Mitundu ya kaduka.
Ena amayerekezera nsanje ndi chibadwa - nthawi zina ndizosatheka kulimbana nawo, popeza sangathe kukonzera kudzidziletsa. Koma ndi bwino kudziwa mdaniyo musanayambe kumenyana naye.
Kumva kuponderezedwa, ngati nsanje. Zomwe timakumana nazo, ngati kuti dziko lonse lapansi liyenera kukhala lathu lokha, limatchedwa nsanje yakuda. Kumverera komwe kumatipangitsa ife kukwaniritsa mapiri atsopano, ndi chilakolako chokhala choipa kuposa ena, ndi nsanje yoyera. Zoona, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti magawanowa sali achikasu ndi oyera, akhoza kulamulidwa osati ayi.
Chomwe chimatchedwa nsanje yakuda ndichibadwa mwa anthu ambiri, kuzunzidwa kwina kwa zaka, ena amatha mofulumira, ngati kuwala. Muzinthu zambiri zimatengera khalidwe, kukhumba kukhala wodziimira ndiulere, pokwanilitsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zomwe zilipo komanso pamapeto a kukhutira ndiwekha. Zindikirani kuti anthu achimwemwe ndi anthu omwe ali ndi cholinga, atatenga njira kuti akwaniritse zolinga izi, sangachite zochepa kuti apeze nsanje yomweyo. Ngati mumasiya ndikusiya kulamulira, mungaphonye nthawi yamtengo wapatali imene mungathe kupititsa patsogolo moyo wanu.
Ngati zotsatira za wina ndizochita za wina zimatipempha ife zokwanira kuti tidziwonetsere kuti tifuna kukwaniritsa chinthu chomwecho chomwe takhala tikukonzekera ndikuyesera, izi zimatchedwa kulenga. Chirichonse chimene chimayimilira pambuyo pake, chimatipangitsa ife kukhala ndi zolinga zabwino.
Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi kaduka?
Choyamba, ndikofunika kupeza chomwe chimayambitsa kaduka ndi chifukwa chake. Chidwi sichibadwa kuchokera pachiyambi. Zimangochitika pokhapokha ngati tikukumana ndi kusowa kwakukulu mu chinachake, mwachitsanzo, mu chikondi kapena ndalama, simungakwanitse kukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna, koma tikuziwona mwazinthu zambiri. Kapena zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti tikuwona. Chinthu choyamba chimene chiyenera kuchitidwa pa nkhaniyi ndi kuvomereza kuti muli achisoni, ndipo musakwiyidwe ndi chinthu china.
Kuzindikiritsa zolakwa zanu kumakhala ndi mphamvu zothandizira kwambiri. Choyamba, ndizodziwika zowonjezereka, ndidzidzidzi, monga mukudziwa, amalamulira dziko lapansi. Chachiwiri, ndi sitepe kuti mukhululukire nokha ndikumva nokha. Kuwonjezera apo, kuzindikira kuchitira nsanje, anthu ochepa okha amakana kuchotsa malingaliro ameneŵa.
Kenaka muzindikire moona mtima zifukwa zomwe munali nsanje. Izo sizimawoneka kuchokera pachiyambi. Kotero, mulibe zokwanira zomwe munthuyu ali nazo. Mwinamwake kupambana, chiyembekezo, maonekedwe kapena china. Chinthu chachikulu pa gawo ili ndi kuzindikira kuti zosatheka sizilipo komanso zomwe zili ndi kaduka, zikhoza kukhala ndi inu. Ndipo mwinamwake kuti musakhale-zonse zimadalira khama lanu lomwe mumayesetsa kukwaniritsa cholinga. Pa nthawi yomweyi, munthu sayenera kuyesa kusokoneza moyo wa munthu kapena kutenga chimwemwe cha wina aliyense sichiwonjezerepo, koma zovuta ndi kudzimva kuti ndizolakwa ndizosafunika. Choncho, nkofunikira kulongosola mphamvu pa njira yamtendere, ndiko kuti, kudzikuza.
Ngati chikhumbo chokhala ndi chiwerengero chochepa, banja losangalala , malo apamwamba, ngati munthu wamphamvu kwambiri, mungathe kuthana ndi mavuto onse mosavuta kuti mukwaniritse izi. Koma zikhoza kuchitika kuti pakapita nthawi mudzazindikira kuti mukutsatira zolinga zonyenga, kuti mufuna chinachake chosiyana, chanu, osati chomwe chimapangitsa chisangalalo cha ena. Musataye mtima, chifukwa kuti mukhale ndi moyo wanu popanda kuyang'ana ena - uwu ndiwo ufulu ndi chitsimikiziro cha chimwemwe.
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti kaduka nthawi zambiri ndi anthu onse. omwe amanena kuti amalephera kukhala ndi malingaliro otere, monga lamulo, osasamala. Mawu akuti udzu wa woyandikana nawo nthawi zonse umakhala wobiriwira amapangidwa osati mwachabe ndipo amagwira ntchito ngakhale kwa anthu omwe amawoneka kuti ali ndi chirichonse chimene angathe kuchilota. Choncho musamvetsetse. Ndipo kumenyana ndi zomwe zimakupweteketsani. Maganizo okhumudwitsa akhoza kukhala okhudzana ndi chifuniro ndi kudzipindulira nokha.