Aliyense wa ife amamva kufunikira kwa chikondi, chitetezo, chidwi, kumvetsetsa, chifundo, ndiko kuti, zomwe tinkalandira kuchokera kwa makolo athu. Ngati izi sizinali m'banja la makolo, ndiye kuti chiyembekezo chikuwonjezeka kwambiri. Koma nthawi zina muukwati timakhumudwitsidwa chifukwa cha zoyembekeza zawo zokhazokha.
Choyamba, tidzakambirana za mavuto omwe amayi amakumana nawo: Amakonda kukhala okhudzidwa kwambiri pa banja komanso mwachizoloŵezi chokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Chimodzi mwa zolakwika ndi zofala kwambiri ndi kuyembekezera mwachidwi kuchokera kwa wokondedwa kuti iye adzakhoza kudzaza moyo wako ndi cholinga. Azimayi mwachilengedwe amatha kugwirizana ndi symbiosis - fusion. Akudikirira kukambirana kwa nthawi yaitali ndi osankhidwa awo. Koma pano pangakhale kusagwirizana. Chitsanzo: Mwamuna amagwira ntchito mwakhama kuti asamalire banja, ndipo mkazi amakhala wotanganidwa ndi banja. Akafika kunyumba madzulo, atatopa, samva ngati akulankhula. Ndipo wakhala akudikirira tsiku lonse kwa mphindi ino kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wake. Ali ndi moyo wokondweretsa, akungoyembekezera zochitika. Pali zodandaula, ndipo chifukwa chake, pang'onopang'ono adzadzimvera chisoni, ndipo iye - adzadziŵa kuti alibe kusowa kwake.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji mavutowa? Choyamba, nkofunikira kudziwa kuti ndiwe nokha amene ungapangitse moyo wako kukhala waphindu. Munthu wamkulu angapeze ntchito yomwe idzam'bweretsere chimwemwe. "Kukula" m'lingaliro limeneli sikuchedwa kwambiri. Lembani zolinga zanu ndi zokhumba zanu, muzizitenga mozama - muli ndi ufulu kuzigwiritsa ntchito. Mukhoza kupita kuntchito, ngakhale pa nthawi yeniyeni, kuti mutsirize maphunziro a chinenero chachilendo kapena kungodzifunira nokha zomwe mumakonda. Izi zidzalimbikitsa kulankhulana kwa banja: mutha kulankhulana osati pazokambirana zapakhomo, komanso za zomwe mwapeza. Ndi bwino kupeza ntchito yomwe ingagwirizanitse onse awiri. Ichi chidzakhala maziko a kuyankhulana kwathunthu.
Kulakwitsa kwina kwakukulu ndi utumiki kwa achibale, chikhumbo choti apereke moyo wawo kwa iwo. Mwa zolinga zabwino, amai nthawi zambiri amanyalanyaza zilakolako zawo, kusiya ntchito zawo zabwino. Zonsezi zimamangidwa ndi nthano kuti mwa njira iyi mukhoza kukhala mkazi wabwino komanso amayi abwino. Pokhala achangu kwambiri, nthawi zina zotsatira zosiyana zimakwaniritsidwa. Mwachitsanzo, Amayi amaganizira kwambiri za mwanayo ndipo amayamba kukhala ndi moyo wake. Muzinthu zonse amathandiza, amakondwera ndi mwana kapena mwana wake wamkulu kuti athawike nthawi yake, zofuna zake, makhalidwe ake. Chotsatira chake, mayi wotero amaukitsa munthu wamng'ono komanso wodzikonda. Ndipo pa nthawi yomweyi iye samadzizindikira yekha ngati munthu woyambirira, wolenga.
Kapena mutenge chitsanzo china - mkazi amadzipereka kwa mwamuna wake. Amangotuluka mkati mwake: Amawonera mpira pa TV, chifukwa amakonda mwamuna wake, amaphika zakudya zokhazokha, amanyamula katundu yense panyumba, ngakhale atakhala ndi vuto kapena amasamalira mwana. Poyamba, udindo wa mkazi, mayi, yemwe amadzipatulira mosiyana, amakondedwa ndi achibale ake. Koma pakhoza kubwera nthawi yomwe mkazi woteroyo sangakhale wosangalatsa kwa ana makamaka kwa mwamuna wake. Mukhoza kuyembekezera kuti adzapita kukafunafuna mkazi wina, wowala, kapena amudziwa mkazi wake ngati mtumiki. Pofuna kupewa izi, musadzikane nokha. Monga tanenera m'nthano yokongola ya "Cinderella", ndizoopsa kuti musapite mpira pamene mukuyenera. Yesetsani nokha, yonjezerani malire a dziko lanu ladziko. Mkazi yemwe amasangalatsidwa yekha, monga lamulo, ndi yosangalatsa kwa ena.
Nthawi zina mavuto athu amagwirizana ndi maganizo olakwika pa moyo wa banja. Kawirikawiri timawapeza ngati cholowa kuchokera kwa makolo, agogo ndi agogo. Ndipo, polenga mabanja athu omwe, timatenga nawo ngati dowry. Zokonzekera ndizo mfundo zomwe timatsatira, kukhulupirira kuti ndizoona zokhazokha, ndipo ndizovuta kuti tichotse, chifukwa zimachokera muubwana. Ndi omwe "amatiwuza ife momwe kumangidwe ndi kukonzanso maubwenzi abwino ayenera kukhazikitsidwa m'miyoyo yathu. Machitidwe sakhala otchulidwa nthawi zonse ndi makolo, koma amavomerezedwa ndi ana amene amangoona chitsanzo chokwatirana. Ngakhale sitimakonda chitsanzo ichi, nthawi zambiri timapanga ndondomeko ya banja limodzi.
