Akatswiri a zamaganizo anatsimikizira kuti palibe chilungamo. Chabwino, osakwatirana. Kupititsa patsogolo, kupereka kwa dzanja ndi mtima ndizochitapo kanthu mwamsanga kwa ena ku khalidwe lathu. Ndipo ngati chidziwitso chathu chinagwirizana ndi momwe ena amaonera, mavuto ambiri adapewa. Simain Wazer, yemwe ndi mkulu wa Laboratory for Personality and Self-Knowledge ya University of Washington, anati: "Anthu amakhulupirira kuti amadziwa okha bwino, chifukwa amadziwa mbiri ya moyo wawo kuposa ena. Komabe, munthuyo alibe chochita ndi zakale. Icho chiripo mu chenicheni cha mphindi ino. " Sitikuganiza kuti timayang'ana kuchokera kunja: mwachitsanzo, kuti tili ndi zizoloŵezi zowonongeka kuti tibwerere ndikusokoneza interlocutor. Ngakhale zokopa zathu, nzeru, kusagwirizana, nthawi, nthawi zonse timaziona mopanda pake. Mukakhazikitsa malingaliro ndi ena, mutha kumvetsetsa nokha. Pambuyo pake, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, sitingathe kuwona zina mwa makhalidwe athu popanda thandizo kuchokera kunja. Pofuna kumvetsetsa mfundo zazikulu za malingaliro aumwini, Wazir akufuna kupereka bwalo logawidwa m'magulu anayi.
Zoonekeratu kwa aliyense
Pambuyo pokambirana nanu maminiti angapo, mungadziwe ngati ndinu ovomerezeka kapena wolowa manja, wokonda zinthu zakuthupi kapena wokonda kwambiri. Zofukufuku zatsimikiziranso kuti makhalidwe monga kusangalatsana amawonedwa mofanana ndi munthu komanso malo ake. Chimene sichikudziwika kwa inu kapena kwa ena. Kawirikawiri zolinga zosadziwika za khalidwe lanu zimalowa mmenemo. Mwachitsanzo, zilakolako zopweteka zikhoza kukhala chifukwa cha chikhumbo chotsimikizira makolo kuti akunyalanyazani inu mudakali ana.
Zofuna ndi maganizo
Iwo amadziwa bwino kwathunthu, koma ndi osawoneka kwa ena. Mumakhala wamantha mukakhala pamalo otanganidwa. Koma ena angaganize kuti muli chete pa phwando, chifukwa mukuganiza - palibe anthu oyenerera.
Chokondweretsa kwambiri kwa ife
Iyi ndi mbali ya umunthu wathu umene umadziwika kwa ena okha. Izi zimaphatikizapo zambiri zokhudza nzeru, kukongola, ubale, ulemu, nthawi. Pofufuza makhalidwe amenewa, nthawi zambiri timalakwitsa.
Nzeru
Makolo athu amafufuza nzeru zathu poyamba. Mawu oti "ndinu anzeru" akukhazikika mu malingaliro ndipo amapanga lingaliro la luso lanu laluntha. Pamene ikukula, ikuwonjezeredwa ndi lingaliro la aphunzitsi, aphunzitsi, abwenzi. "Kutamanda ndi kuyamikirika kumene timasunga mosamala mu mabini osadziwika, ndipo sitimatengera zolakwika," akulongosola katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi mphunzitsi wamalonda Irina Baranova. "Ndipotu, kusayera kumafuna kudzipangira tokha, ndipo timakhutitsidwa ndi ife eni." Zotsatira zake, timaganizira za nzeru zathu. Mu malingaliro aumunthu palikumenyana kosalekeza pakati pa "I" awiri: "Ndine wangwiro" ndi "Ndine weniweni". Maganizo athu kuyambira ubwana ali m'ndende kuti akhale moyo mdziko mwakuchita masewera apamwamba. Kuzindikira kuti ndiwe wopusa kwambiri kuposa ena ndi ofanana ndi kuvomereza kugonjetsedwa. Ndi chifukwa chake "ndine weniweni" m'maganizo athu nthawi zonse m'malo mwa "Ine ndine wangwiro". Izi ndi njira yotetezera. " Lingaliro limatsimikiziridwa ndi zotsatira za kuyesera ku yunivesite ya Washington. Ophunzira angapo anapatsidwa ntchito yolongosola molondola mtengo wa IQ wawo, ndiyeno apitilire mayeso. Zomwe anawonetsa ophunzira anali apamwamba kuposa ziwerengero zenizeni. Ndipo asayansi atapempha abwenzi kuti alingalire IQ ya maphunziro, mayankhowo anagwirizana ndi zotsatira za mayesero.
