Aliyense amadziwa kuti maukwati oyambirira m'nthawi yathu sali olandiridwa. Pamene achibale akuyesa kukakamiza okondedwa awo kuti azichepetsanso ntchito yawo yambiri, kuyesera kuwatsimikizira malingaliro awo a banja tsiku ndi tsiku.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo samalangiza kuyamba moyo wa banja asanakwanitse zaka makumi awiri. Chowonadi ndi chakuti umunthu wachikulire umene wachitika, mosasamala kanthu za amuna kapena akazi, umakopeka ndi ulesi. Ngakhale, umunthu wa "umunthu" wakhala ukukopeka ndi ufulu, osati mu lingaliro chabe, koma mu zochita ndi moyo. Ndipo kukula kwachuma ndi nkhani yaikulu.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, achinyamata amene akhala akuganiza kuti ndi achikulire, pokhala ndi chibwenzi choyamba, nthawi zambiri amasokoneza chikondi chenicheni ndi chilakolako. Ndipo kumanga banja lachinyamata la chilakolako chimodzi, monga mukudziwa, sikokwanira. Pambuyo paukwatiwo, magalasi ovekedwa amachotsedwa ndi tsiku ndi tsiku: kuphika, kutsuka, kuyeretsa. Kuphatikiza ndi kuphunzira kapena ntchito. Pambuyo pa miyezi ingapo, akazi ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri, omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo champhamvu, akumbukira chisa cha kholo, chisangalalo cha usiku komanso nthawi yochuluka. Maukwati oyambirira nthawi zambiri amathetsa banja, komabe ali wamng'ono, zimakhala zovuta kuzindikira mavuto a m'banja, zomwe zimabweretsa mikangano komanso kusudzulana.
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti ndikofunikira kukwatira ndi kuyamba banja pa msinkhu pamene onse awiri amamvetsetsa kuti amakondana. Ndipo mukamaphunzira, pangani ntchito, khalani pamapazi, mwinamwake osakondana konse. Inde, ndipo zonena za theka lake lachiwiri zikukula pa zaka kapena kugwa.
Inde, banja, kwa aliyense. Winawake wakonzeka kale kuchita chinthu choyipa ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu (8), komanso amayi omwe ali ndi zaka zapakati pazaka makumi atatu (8), komanso amayi omwe ali ndi zaka makumi atatu (30) amakhala ngati mwana wamng'ono. Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, zaka zabwino kwambiri zogonana ndi mkazi ndi 23-26, ndipo kwa amuna atatha zaka 25, atayamba kale kudziŵa, adapeza ntchito ndipo ali pamapazi.
Mwina simukufunikira kwambiri, ndiwe wamkulu bwanji, ndikofunika kupanga banja lodalirika. Amanena kuti banja lolimba tsopano lili m'mafashoni. Kale, mnyamata ndi mtsikana anayesa kusintha kuti akwatirane kapena kukwatiwa. Mu gulu lathu lamakono chidwi chachikulu chimaperekedwa kwa maonekedwe. Timayesa kuyang'ana mokongola, kulankhulana kwambiri ndipo ngati tikulankhulana, osakaniza chinachake, timasankha munthu uyu. Koma chikhalidwe cha chinthucho ndi chachikulu ndipo timachimvetsa pamene moyo wa banja ukuyamba. Ndipo monga mukudziwira, khalidweli limatulutsidwa ndipo zikuonekeratu kuti pa zaka makumi awiri iye sanakwaniritsidwebe. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa mavuto akuluakulu oyambirira. Koma, ngakhale zovuta zoterezi, maukwati oyambirira ali ndi mbali zawo zabwino. Choyamba, moyo wa banja oyambirira umalimbikitsa okwatirana kuti akule mofulumira. Zosasintha zokwanira, chifukwa chosankha zovuta. Zosowa zakuthupi za kubadwa kwa mwana.
Ndipo mwinamwake palibe msinkhu uliwonse wokwanira kuti ukhale ndi banja, komabe, pa chikondi. Ndipo, chikondi, chosiyana, maganizo ndi mabanja ndi zosiyana.
Eya, ngati pangakhale ndondomeko yolenga banja losangalala, momwe zikanakhala zosavuta kusintha m'malo mwa mtsogolo mwamuna ndi mkazi wake. Ndipo ziwerengero za chigamulochi sizinapangidwe kupyolera muziphuphu zosweka ndi miyoyo. Mwinamwake, mavuto ambiri akhoza kuchotsa anthu ndipo moyo sungakhale ngati mapepala osasonkhana.