Mwachitsanzo, mayi, powona momwe makolo ake amapita ku dacha mlungu uliwonse, amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti ayenera kuchita zomwezo ndi mwamuna wake. Iye sanazindikire kuti mwamuna wake anali ndi zosiyana kwambiri komanso kuti ankawona ulendo wopita ku dacha monga chiwawa, kuyesa ufulu wake. Ndipo adadabwa pamene adanena kamodzi kuti: "Ngati sitigulitsa dacha, ndimayesa kuti tithetse banja." Kapena, mwachitsanzo, vuto lina. Mwamunayo adawona momwe amayi ake angasunge masamba ndi zipatso chaka chilichonse. Kwa iye, ichi chinali chitsanzo cha khalidwe la woyang'anira wabwino. Iye adafunsanso chimodzimodzi kwa mkazi wake, powona kuti kulima ndi chimodzi mwa makhalidwe ofunikira kwambiri. Ndipo mkazi wake amadana ndi kuwuza. Iye anakumbukira momwe abambo ake agone agogo aakazi m'manja mwake, ndipo amakhulupirira kuti mwamuna wake ayenera kuchita chimodzimodzi kwa iye. Inde, mwinamwake, agogo ake aakazi anali ndi mwayi. Koma sikuti anthu onse amasonyeza chikondi chawo mu mawonekedwe awa, ena sangathe kunena mawu okonda.
Sitizindikira nthawi zonse kuti chilakolako chokwatira ukwati monga momwe timafunira chikugwirizana ndi malo omwe amafunikira kusintha, mwinamwake banja lidzagwa. Osati malo onse ali oipa. Koma nthawi zina amadza kutsutsana kwathunthu ndi maganizo a mnzanuyo ndi kuwaletsa kuti asamawone njira zina zothetsera vutoli, chifukwa njira yawo ikuwoneka kuti ndi yoona. Ngati zofananazo zimachitika m'banja lanu, ganizirani za malo omwe akuyendetserani. Ganizirani za inu nokha kapena ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, ngati n'zotheka kumanga ubale m'njira zosiyanasiyana m'banja. Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndi kuzindikira zomwe poyamba zinabisika kuchokera kumvetsa kwanu.
Ndipo potsiriza, vuto lina ndilokhalitsa moyo wa banja losakhazikika. Maganizo amasokonezeka, zachilendo zimatha, tsiku lotsatira lirilonse likufanana ndi lomwe lapita. Pokhala ndi moyo woterewu, wodzisangalatsa, pali kusowa kwakukulu kwa malingaliro atsopano. Onse akuwona maonekedwe omveka amalimbitsa ukwati. Yesetsani kubweretsa chinachake chatsopano, chachilendo pamoyo wanu. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti malonda atsopano ndi zokondweretsa azigwira anthu onse a m'banja. Izi zimagwirizanitsa makolo ndi ana, zimapangitsa ubale wawo kukhala wabwino. Mkwatibwi amathandiza nthawi ndi nthawi kuti abwerere ku nthawi ya chibwenzi, kukondana, pamene chithunzi chachilendo chimamveka ndipo kulankhulana sikungakwaniritsidwe nthawi iliyonse. Kumbukirani: Pa nthawiyi inu nonse munaganizira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito nthawi pamodzi. Komabe, muukwati, makamaka ngati kutalika kwa zomwe akukumana nazo ndizofunikira, bungwe la nthawi yopuma limodzi ndilo, limaloledwa kuthamanga. Koma sizongopanda kanthu kuti moyo wa banja ukufaniziridwa ndi moto, momwe m'pofunika kuponyera "nkhuni" nthawi zonse. Ndipo ang'onoang'ono pamoto, amayesetsa kwambiri kuti asunge.
Ngati kwa inu, kudzikweza ndi kugonana kwasokoneza maubwenzi apabanja - kubweretsani ndi zosankha za ntchito zochititsa chidwi. Zomwe sizichitika basi! Masewera omwe akuluakulu ndi ana angakhoze kusewera, maholide apabanja ndi mpikisano wosiyana siyana, chakudya chamakandulo chamakono, maulendo, kukwera mahatchi komanso kulumpha kwa parachute. Zoonadi, izi ndizomwe sizingagwirizanitse, koma ndizothandiza kwambiri, pamene zimatambasula miyoyo ya banja ndikukankhira kusintha. Kotero musakhale wamanyazi kuti muwonetsere malingaliro anu.
Lolani zonse zomwe zanenedwa zimakuthandizeni kuti muzichita nokha "ntchito pa zolakwa", kumanga ndi kusunga ubale wathanzi m'banja lanu. Pomaliza pake mfundo imodzi: musasunge zomwe mumakumana nazo. Mwachidziwikire m'mabanja onse muli "mafupa mu chipinda" - zinthu zomwe sizivomerezeka kuti zikambirane kuchokera ku zofunikira zonyenga pofuna kusunga mtendere ndi bata. Yesetsani kuyankhula pa nkhani zovuta - ndithudi, mwachangu mawonekedwe. Ndipo kumbukirani: sikuchedwa kwambiri kuyamba ntchito yowonzanso banja, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kusankha ndi kuchita.