Ndipo kotero moyo wamakhalidwewo sungasokoneze malingaliro athu, tiyeni tidzifunse tokha funso "Ndiyenera kudabwa kangati mwamuna wanga wokondedwa?"
Ngati mkazi amakonda mwamuna, samayiwala kudzifunsa kuti: "Ndikofunika kangati kudabwa munthu wokondedwa kuti mum'kope?" Dalirani chidziwitso cha mayi, muzimva kuti mukufunika kudabwa ndi munthu wokondedwa komanso payekha payekha mkazi yemwe ali m'chikondi sangakhale wopanda yankho.
Iye ali wotanganidwa kwambiri, akulumpha kuchokera pabedi, ndiye akulowa mu bafa, apa mwamsanga amamwa kapu, osasaka samasikiti kuti ayambe kugwira ntchito. Musaiwale kumudabwa ndi m'mawa mwatsopano ndi kadzutsa kabwino, kudzuka pang'ono pang'ono. Njira yomwe sawona nkhope yogona ndi kupukuta tsitsi. Ayenera kudabwa kuona wokondedwa wake akuwala mwatsopano ndi wokonzeka kumusamalira. Musaiwale, amuna amakonda maso.
Kusadabwitsa mwamuna wanu sikuyenera "pamene kuli koyenera kudabwa", ndipo padzakhala zofunika. Ndiyeno malingaliro anu ndi zochita zanu zidzakhala zowona mtima ndikusonyeza chikondi, zomwe sizingatheke. Chikondi ndi pamene mumapereka, koma simukutero. Munthu wochenjera ndi wochenjera amvetse izi, ndipo ngati ayi, musayese.
Anabwera kunyumba atatopa ndipo anali wovuta. Mulole chakudya chamadzulo, chimene mwaganizira mosamala, chikhale chake kwa iye zomwe mungamudabwe mwamuna wanu wokondedwa. Sikofunika kuti chakudya chamadzulo chikhale mtengo kapena makandulo. Musaiwale, amuna amayamikira pamene akudyetsedwa bwino. Ndinadabwa naye ndi chinthu chatsopano komanso chokoma. Mwina kapu ya vinyo imamupangitsa kulankhula.
Ndi pamene mukuyenera kudabwiza munthu wanu kuti amvetsere mavuto ake onse, ngakhale atakhala ndi galimoto. Palibe wokonda kunyalanyazidwa. Khalani ndi chipiriro, chifukwa chimene mumayenera kumva ndi chimene munthu wokondedwa wanu amakhala nacho. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri kumaphunzira kumva osati zomwe akunena, komanso zomwe sanena. Mwinamwake mawu amvekedwe ake adzakuuzani kuti ndi nthawi yoti muchite zinthu zoterozo kuti muwononge chidwi chake mwa inu.
Khalani mbuye wanzeru, wokhoza kupanga manja kuti muzindikire zomwe mukufuna ndipo musamufunse funso: "Kodi mumadabwa kangati mwamuna wanu wokondedwa?" Pa kama, muyenera kumudabwa nthawi zambiri. Chikondi chenicheni chimamasula. Dzipereke nokha kumverera uku.
Zochita zowolowa manja, zomwe sizingatheke, zingakhalenso chifukwa chodabwitsa munthu. Musati muchite chirichonse chifukwa choti mukudabwa. Mwamuna akufuna kukhala ndi abwenzi? Onetsani kuti mumamukhulupirira, mumudabwitse ndi mowolowa manja ndikumasula. (Osati kwa nthawi yaitali!)
Ndinadabwa ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu pomupatsa mphatso zochepa. Musangopempha kanthu kalikonse, chifukwa izi zingayambitse nkhawa ndi nkhawa. Mtima wake wachikondi udzakupindulitseni moona mtima monga wanu.
Ndinadabwa ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu chifukwa chakuti simunangokonzeka kutsatira mapazi ake momvera, koma mukhoza kukhala mtsogoleri pokwaniritsa ntchito zina, kuthetsa mavuto, ndalama, komanso pabedi.
Ndiyenera kudabwa kangati wokondedwa wanga? Yankho apa ndi lophweka kwambiri - Inde, nthawi zonse. Muloleni inu mukhalebe kwa iye chinsinsi, cholinga cha lingaliro la chikhalidwe cha akazi. Lolani chiyanjano chanu chikhale chidziwitso chosatha ndipo lolani chikhumbo chodziwana wina ndi mnzake chisachoke m'mitima mwanu.