Kuda ndi golide
Nazi zenizeni komanso zowonjezera nkhani zomwe abwenzi amadzipeza okha kumbali zosiyanasiyana za malire awo. Mbiri yoyamba. Iye ndi woonamtima ndi wolemekezeka, koma wodzichepetsa komanso wamanyazi. Iye ndi msungwana wamphamvu yemwe ali ndi makhalidwe a utsogoleri. Msonkhano, chikondi, ukwati. Onse awiri anali okonda poyamba. Ali pabedi, mnyamatayu anakhala wofatsa komanso wosamala, ngakhale kuti sanali wotanganidwa kwambiri. Mkazi wanga sanakumane ndi zowawa, koma adaganiza kuti panalibe choipa pa izi, ndipo ankangokhalira kukondana ndi wokondedwa. Chilichonse chinali chosalala ndi bata. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi anakumana ndi mwamuna wina, wokondana ndi wodzidalira, ali pabedi ndi yemwe adakondwera naye kwambiri, ponena za kukhalapo kwake komwe sankadziwa. Mkaziyo anaganiza kuti kulankhulana kumbali sikuyenera kupitilira, koma afotokozere mwachidwi kwa mwamuna wake kuti mitundu ina ya caresses, yomwe imakhala yosangalatsa kwambiri, ingatheke, idzakhala yothandiza kwaukwati. Ndipo - miscalculated: Mkaziyo amamuona kuti akunena kuti ndi "wachiwerewere" ndipo "sichivomerezeka kwa mkazi wabwino". Nkhani yachiwiri. Msungwana wopanda nzeru adakwatiwa - ndipo adapeza kuti sakufuna kugonana, amangom'kumbatira ndikupsompsona. Nkhani zambiri pa bedi, mzimayiyo sanataya mtima kuti amuthandize, koma mwachionekere mkaziyo sanasangalale ndi mankhwalawa ndipo amafuna kuti kugonana kuthetse mwamsanga. Anayesera kuti adziwe kugonana kwakamwa mu "chakudya" cha kugonana, koma adalandira chidzudzulo chakukwiya: mkaziyo adanena kuti poganiza kuti akhudza pakamwa ndi munthu wodandaula, sanayankhe ndipo kuyesa kwa mwamuna wake kumusokoneza ndi lilime lake. Pambuyo pake, mwamunayo adamuwuza kuti ndiwe wamphepo ndipo adamuwuza kuti amusiya ngati sangatembenukire kuchipatala. Zomaliza za nkhani ziwirizi zikuyenda bwino: maanja onse afika kwa akatswiri, adapeza kuti palibe aliyense amene ali ndi zovuta za thupi kuti apeze zosangalatsa, ndipo adaphunzira kumvera zokhumba za wina ndi mzake ndi kudzilola okha kuposa kale. Koma ngati kugonana kwa anthu ogonana nawo pazinthu sikunali - zonse zikhoza kuthetsa kaya kugwa kwa banja, kapena kufunikira kuti mmodzi wa awiriwo achite "zonyansa" kuchokera pa malingaliro awo, mwa kuchita. Mwatsoka, mabanja ambiri amakhala, ndipo m'badwo wa makolo athu, izi zinali zofala kwambiri. Ndipo mulimonsemo, zovomerezeka zokhazokha zogonana (ndizo zovomerezeka za caresses) zinagwira ntchito yake. M'mabuku a sayansi mawuwa amatchulidwa kuti "mitundu yonse ya machitidwe a chiwerewere mu kuyandikana kwapafupi, zomwe sizisonkhezera kukhumudwa m'magulu awo ndipo zimakhala zovomerezeka." Zimaphatikizapo mitundu yonse ya caresses, ndikukhudza ichi kapena gawo limenelo la thupi, ndi zosiyana zogonana, ndi malo. Kwa aliyense wa ife, kuvomereza kugonana kumakhala kokha, ndipo kumachepera makamaka ndi makhalidwe, makhalidwe abwino komanso okondweretsa. Nthawi zambiri, palinso zofooka za thupi. Ndipo nthawi zambiri timangoganizira zolakwika zonyansa (monga pedophilia kapena zoophilia), komanso kuvomerezedwa ndi zachilengedwe m'zochitika zina zogonana, kunena, kugonana koyambirira. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe chathu (timakumbukiranso kuti chizoloŵezi sichinali chomwecho, koma kusiyana kwake), ndipo wokondedwayo ayenera kuwerengera. Monga tikuyenera kukumbukira malire ake. Pa mgwirizano wa anthu awiriwa ayenera kugwira ntchito yotchedwa kugonana kwa golidi: pabedi, mungalole chirichonse chomwe chikugwirizana ndi onse awiri. Mawu ofunika ndi "onse". "Pokhapokha ngati pali vuto kwa wina wa zibwenzi, izi zikutanthawuza mwa zina. Kuchita chinthu chosavomerezeka pabedi kupyolera mu mphamvu, monga cholowa kwa mnzanu, chimayika changa chochitapo kanthu, chomwe chidzaphulika kenako chimadzetsa chisokonezo - kuphwanya kugwirizana kwa banja. " Choncho, kuchokera ku golidi golide mumatsatira yachiwiri, "siliva": ngati simukumva bwino - nenani za izo. Kukhala chete kuli kofunika kwa ife.
