Kumayambiriro kwa maubwenzi, kudzipereka kumayesedwa kwambiri. Inu mumakhala mukuyembekeza nthawi zonse, ndipo kupsompsona ndi mawu ndizokhalitsa. Kutseguka ndi kuwona mtima kumakhala pamodzi ndi chikondi. Ndi momwe mungatsimikizire kuwona mtima kwa kumverera?
Amamulamula munthu ndi mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Chikondi chimakupatsani inu kukhutira ndi ufulu wopanda malire. Pamene mumakonda kwambiri, mumakweza kwambiri. "Zikomo chifukwa cha zomwe uli." Choyamba, koma chifukwa chakuti mulipo m'dziko lino lapansi. Ichi ndicho chinthu chachikulu cha chikondi - kupezeka kwa munthu amene mumamukonda. Ndipo chifukwa cha iye chifukwa chakupatsani mwayi womva kukhalapo kwake.
Ngati muli ndi chikondi cholimba, ngati ichi chiri chofunikira kwa inu, ndiye simukuika malire ndi zoyenera. Koma ngati chikondi ndi chofooka, ngati ndinu munthu wofooka komanso malingaliro anu ndi osafunika, ndiye kuti mumayika zinthu zambiri zofunika: muyenera kukhala monga choncho, ndizo, ndi zina zotero. Zili zomvetsa chisoni kuti miyoyo ya anthu ambiri imakhalabe popanda iwo kukakumana ndi munthu wokhala nawo moyo ndi omwe angakhalepo moona mtima, poyera komanso moona mtima. Ndipo kutsimikizira kuwona mtima kwa munthu wina ndikovuta kwambiri. Koma sikungatheke kukhala wodzipereka kwathunthu ndi ena, koma osaphunzira kukhala wodzipereka kwathunthu ndi wekha. Ndipo izi zimadalira kale munthuyo mwiniwake.
Sitiyenera kuchotsa zokondweretsa, zoipa kapena zolakwika; Zonsezi sizosatheka, malinga ngati munthu amakhala pakati pa anthu, chifukwa chakuti anthu omwe amachititsa chilakolako, choyipa, kapena chabe cholakwika chomwe chiri gawo lalikulu la umunthu wa munthu, chomwe chiri chofunikira, sichiri cholondola. Munthu mpaka mapeto a masiku adzawonongedwa kuti adziwe kupanda ungwiro kwake. Ngati, ndithudi, savutika ndi megalomania ndi kudzikuza. Iye amayesa kutsimikizira aliyense kuti ndi woona mtima wake.
Munthu yemwe amadzimvetsa yekha amadziwa zomwe zili mumdima. Kuti, kawirikawiri, sikulepheretsa munthu uyu kuti apambane, kumasula, kupanga zinthu zokongola. Mfundo ndikuti mupeze tsatanetsatane ndi kufotokozera ubwino ndi zovuta zomwe muli nazo. Ndipo kuti aphunzire momwe angawasamalire ndi kupambana komweko, omwe sangawope kuti angatigwedeze kapena kutizembera kuti tisavulaze ifeyo ndi iwo omwe ali pafupi nafe. Kuchokera kutalika kwake kwa chitukuko chanu, wina akhoza kuona zolephera zawo popanda mantha kuti adzalandire mphamvu, chifukwa zimakhala zovuta kutseka maganizo okhwima. Kutsimikizira kuwona mtima kwa malingaliro a munthu wanzeru ndi kophweka. N'zotheka, kwa nthawiyi, kuwayang'ana, nthawi zina amalakwitsa, koma kuti kuthekera kwa kuwongolera n'kosavuta. Pambuyo ponse, mudziko lino, sitiganiza kuti tibise maganizo osokoneza kapena opanda pake, kapena osafuna. Podziwa kudziletsa nokha, mukuyesera kuwaletsa. Iwo sangatipangitse kuti tiwononge kenakake, choncho, tikawazindikira iwo, timawadzudzula, timawalekanitsa ndi iwo eni, kutsimikiza kuti iwo sali a ife, samagwira nawo mbali zambiri m'miyoyo yathu, samaoneka zambiri kuchokera ku ntchito zathu komanso mphamvu zathu. Komabe, timamvetsetsa kuti ndizofunikira kwambiri za anthu osamvetsetseka, osamvetsetseka, akapolo, omwe akuyimira ife chinthu chopanda pake, monga zonse zomwe timapereka ndi mphamvu za chirengedwe cha chirengedwe pamaganizo.
Kufalikira kwa kusakonda, kudzikonda, zachabechabe, kaduka kapena kusakhulupirika, kuyang'aniridwa ndi kuwona mtima kweniyeni, ndi duwa lodziwika bwino, lodziwika bwino. Kutseguka uku, monga moto, kumatsuka chirichonse chomwe chimakhudza. Zimalephera kuchita zinthu zoopsa ndipo zimapangitsa kuti anthu azichita zinthu zopanda chilungamo kwambiri, zopanda phindu, ngati chiwonongeko choopsa m'masewero a museum. Mphamvu yoyeretsa yakuzindikiritsa imadalira katundu wa moyo umene umalenga, ndi amene amadziwa. Kutsimikiza kuti kukhala paubwenzi wabwino ndikutseguka ndi kosavuta. Pokhala ndi malire ena, kuzindikira kwathunthu kumangowonjezera mlingo wa chikondi ndi chimwemwe chenicheni.
Tonsefe tikufuna kuyesetsa kuti tikwaniritse chikhulupiliro chokondweretsa, komabe ife tikuwopa kwa nthawi yaitali kuti anthu omwe amatikonda adzakula ozizira kwa ife tikawawululira chinthu chomwe sitingathe kudzivomereza tokha. Ife tikuganiza kuti kuvomereza uku kudzasokoneza kwathunthu fano lomwe iwo adalenga potipatsa ife. Ngati iwo aipotoza kwenikweni, izo zikanangotsimikizira kuti sitinali okondedwa ndi mphamvu zomwe ife timakonda. Ndipo kodi anthu ena angakhudzidwe motani kuwona mtima kwa malingaliro ndi zochitika? Ngati munthu amene avomereza kuvomereza kwanu sangathe kufika podziwa kuti mukufunika kukondana nanu chifukwa cha kuzindikira kwake, ndiye chikondi chake mosakayikira chimadalira kusamvetsetsana.
Palibe chifukwa choopera kuti kutseguka koteroko mu ubale pakati pa anthu awiri kudzatengera kuzizira kwa malingaliro ndi kuzindikira zolakwa za wina ndi mzake. Chofunika kwambiri, khulupirirani kuti izi ndizo, chinsinsi cha chikondi chimaululidwa kwa ife kokha kamphindi kowona mtima, chifukwa CHOONA cha anthu awiri ndi chopindulitsa kwambiri, chosatha komanso chozama kuposa momwe akunenera, kumangirira ndi kunama. Kuwona mtima kumverera ndikofunikira kwambiri muukwati.
Ndipo, potsiriza, simukusowa kudandaula kuti kutseguka kwanu kudzakhala kosavuta ndipo sipadzakhala chilichonse cholimbana ndi chiyanjano chanu, kuti kukhulupirika muukwati wawo sikungatheke. Mulimonsemo, kutseguka ndi kuwona mtima kumakhalabe zogwirizana, chifukwa kumvetsa kwa munthuyo kumasintha tsiku ndi tsiku m'moyo wake wonse.