Kukongola
Zomwe timayesa zokhudzana ndi maonekedwe athu, ndizosavomerezeka. "Ndidali mwana, timawerengera nkhani za mafumukazi ndi maonekedwe abwino komanso maso a mlengalenga. Ndipo ife tinalota kuti tikhale chimodzimodzi. Pambuyo pake malingaliro athu okongola anali odzazidwa ndi chikoka chaukali cha wailesi. Tsopano ife tikukhulupirira moona mtima (ngakhale ife sitivomereza tokha) kuti milomo, tsitsi ndi maso ziyenera kukhala monga Angelina Jolie, Penelope Cruz ndi Uma Thurman. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi chitsanzo chokongola, ndipo tikhoza kudziwerengera nokha, "anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Karina Basharova. Pamene tikuweruza maonekedwe athu pa chiwonetsero chachisanu mu galasi ndi zithunzi zosapindulitsa, anthu oyandikana nawo akugwera pansi potipatsa mphamvu, nkhope, manja. Alena nthawi zonse ankawona tsitsi lakuda (lomwe iye ankawongolera ndi kuthira tsiku ndi tsiku) mwayi waukulu wa maonekedwe ake. Mpaka phwando lidamva zokambirana za abwenzi, omwe adakondwera ndi masewera ake ochezera ndipo adanong'oneza bondo kuti Alena akuyang'anitsitsa tsitsi lake.
Mwachilolezo
Pofuna kukhala ndi chidwi, kulankhulana, timasankha mosamala mawuwo. Koma pambuyo pa zonsezi, mawu omwewo akhoza kuwonetsedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana chifukwa cha zizindikiro, kuthamanga kwa liwu, kusuntha kwa minofu. Mfundo izi sizingatheke kumvetsa, koma zikuwoneka bwino kwa interlocutor. Kuonjezera apo, kulemekeza ndi nthawi ya chikhalidwe, kumadalira kwambiri mkhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe. Ndi munthu mmodzi, mungathe kunena moni, ndikufuula mokweza "Moyo uli bwanji?", Ndipo adzachita izi mokwanira, ndipo wina ayenera kulankhula ndi mawu otsika komanso kwa inu.
Kusunga nthawi
Anthu omwe sangakwanitse kuyenda nthawi ndizochepa. Koma bwanji, tachedwa? Irina Baranova amatsimikiza kuti: kuchuluka kwa nthawi nthawi iliyonse yolankhulana timapanga payekha. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kupita kukaonana ndi chibwenzi pa ora limodzi, koma pofunsidwa ndi ntchito yatsopano, muyenera kumawonekera theka la ora kale. Timagawanitsa anthu molingana ndi kufunika kwawo, ndiyeno timawaika patsogolo pazifukwa zosamvetsetseka: timayendetsa tsiku, ndikugogoda aliyense pa njira yawo, kapena molimba mtima kupita ku cafe yapafupi, ndikuiwala kuti adalonjeza kuti adzakhalapo theka la ola lapitalo. Christina anasankha bwenzi la yunivesite kwa asanu ndi awiri. Atafika mochedwa kwa ola limodzi, pang'ono ndi pang'ono mtsikanayo adatuluka m'sitilanti ndipo adayamba kale kusokoneza chikhululuko, koma mzakeyo adasokoneza kuti: "Osadandaula, ndikudziwa kuti mutachedwa. Kotero ine ndinafika pa eyiti. "
Nkhawa
Kawirikawiri munthu wamanjenje amadziyesa yekha. Mukhoza kugona ndi kuwala, kuthamanga ku nsalu zonse - ndikutsimikizirani: palibe chachilendo pa izi. Koma anthu omwe amamuzungulira amatha mantha kwambiri. Amapereka mawu ogwedeza, mawu osokoneza manja. Nkhawa ndi njira yoteteza. Munthuyo amachitira mwakachetechete pakakhala vuto lokaphwanya malo otonthoza. Vuto linanso ndilokuti kuopseza kungakhale kophweka. Kwa nthawi yaitali Lika sakanatha kugona m'nyumba yopanda kanthu. Pamene adagogoda pakhomo, msungwanayo, atanyamula chikwama cha mpira m'dzanja lake, adatsegula phokoso. Kodi ndikufunika kuti ndiyankhule za zomwe mnzanga wina wachita posankha ulendo wosayembekezera? Popeza nthawi zambiri timalakwitsa phindu lathu, ndikofunikira kumvetsa zomwe abwenzi, anthu apamtima ndi osadziwika amationa. Ntchito, kulankhulana, ubwenzi ndi chikondi zimadalira izi. Musanadana ndi dziko lonse lapansi, dziwone nokha: nthawi zonse mumalongosola malingaliro anu, malingaliro ndi zikhumbo zanu. Ndipo musaope kuvomereza zolakwitsa.