Pambuyo pake, kusayanjanitsika komwe sikuwonekera sikudzathera palokha - ndipo, popanda kukhala ndi mwayi wotuluka panja, kumatsogolera mphamvu yake yowononga mkati, malingaliro oipa a anthu ndi kunyenga.
Zaka makumi angapo zapitazi, ndi chitukuko cha sayansi ya psychosomatics, lingaliro lina likukhala lofala kwambiri: kufotokozera momasuka maganizo a wina (!), Zolakwika za umunthu ndi kunyenga. Tsoka ilo, anthu ena amakhulupirira kuti kukhala wotseguka kumatulutsa mavuto anu amtima kwa ena.
Ndondomeko zonsezi za makhalidwe oipa a munthu ndi kunyenga zimakhala zovuta, ndipo golidi kutanthawuza kumvetsetsa momwe iwo akumvera komanso kupeza njira yowonekera kapena kuwongolera zolakwika. Tikukupemphani kuti muzindikire momwe mungachitire ngati ziwonongeko zikuvutitsani inu, mwana wanu, kapena mukakhala mumtundu wachisokonezo.
Chikhalidwe cha malingaliro
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziŵa kuti chiwerengero cha maganizo osokoneza maganizo, mtima wa munthu ndi kunyenga kumakhala kosavuta komanso mokwanira kusiyana ndi chimwemwe: ichi ndichidziwikiratu cha psyche yathu, yokonzedwa ndi mbiri ya anthu. M'nthaŵi zakale mkwiyo, mantha, ukali zinali zofunika: ngati bwino, usakwiyire nkhondo isanayambe, sudzagonjetsa mdaniyo. Ndipo ngati simukuopa nthawi, simudzakhala ndi nthawi yoti mutuluke ku tiger. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, zovuta zomwe timakumana nazo ndizofunikira kuti titsimikizike, kuwonetsa dziko lathuli: kuseri kwa chisangalalo chokondweretsachi chimangowonjezera kuchepa kwaching'ono.
Komabe, tonsefe timavutika nthawi ndi nthawi, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, kupsa mtima, kukwiyitsa, kukhumudwa kwa munthu komanso kunyada. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti maganizo sayenera kutitsogolera, koma ife. Baibulo limati: "Musachimwe mukakwiya." Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kukwiya ndi zachibadwa kwa munthu. Komabe, ngakhale kukhala mumtundu uno, mukhoza komanso muyenera kuchita moyenera.
Phunzirani kukambirana
Dziwani kuti simungathe kukhalabe mu chikondi cha mtendere ndikusangalala ndi zonse zomwe zikukuchitikirani. Pali nthawizonse chinachake chomwe chingakupangitseni inu kuchoka mu chidziwitso. Komabe, zimadalira pa inu nokha, pa zomwe mudzatsogolere mphamvu zanu zamatsenga: kuwononga kapena ku chilengedwe. Choyamba, musayambe kuchita manyazi ndi zochitika zanu "zoipa", zolakwika za munthu ndi kunyenga - iwo ndi gawo lanu, ndipo muli nawo ufulu. Pamene zowawa zowopsya, yesetsani kufufuza zomwe zinachitika ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndi zochitika zotani zomwe zinachititsa kuti mkwiyo wanu, mantha anu kapena mkwiyo wanu uchitike. Tiyerekeze kuti mwamunayo anaiwala za tsiku la ukwati wanu ndipo mwakhumudwa. Komabe, zomwe zinayambitsa njira zoterezo sizinali zenizeni zenizeni za "amnesia" a okhulupirika, koma chifukwa chakuti inu, mwachiwonekere, munawona kuti simukufunikira ndi opanda pake. Ganizirani za momwe mungapewe mawonetseredwe oterowo m'tsogolo. Mwinamwake ndi bwino kukumbukira wokondedwa wanu za zikondwerero zomwe zidzachitike masiku angapo - ndipo ndizo mapeto ake? Ndipo asiye "kuganiza" kwa wokondedwayo: Iye amakukondani, koma amakayiwala za tsikulo!
Pewani mtima woipa wa munthu komanso mwano mwachangu. M'madera muli mitundu yovomerezeka ya khalidwe lachinyengo: mpira kapena msonkhano kumene mungathe kufuula pa zabwino zanu; mabokosi, kumene mungathe kuwombera wotsutsa pamtima; masewera osiyanasiyana a masewera. Pamapeto pake, pamene mukukangana, mukamaganiza kuti chinthu chosavomerezeka chiri pafupi kuchoka pamilomo yanu, muthamangire m'chipinda chotsatira ndikufuula mumtsamiro, kusambira bwino ndi mapazi anu opanda chifuwa kapena kukwapula chidole chofewa - mkwiyo udzatuluka kunja kwa thupi ndi fuseti kumenyana ndi okondedwa kungachepetse.