Manyazi wamanyazi
Muwiri, muyenera kusiya, monga lamulo, kwa mkazi. Izi ndi zotsatira za kulera kwa makolo: "Mkazi ndi mwamuna wofooka, ntchito yake ndi yoperekera ndi kupirira, izi ndi nzeru za mkazi." Inde, ndipo chilengedwe chimakhazikitsidwa kotero kuti mkazi wogonana asamangokhalira kugonana: sangathe kutenga kugonana kwachidziwikire, chifukwa chiwalo cha mkazi sichiyenera. "Pafupifupi mitundu yonse ya zamoyo, kukondana ndi kumuna. Azimayi nthaŵi zonse amasonyeza amuna, kupereka ndemanga, kusintha, kusintha. Ali pa kama, pafupifupi chirichonse chimayikidwa ndi munthu: nthawi zambiri za kugonana, ndi nthawi yake, ndi mawonekedwe a mgwirizano. Chimodzi mwa izi ndi choyenera: Pambuyo pake, mkazi sangakwanitse kugonana pokhapokha ngati akufuna, ndi chiwonetsero cha mnzanuyo, mwanjira ina amatha. Muzochitika zachiwerewere, wokondedwayo alibe zosankha zambiri. " Ndicho chifukwa chake amuna ambiri amavomereza kuti agonana ndi abambo, ndipo njira yodziwirana pakati pa anthu ambiri ndi kupititsa patsogolo pang'onopang'ono kwa msinkhu wawo mpaka kumalire a amuna. Kugonana kwakukulu kumayesetsanso kuyesa kusiyanitsa zochitika za kugonana. Ndipo patapita nthawi, banjali limakhala lalifupi kwambiri - mitundu yayitali imayang'aniridwa ndi mitundu ya kugonana, malo atsopano, malo osadziwika popanga chikondi, pogwiritsa ntchito zidole za kugonana. Ndipo zambiri zimadalira kumvetsera komanso kulingalira kwa munthu, ndipo zimakhala zosavuta kuti afotokoze mnzanu yemwe adatsutsa kuchokera ku izi kapena kuti "chisankho chosayenera" mowirikiza kusiyana ndi kupeza molondola chifukwa chake sakuvutikira kuchita izi kapena kugonana. Nthawi zina zothetsa moyo wa kugonana sizingatheke. Nenani, George Selyukov anandiuza nkhani ya mmodzi wa odwala ake - mayi yemwe angathe kulankhula ndi katswiri pa nkhani zogonana, koma panthawi yomweyi ndi zoopsa za anthu ena: amapeza zovuta kuti azidziwana bwino ndi kumanga maubwenzi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti palibe kugonana komweko. Koma kuti afike pansi pa zifukwa ndi kumvetsetsa momwe angathetsere kapena kusokonezedwa, payenera kukhala kudalira pakati pa okondedwa, ndipo mwatsoka, sikuti aliyense angadzitamande chifukwa cha izi. Ambiri mwa mavutowa amachokera ku mfundo yakuti mmodzi wa abwenzi ali ndi lingaliro losamveka bwino la zovomerezeka za ena. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri timayesetsa kugonjera bwenzi lathu pa bedi ndipo sitikuwonetseratu zoyesayesa, chifukwa ndife otsimikiza kuti amuna ngati "ogonjera", ngakhale kuti ambiri amakhala ngati othandizana nawo (chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kupitiliza ndodo: olamulira ali pabedi lawo kale Musakondwere). Amuna nthawi zina sadziwa kuti kugonana kovuta, ndi zinthu zogonjera, monga chiwerengero cha amai, ndi chiwonetsero chogonana ndi abambo amangoziwona okha ndi omwe akuimira kugonana kwabwino. Pa zovomerezeka za kugonana, kusiyana pakati pa chigwirizano cha kugonana kwa zibwenzi kumasonyezanso. Pokhala ndi zofooka za kugonana, sitidzakhala ndi chilakolako kawirikawiri - ndipo ichi ndi chifukwa china chomwe wokondedwayo angasankhe kuti tili ndi mavuto ngati ngati ali ndi malamulo olimbikitsa kugonana. Kugonana kumathandiza apa: Mwachitsanzo, simungathe kupanga chikondi nthawi zambiri, koma mukhoza kupereka zosangalatsa kwa mnzanuyo "nthawi yopanda nzeru" mwanjira ina, poganizira zochitika zanu.
