Zambiri zalembedwa bwanji zokhudza psychology ya maubwenzi pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna: nyanja ya mabuku, nyanja ya mabungwe, ndi vuto lokhazikitsa ubale pakati pa amuna ndi akazi limakhala lofunikira. Nchifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kuti tipeze chinenero chimodzimodzi ndi anyamata kapena anyamata? Kodi tingamvetsetse bwanji wina ndi mzake, komanso chofunika kwambiri, kuvomereza zomwe ife tiri ndikuyesera kukonzanso ndi kumanganso wokondedwa wathu? Kukhala wekha ndizopamwamba zomwe sizikupezeka kwa ambiri. M'nkhaniyi, ndikufuna ndikukhudza mbali ina ya ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi - mantha a kukhala okha.
Pambuyo pake, izi zimachitika, choncho nyengo yabwino imayamba, ndiko kuti nthawi ya chibwenzi imakopera mtsikana kapena mosiyana (ndipo izi zimachitika). Timasangalala ndi wokondedwa wathu: ndipo zonse ziri mwa iye ziri, ndipo iye ndi wodabwitsa kwambiri komanso wabwino, chabwino, mwamuna wabwino kapena mkazi wopanda zolakwa zilizonse. Koma tifunika kuyamba mgwirizano, titalowa m'banja lalamulo, pamene likuyamba .... "Sindinkaganiza kuti ndinu ...", "ndipo sindinadziwe kuti muli ...".
Zikuwoneka kuti pamisonkhano ndi misonkhano timangokhala osawona, ndipo wokondedwa wathu amawonekera patsogolo pathu mwa kuwala kwabwino, sitimayang'anitsitsa zochepetsera zake, tikuwona ubwino ndi ubwino wonse.
Ndipo zonsezi zimachitika pa zifukwa ziwiri: choyamba ndi chikondi chomwe chimabisala, chimachotsa malingaliro ndikupanga wokondedwa wathu maso, koma chifukwa chachiwiri ndi mantha. Inde, inde, ndi mantha. Tikufuna kukondana kwambiri kuti timangopeka kusonyeza wokondedwa wathu mbali zonse za chikhalidwe chathu, momwe, monga munthu wabwinobwino, zonse zabwino ndi zoipa. Mofananamo, timayesera kubisa mbali zolakwika kuyambira theka lathu lachiwiri. Masautso a nthawi ya maluwa amatha kukhala opatsa, opandukira amakhala opembedza, aulesi amakhala achangu ndi olimbikira, zidakwa ndizokhalitsa, ndipo abodza ndi owona mtima komanso owona mtima, ndi zina zotero. Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya.
Nthawi imapita. Masiku apabanja akufala, ndipo palibe chifukwa chobisala wina ndi mnzake. Apa ndi pamene timayamba kudziwana bwino ndi mau, ndipo zofooka zathu zimayamba kuyenda ngati satana kuchokera mu bokosi lofiira. Ndipo ali kuti, akufunsa, nthawi zonse? Inde iwo anali, tinali, tinawabisa iwo mwakhama kwambiri, iwo ankawopa kuoneka opanda ungwiro pamaso pa wokondedwa wawo, mwa mawu, iwo anali amantha. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi mantha athu ndiye pali mavuto m'banja. Chifukwa cha iye, ndiye pali kusudzulana kochuluka, zotaya zosweka, mitima yosweka, zokhumudwitsidwa, mabanja osakwanira. Ndi chifukwa chakuti ndi kovuta kwa ife nthawi zina kuvomereza munthu monga momwe alili. Ndipotu, tisanayambe kuona zomwe zilidi, ndipo tsopano, atasiya kubisala, adangokhala yekha. Ndipo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuvomereza. Zikuwoneka kuti izi zimakhala zosiyana, kapena chikondi chathu chinali chophweka kwambiri, kuti sichikanatha kuyesedwa ndi moyo. Pali mikangano, zoopsa, monga lamulo, zopanda pake, chifukwa cha zovuta zilizonse, ndipo zonsezi sizitsogolera, koma zotsutsana, zimayambitsa magawano ndi kusudzulana. Zoonadi, sindingathe kunena kuti izi zimachitika m'mabanja onse, koma monga momwe ndakhala ndikuwonetsera moyo wanga, izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri. Ndipo izi ndi ziwerengero zomvetsa chisoni.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji chitukuko chimenechi? Onse ololera ndi osavuta. Khalani nokha kuyambira pachiyambi. Lekani kukhala wochenjera pamaso pa mnzanuyo, ndipo choyamba, musanayambe nokha, musawope kuti musavomerezedwe. Pambuyo pake, palibe anthu abwino padziko lapansi. Tonsefe tili ndi mapewa pamutu panga. Ndipo zonena zathu kwa wina ndi mzake - mdani woipitsitsa wa ubale uliwonse, makamaka ubale wa chikondi.
Kusweka - kumakhala kosavuta kuposa kumanga, ndipo kumanga ubale wamphamvu kumatenga zaka zambiri. Kapena mwinamwake sakanakhala motalika chotero ngati sitinakhale ndi mantha kuyambira pachiyambi kuti tidzakhale ife - tokha?