Ndikufuna kuwona zifukwa zomvetsa chisoni za munthu ndi kunyenga zimakhala zochepa? Yesani kuchita zolimbitsa thupi kuti inde inde. Kwa masiku osachepera atatu, yesetsani kukhala ndi mgwirizano wathunthu ndi zonse zomwe zimachitika m'moyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo, munaphwanya galimoto. Taganizirani izi, mwinamwake mwanjira iyi, Ambuye akutetezani ku zochitika zosautsa zambiri pa msewu. Pakalipano, galimotoyo idzakonzedwa, mukhoza kuchoka pamtunda tsiku lililonse kuti muyambe kuyenda mofulumira, muyimba nyimbo, ndi nyimbo zokondwera mchosewera - masabata angapo a maphunzirowa, ndipo sipadzakhalanso zovuta zowonjezera "mafuta"! Poyamba, kuchita "inde" wathunthu sikungakhale kosavuta, pangakhale kusokonezeka - musataye mtima, bwererani ku njira yolondola, mutangozindikira kuti mwasiya.
Kwa thupi ndi moyo
Sangalala, iwe wamwano!
Osakhutitsidwa kwamuyaya, okhumudwa mosavuta, anthu onse ndi ovuta onse amawoneka kuti akulimbikitsidwa ndi cholinga chimodzi: kukoka anthu kuchokera mwa iwo okha. Maganizo oterewa ali pa ntchito iliyonse komanso mu kampani iliyonse, mwa mawu, mulimonse. Iwo sangathe kuthawa kulikonse - koma inu mukhoza ndipo muyenera kuphunzira kukhalapo nawo.
Choyamba, dziwani nokha kuti musagwirizane ndi malingaliro oipa a munthu ndi kunyenga m'malingaliro a munthu wina. Mwamsanga mutangokwiya, yankho lakuthwa lija - yankhani kuti wotsutsayo wapindula: akukutulutsani. Inu simukuzikonda izo? Chitani zosiyana. Maseŵera onyenga, kumwetulira, phokoso labwino kungapangitse munthu kukhala ndi vuto lililonse. Mwa njira, iwe, mwamtheradi, susowa kuti upikisane ndi wolakwira mu wit ndi kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ndi mphamvu kupanga retort kwambiri mochititsa chidwi. Kodi simukudziwa choti munganene? Ingomumwetulira ndikugwedeza mapewa ako.
Munthu wokoma mtima amakhala wokhutira kwambiri komanso wodzitetezeka kwambiri kuposa yemwe nkhope yake imasokonezedwa ndi grimace anger. Zosangalatsa zimathetsa mavuto ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimathetsa vutoli - ndipo vuto losasangalatsa limataya mphamvu pa ife.
Ngati odzudzula ndi abusa akukumana ndi njira yanu nthawi zina, mumaganizira izi. Anthu osalongosoka ndi zochitika "m'mbuyo" mmoyo mwathu sizichitika: Msonkhano uliwonse, chilichonse (ngakhale chosasangalatsa) chingatiphunzitse chinthu chofunikira. Kuwonjezera apo, kuzungulira - izi ndi galasi lathu: zomwe zimakhudza anthu ena ndizo zomwe sitimavomereza ndipo sitingathe kudzikhululukira tokha. Ndipo mwinamwake otsutsa amawonekera mmoyo wanu kuti mutha kuphunzira momwe munganene kuti "ayi" ndi kuteteza malire a gawo lanu la maganizo? Pankhaniyi, muyenera kudziyesa - ngati munthu ali ndi chikhulupiliro chamkati, chiwerengero cha omwe akufuna "kukwera" pamutu mwake chimachepetsedwa.
Musakhale ndi cholinga chokhalanso wophunzitsa ena: makhalidwe abwino amakhala osangalatsa ndi okha, ndipo anthu okwiyitsa amachita ngati chigoba chofiira pa ng'ombe. Pamapeto pake, sitingasinthe dziko - koma tikasintha maganizo athu pa zomwe zikuchitika, zozizwitsa zimachitika!
Ngati mukumva kuti zokambiranazo zikusandutsa mkangano, zolakwika za munthu ndi kunyenga, yesetsani kuchoka kumalo osamvana: pansi pa zifukwa zomveka, mutuluke kwa mphindi zingapo m'chipinda. Ngati palibe njira yochitira izi, yesetsani kuchoka kwa wozunzayo, yambani kulankhula momasuka, mawu osamveka (mawu ochepetsera azimayi amawomba). Yesetsani kuti musayime (kukhala) mosagwirizana ndi otsutsana - ndi bwino kukhala pang'ono kumbali yake.
Kodi pali vuto? Pali yankho!
Nsanje ya anthu opambana kwambiri
Lekani kudziyerekeza nokha kwa ena! M'malo movutikira chifukwa cha kupanda ungwiro kwa moyo wanu, khalani patsogolo pakukulitsa zofunikira zanu.