Zipatso za kuunika
Malire a zovomerezeka za kugonana amapangidwa mofulumira kwambiri, nthawi yayitali asanayambe kuyesa. Kugona nthawi yoyamba, nthawi zina takhala tikufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane momwe izi ziyenera kuchitikira - ndipo zimakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri pamene zenizenizo zikusiyana kwambiri. Nkhani ya moyo wa banja wa katswiri wa mbiri yakale wa nthawi ya Victorian, John Ruskin, inali nkhani ya tawuniyi. Kuphunzira thupi lachikazi pokhapokha pa mafano akale, anadabwa usiku woyamba waukwati pozindikira kuti amayi ali ndi tsitsi kumalo okondana, ndipo ngakhale adadwala kwa nthawi yaitali. Izi, ndithudi, zimakhala zosawerengeka, koma zoyamba zogonana sizomwe zimakhala zolimbikitsa: pafupifupi palibe atsikana omwe amayamba kugonana ndi chilakolako chogonana. Kupanga zovomerezeka za kugonana kumakhudza zonse zomwe taphunzira zokhudzana ndi kugonana, kuyambira ubwana, ndipo chidziwitso chimenechi sichisayansi nthawi zonse. Ndipotu, pogonana ku sukulu sitinayambe kugwira ntchito, ndipo makolo adasankha kukhala chete pa nkhani yovuta kapena ngakhale kuikapo phokoso ("kulumikiza Victor"). Chotsatira chake, mphunzitsi amakhala mumsewu, ndipo mu miyambo ya m'mizinda, kugonana kumadzaza ndi nthano zachinyengo zosagwirizana ndi zenizeni. Atsikana achichepere kaŵirikaŵiri amapanga chitsanzo cha ubale weniweni wa mafilimu ndi mafilimu okondana. Pambuyo powerenga mabuku ofotokoza mmene kalonga woyera wokwera pakavalo, wokonda chidwi komanso womvetsera, amamuchotsera mlendo wokongola, atsikana amayembekeza kuti chowotcha choyamba chimafotokozedwa - ndipo pambuyo pokumana nazo zokhumudwitsa sizikupangitsani kuti mudikire. Kugonana m'mabuku a dzuwa otentha amafotokozedwa bwino kwambiri komanso osasamala, ndi malo omwewo a caresses ndi malo. Kodi munayamba mwakumanapo ndi nkhani zoterezi, kuti mkazi amasangalala ndi wokondedwa wake ndi mankhwala olankhula, kapena kuti okondedwa amayesa malo ena kuposa amishonale, ndipo-kawirikawiri - "mkazi wochokera kumwamba"? Kotero n'zosadabwitsa kuti atsikana ena amalowa mu chigonjetso ndi kukhutira kuti chiwombankhanga ndi chodetsedwa komanso chosayenera kwa mkazi wabwino, osatchula malo a "munthu wambuyo." Kugonana kwawo koyamba kumakhala kochepa, komanso mopanda nzeru. Chinthu chinanso chopanda phindu chodziwitsa za kugonana ndi mafilimu oonera zolaula. Ngati m'mabuku okonda zachiwerewere kugonana ndipamwamba "zoyera", ndiye pa zolaula, mosiyana - zowonongeka ndizochepetsedwa kukhala zachibadwa. Choncho, chithunzithunzi sichipezeka kapena chachifupi: zikuwoneka kuti mkazi amasangalala nthawi yomweyo, koma izi siziri choncho - pabedi, zimatenga nthawi yambiri kuti chikhumbo chifike pamtunda. Zambiri zomwe zimasonyezedwa pa zolaula ndizongopeka chabe: ogwira ntchitowa amatha kupanga chithunzi cha kukula kwakukulu kwa abambo aamuna, ndipo olemba amalumikizana limodzi theka la ola limodzi ndi zidutswa ziwiri za mphindi pafupi ndi zenizeni. Kotero zimatsimikizira kuti woyang'anira wamkulu wa malire a mndandanda wathu ndi chisamaliro chapamwamba pa nkhani zogonana. Nkhani ina yochokera kwa George Selyukov: Mwamuna adandaula kuti mkazi wake panthawi yachisokonezo samapanga phokoso lililonse, koma, m'malo mwake, ali chete. Mwachiwonekere, zochitika zogonana zisanachitike, kuphatikizapo mafilimu olaula, adamuphunzitsa kuti pa nthawi yomwe mayi amafunika kufuula ndipo kawirikawiri amachitira zachiwawa. Pakalipano, pali mtundu wa phokoso, pamene mkazi "amathawa", ndipo sizingaganizidwe panthawi yomweyi, koma mawuwo samatuluka. Katswiri anali ndi kufotokoza izi kwa munthuyo - ndipo vuto silinayambe. Mwamwayi, pokhala ndi chidziwitso chokwanira, kugonana kumakula. Ngati pali vuto losalephereka, wogonana naye amamuthandiza kugonjetsa, zomwe masiku ano nthawi zambiri zimayenera kuunikira, kuthandiza othandizira kusankha mitundu yoyandikana nayo yomwe ili yoyenera kwa iwo. Zonsezi n'zotheka ngati banjali liri ndi chikondi, chilakolako chokhazikitsa mabwenzi ndikukula mwa iwo - payekha komanso palimodzi.