino. Amuna omwe ali pamtundu umenewu, amapambana. Miyoyo yawo imakhala yotetezeka kwambiri. Pofuna kumvera ndi kukwaniritsa ntchito yaukwati, amalumikiza zabwino zitatu zomwe zimapindulitsa okha - mowa, sofa ndi TV. Inde, izi ndi nthabwala, koma amuna ambiri amadzizindikira okha.
Mwa njira, ulamuliro wa mkazi mu chiyanjano ndi mwamuna sizimuthandiza iye pakhomo pawo. Onse amatsuka, kusamba, kusamba, kubereka ana. Iwo alibe nthawi yokomana ndi abwenzi awo, ndipo wokondedwa alibe mphamvu zokwanira. Kulakwa konse kwa kunyada: Ndikhoza kuchita zonse ndekha! Sindikusowa thandizo la wina aliyense! Ndine wamphamvu ndi wodziimira! Kawirikawiri, amuna omwe ali ndi ulemu wawo, amalola mwadala malamulo a masewerawa, kuti asapezeke ndi zolaula ndi kuwunikira ubale wawo.
Komabe, funso limabuka, chifukwa chiyani mgwirizano woterewu uli wamphamvu ndi wokhalitsa? Kodi kuli kosavuta kufalitsa, monga sitima za m'nyanja? Ponena za amuna, chirichonse chiri chophweka. N'zosakayikitsa kuti ndizowathandiza kuti abisala kumbuyo kwa "abambo" omwe ali osalimba. Pamwamba pawo silemedwa ndi katundu wolemetsa, sichimakakamiza munthu amene ali ndi udindo m'banja. Iwo amatsogolera moyo wochulukitsanso komanso wochuluka. Ndi momwe mungafotokozere khalidwe la amayi? Mwinamwake, chifukwa chachikulu chokhalira ndi chiyanjano si chilakolako chofuna kulamulira. Ngakhale kuti ndi zovuta komanso kudzikonda, mkazi aliyense wabwino amaopa kusungulumwa! Iye sakufuna kuti asiyidwe, palibe yemwe amafunikira mkazi. Choncho, ndipo amalola kuti mwamuna wa "mutu wa mutu" akhale ndi ufulu. Gwirizanani, ngati moyo wa munthu pansi pa chidendene cha mkazi ukanakhala wosatsutsika, iye amusiya iye. Serfdom yatha nthawi yaitali.
Chifukwa cha nkhani zokhudza ulamuliro wa akazi, chithunzi cholakwika cha banja chimapangidwa. Kusakhala kofanana mu banja si chinthu chachilendo. Zinthu izi zikuwonetsa mavuto akuluakulu. Kaya chiyeso chokhala ndi kulimbikitsa utsogoleri wanu, simungathe kuchita izi. Mudzavutika ndi izi, choyamba, inu nokha. Koma makamaka - ana. Iwo mosadziwa amamenyera chitsanzo cha khalidwe la makolo. Ndipo akakula, amayamba kubwereza zolakwa za makolo awo. Atsikana adzakhala ovuta kukhazikitsa ubale ndi anyamata. Adzayesa kutsutsa malingaliro awo, osamvetsera zogwirizana za wokondedwa wawo. Ndipo anyamata amatha kukula msinkhu komanso osakondwa. Kumbukirani kuti banja liyenera kukhala gulu limodzi! Ngati "osewera" mmodzi akudwala, ntchito zake ziyenera kutengedwa ndi ena ndipo atuluke ku mavuto aliwonse a moyo.