Kukhala mayi ndi chimodzi mwa nthawi zazikulu za moyo wa mkazi aliyense. Kukhala mayi kuli bwino, koma posachedwa kapena mtsogolo, pamaso pa mkazi aliyense, kodi funso "kupasuka" mwa mwana kapena ...?
Patapita nthawi, mkazi aliyense amayankha funsoli. Amayi ena amasankha ntchito, ndipo ngakhale mwanayo asanakwanitse miyezi ingapo amalemba ngongole kapena amamuperekera ku sukulu yamasiye, panthawi imodzimodziyo amabwerera kuntchito ndipo ali ndi khama lachiwiri akuyamba kupanga ndalama kuti adziwonetse okha ndi kusowa ndalama.
Ena, mmalo mwake, amapita ku chigamulo ndikudzipereka kwathunthu kwa mwanayo, nthawi zambiri amaiwala za iwo okha, ndipo nthawi zambiri amayambitsa mawonekedwe awo. Ziyenera kumveka kuti mwana, ngakhale wamng'ono, amafuna nthawi yake, yomwe angathe kukhala yekhayo, mosasamala kanthu zakumveka kosavuta, chifukwa ana, omwe makolo amawakonda kwambiri ndikuwaika pamtima pa moyo wawo, nthawi zambiri amakula osati odziimira okhaokha.
Pali njira yachitatu - awa ndi amayi omwe samayesa kukhala amayi abwino okha, komanso amadya okha nthawi imodzi kumalo ena, monga lamulo, alibe zambiri, koma zimakhala zofunika kwambiri - musati muziwombera izi zoyambira.
Lingaliro la kulakwa pamaso pa mwana posakhalitsa kapena mtsogolo kumabwera mwa amayi onse, ngakhale omwe adzipereka kwathunthu kwa iye yekha. Mwachabe iye sanalandire, sanalandire, analipira nthawi yaying'ono, ndi zina zotero. kotero kuti kuchokera pa kumverera kwa kulakwa mwanayo asanatetezedwe ndipo nthawizina vinyo uyu siwamveka.
Lingaliro la kulakwa ndi mtundu wa chizindikiro chakuti chinachake chalakwika, chimapangitsa kanthu (kuimitsa vuto la konkire, kulikonza kapena kuyamba kuchita mosiyana ndi njira). Ngati munthu akukonza vuto limene akuganiza kuti liri lolakwika, ndiye kuti chilango chimatha. Ngati zinthu zili zosiyana, ndiye kuti kulakwa kumakhala kovuta. Lingaliro la kulakwa likukula ndikusanduka mliri, njira yopanda phindu yodzidyera, yomwe imabweretsa zopanda pake.
Zopereka za amayi omwe amakhulupirira kuti ndizolakwa ndizochepetsera lingaliro la chimwemwe cha amayi.
Maganizowa amayamba atabereka ndipo nthawi zambiri amasungidwa ndi achibale, amanyoza amayi omwe angopangidwa kumene kuti asamayang'ane bwino ndi ntchito za amayi ake.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuzindikira momwe akumvera ndikuyamba kulimbana nawo, chifukwa zimayambitsa chiyanjano pakati pa makolo ndi ana. Kugonjetsa kumverera kwachilungamo pamaso pa mwana, ndikwanira kungodzivomereza nokha mu kupanda ungwiro kwanu ndipo makamaka kofunika kuvomereza izo. Tsoka, amayi abwino salipo ndipo ichi ndi chowonadi, koma inu mukhoza kukhala mayi chabe, amayi abwino. Muyenera kulola nokha kulandira cholakwika. Muyenera kuphunzira kukhululukira osati ena okha, komanso nokha poyamba. Mayi aliyense ali ndi nthawi pamene amathyoka. Ngati izi zakhala zikuchitika, muyenera kupeza mphamvu kuti mudandaule kwa mwanayo.
Kumbukirani kuti mwana samasowa nthawi yambiri, udindo waukulu pano ndi momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawiyi. Ziribe kanthu kaya ndi maola angapo kapena maminiti angapo, zonsezi ndi za khalidwe. Ngati ndinu amayi ogwira ntchito, muyenera kufotokozera mwana kuti mwatanganidwa ndipo mudzatha kumupatsa nthawi yotsatira. Kotero inu mumamuphunzitsa mwanayo momwe angagwiritsire ntchito nthawi moyenera, ndipo izi zikhala zothandiza kwa iye mtsogolo. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti ana omwe anakulira m'banja limene amayi adagwira ntchito ndipo sanawapatse ana nthawi yochuluka, koma nthawi yomwe anapatsidwa kwa ana anali oyenerera komanso odzaza, osasamala amayi ndipo adakula bwino.