Ngati timanena kuti banja lina liri ndi vuto, ndiye kuti tikuwoneka kuti tikutsindika kuti zonse zili bwino. Ngakhale zonsezi zimachitika pamsinkhu wosadziwika ndipo zikuwoneka kuti tikuchita bwino, chifukwa munthu wina akulakwitsa. Koma zoona zake siziri choncho. Chifukwa chakuti tonsefe timangokhalira kulakwitsa.
Lero, pali zotsutsana zambiri za momwe tingalankhulire pakati pa okondedwa athu. Tikuweruza zomwe zili zabwino kwa anthu ena, ndi zomwe siziri. Pa intaneti lero pali "zotsatila" zambiri za momwe mungalankhulire ndi wokondedwa wanu, momwe mungakhalire mu izi kapena mkhalidwe umenewo. Mikangano ya maanja timayesetsa kufotokoza kuti mmodzi wa iwo achita "zolakwika", chifukwa zinali zofunikira kuchita mosiyana. Kodi timatanthauzanji ndi kulondola kwa khalidwe mu chiyanjano? Kodi malamulowa ndi oona? Kodi ndi malamulo ati omwe ayenera kulipira kwambiri?
Pamene tikuganiza kuti ikuyimiridwa
Aliyense ali ndi lingaliro la momwe angayang'anire. Zithunzizi zimachokera pazosiyana za amuna ndi akazi omwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chawo. "Msungwana ayenera kukhala wachikazi komanso nsapato, ndipo mwamuna ayenera kukhala mwamuna komanso kukonda masewera." Zonsezi zotsutsanazi zikuyimira ndondomeko yawo yokha, malinga ndi zomwe chikondi chilichonse chiyenera kuchita. Njira yomwe imayimilira ndi yowona "khalidwe loyenerera", komanso kusiyana kulikonse komwe kumawoneka kuti ndikutembenuka ku chizoloŵezi. Mwachitsanzo. kuti choyamba chiyenera kuchitidwa ndi munthuyo. Mwamuna yekha amene akukhalapo akufunsani nambala ya foni, akukupemphani kuti muyende, ndikupatseni kuti mudziwe bwino. Ngati mtsikana atachita izi, timayamba kumuona ngati munthu wonga kapena wopusa komanso wodabwitsa. Izi zikuwoneka kuti "zolakwika". Kawirikawiri zotsutsana zazitsulo zimachitika molingana ndi ndondomeko yomwe m'pofunika kunena kulankhula kotalika. "Ndizolakwa, ndithudi, ine ndi zonse ziyenera kukhala zosiyana ... zonsezi ndi zodabwitsa, koma ...", koma ngati mtsikana mwadzidzidzi amauza mwamunayo molunjika komanso osakambirana nthawi yaitali, amatha kunena momveka kuti alibe chilakolako chake ndikuwonetsa khalidwe losayenera ... ali kale "wolakwika" ndipo sachita bwino . Ndipo munthu uyu akadali nthawi yaitali kuti amutsogolere miseche motsutsana ndi mdaniyo.
Malingaliro athu pokhudzana ndi ubale, monga momwe ayenera kukhalira, atisokoneza ndi ife. Nthawi zambiri timalingalira njira yabwino yothetsera ubale wathu, timaganiza momwe zinthu zonse ziyenera kukhalira ndikuyambirananso. Ndipo chirichonse chikuwoneka kuti chiri chabwino, koma icho chikusowa chinachake. Anya akutigwiritsira ntchito chilinganizo chathu, kukhazikitsidwa kwa "ndondomeko", yomwe idapangidwa nthawi yayitali kale ndipo zonse zikuyenda bwino. Timadodometsanso zomwe timagwirizana nazo. Amatiletsa kuchita zinthu zina zomwe zingatipangitse kukhala osangalala. Kawirikawiri timachita mantha, osati ngati wina aliyense, tikuiwala kuti maubwenzi ndi nkhani yachinsinsi kwa aliyense. "Malangizo" a bwenzi la ubale wathu akhoza kutipangitsa ife kukayikira tokha. Ndipotu, m'mafilimu omwe timawawona ndi ofanana, ndi olondola komanso achikondi. Ife tikuyamba kuganiza: kodi ife tingakhoze kukhala ndi chinachake cholakwika?