Kuwonjezera kukayikira
Ndife tikuchitika zomwe tikuyembekeza, kotero tidziletsa kuti muzitha kupukusa mutu wanu. Phunzirani kudalira moyo.
Kuphwanya mapulani (magalimoto, kuchedwa, etc.)
Khalani osinthasintha ndipo, kumanga zomangamanga, nthawi zonse muziganiziranso mwayi wa ngozi zowopsya, zakukhumudwitsa kwa munthu ndi kunyenga. Tengani audiobook kapena galasi kuti mudzaze zomwe mukuyembekeza.
Zolinga zosayenera
Anthu ozungulira sangathe kulingalira zokhumba zanu - sizili telepaths. Choncho, adziwe zomwe mukufuna - mwamtendere komanso mosadandaula. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti anthu ena sayenera kukwaniritsa zofunikira zanu zonse.
Zosayembekezereka zamwano
Ambiri mumabasi kapena pamzere? Sungani ndi kuponyera kunja kwanu! Kodi mumakwiyitsa mukamavulaza banja lanu? Pewani pa chinthu chosangalatsa komanso osagwirizana kwenikweni ndi mkangano (mwamuna wowopsya adaperekedwa kuti azisakaniza, mwana wosamvera amasokonezedwa ndi nthano).
Vuto pa nthawi zonse
Nthaŵi ndi nthawi "mabwinja" amachitika kwa aliyense wa ife. Muyenera kukonza zinthu chikwi mwakamodzi, mumayesetsa bwino, mumayesedwa ndipo pamapeto pake mumamva kuti simungathetse vutoli. Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale pansi pa mapazi anu? Pumulani! Nthaŵi yochuluka ilipo, amene sakufulumira. Choncho lembani mndandanda wa zochitika zanu zonse, muwagawire mofunikira ndi mofulumira ndikuyamba ndi chinthu chimodzi. Kotero, popanda kufulumira mmwamba, sitepe ndi sitepe mudzachita ndi "zinyalala" zanu zonse.
Mwanayo samvera
Lero dzulo, omvera ndi okonda, lero kugwedezeka kunasanduka munthu wamakani, amene amayankha zonse zomwe munena: "Ayi". Ndi zachilendo - mu moyo wa anyamata aliyense ali ndi nthawi pamene akudutsa kukhala munthu. Kuphulika kwaukali ndi kusamvera kukuchitika
kwa ana ambiri, makamaka zaka zitatu, zisanu ndi chimodzi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri, komanso pa zaka zaunyamata. Ndipo komabe kuvomereza ndi tomboy wamng'ono ndi weniweni. Fufuzani zomwe zili m'banja, chifukwa khalidwe la mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi limakhala likuwonetsa microclimate m'nyumba. Kusamvera, kumenyana, amatsenga angakhale chifukwa cha maphunziro okhwima, "maphunziro" ankhondo, kukangana nthawi zonse pakati pa makolo kapena, mosiyana, kuzimitsa mtima kwa amayi kapena abambo. Pankhaniyi, kuti athetse vuto la maganizo oipa a munthu ndi kunyenga, makolo ayenera kuyambiranso, poyamba, njira yawo yolingalira.
Yesetsani kumvetsa malingaliro a mwanayo, kuti muyang'ane mkhalidwe wake ndi maso ake. Pamodzi ndi mwanayo, lembani nkhani ya nthano kapena mukambirane zojambulazo. Funsani mafunso awa: "Nchifukwa chiani munthu wamkuluyo amachita izi ndi zina zotero?", "Kodi akufuna chiyani?", "Kodi zimatengera chiyani kuti atenge zomwe akufuna?". Mayankho a karapuza adzakuthandizani kumvetsa zosowa zake zenizeni.
"Tsiku losiyana" ndi tsiku (mwachitsanzo, kamodzi pa sabata), pamene chirichonse chiloledwa: kuyenda masana pamasamamu, musamatsuke, musadye mano anu, kudya ayisikilimu a masana, kuponyera miyendo ndi kujambula ndi chikhomo cha amayi. Njirayi imalola mwanayo kuponyera mavuto, amachotsa zotsatira za chipatso choletsedwa, amalimbitsa chikhulupiriro pakati pa makolo ndi mwana wawo.
Monga chilango cha kukhumudwa kwa munthu ndi kunyenga, yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu. Inde, ndife tonse anthu ndipo amayi onse adachotsera kufooka kwake ndi papa. Komabe, musatengedwe ndi chilango cha chigamulo-pakadali pano, malingaliro a mwana wodalirikayo adzasokonezedwa: poyankha mphamvu, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zoposa, ndipo mudzakhala ndi maganizo anu. Kuli bwino ngati chilango, osati kukhumudwa kwa umunthu ndi kukhwima (kuima pa ngodya, kugwa ndi cuffs) kumagwiritsidwa ntchito, koma kutaya chinthu chabwino (kuyang'ana katoto, kugula chidole chatsopano, etc.).