Musalole kuti maganizo odzisokoneza adziwononge nokha, ndondomeko yoyenera yolankhulirana ndi awiri ndi imodzi yomwe imakukhudzani komanso imabweretsa chisangalalo. Ubale uyenera kusintha mwachibadwa mogwirizana ndi zikhumbo zanu ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti ena amaganizira chiyani. Kodi mukusamala za izi?
Kulankhulana kwa chikhalidwe
Njira yomwe okondedwa amafunika kuyankhulana ndi iwo okha. Lero, tikukumana ndi zosiyana ndi zikhulupiliro panthawiyi. Mwachitsanzo, banja nthawi zonse limakhala ndi chinthu choyenera kukamba ndi kukonda anthu sayenera kukhala chete. Ndipo chete izo ndi chizindikiro chakuti chinachake chalakwika. Pali kumverera kuti aliyense wa iwo ayenera kubwera pa tsiku ndi chidule cha nkhani zomwe takambirana. Koma mfundo yonse ndi yakuti ngati zili bwino kukhala chete - muyenera kukhala chete. Pambuyo pake, ngati okwatirana sakuona kuti sangathe kukhala chete, ndipo amakonda kupumula mosiyana, kodi sipadzakhala paliponse?
Maganizo ambiri amakhudza ubwino wa maubwenzi pakati pa abambo ndi amai. Kwa lero, akazi amakhululukidwa kwambiri "maphwando" awo ndi zolakwitsa, polemba izi chifukwa cha kunja. Osati kokha kuti mlungu wa amayi amaloledwa kuchita zinthu zosayenera ndipo izi zimaonedwa kuti ndi "zachizolowezi", amuna amatha kukhala ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana, khalidwe, ndi zina zotero. Sitiitana kawirikawiri amayi kuti "ma maniac" kapena kutanganidwa, sangawononge khalidwe laukali, ngakhale atapereka zizindikiro zomwezo monga amuna. Ngati munthu akufuula mawu omwewo kapena amachita molakwika, izi zimamuchititsa manyazi. Mwamuna akakuimbira mluzu mtsikana wokongola kwambiri ndikumuyamikira mumsewu wonse, iye ndi wonyenga komanso munthu wosadziwika. Ngati mkaziyo amachitanso chimodzimodzi, ndiye minx.
Kwa anthu ambiri, ndi mkazi yemwe amalankhula ndi maina okongola, lisp, amabwera ndi mayina okongola, amakhala ndi mwana wamng'ono ndipo amamuitana momwe akufunira: tart, lapus, ndi zina zotero. Ngati, pa mapiko a chikondi, munthu woteroyo, amachititsa kupewa. Pachikhalidwe, mwamuna ndi mkazi akukumana ndi zopanda chilungamo zosiyana. Izi zimayimitsa "chisindikizo" pa lingaliro lathu la momwe kuyankhulana ndi maganizo ayenera kukhala.
Zoonadi
Ndipotu, zonse zimapulidwa ndi mfundo yakuti aliyense ali ndi ufulu kuchita zinthu mogwirizana monga momwe akukondera, awiri okha ayenera kuwalamulira. Ubale pakati pa okondedwa ndi mgwirizano wotsekedwa umene suyenera kupezekapo chifukwa cha tsankho limodzi ndi ziwonetsero. Aliyense wa ife kuyambira ubwana amaloledwa malire ena ndikuyika malamulo ena omwe amalamulira makhalidwe. Maganizo a anthu awiri ndi nthawi yatsopano pa moyo wa munthu, malo atsopano omwe anthu okhawo achikondi amalingalira zomwe zili zoyenera. Ndipotu, mfundo zonse ndizokondweretsa wina ndi mzake ndi kumvetsetsa ndi kuthandizana, kugonjetsa zonse, kuphatikizapo zofanana.