Ndipo chidwichi chimachokera kuti?
Tsopano asayansi ambiri amatsutsa khalidwe lathu monga zamoyo zokha. Monga, pali "anthu apamwamba kwambiri" (alipo ochuluka kuchokera ku nyamakazi, abulu), ndi otsika kwambiri - ozindikira ngati amenewa, omwe makhalidwe abwino ndi ofunika, ndipo chikhalidwe chawo ndi chachiwiri. Zomwezo amanena za akazi. Komabe, lingaliro ili poyang'anitsitsa ndilopambana kwambiri.
Chilakolako chokhala ndi majeremusi abwino, monga lamulo, sichiri cholimba kwambiri kuti mkaziyo amumvere, amatsogoleredwa ndi iye. Ndipo ngati mkazi wokwatira ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi mwamuna - si nkhani yotsutsa, imene iye akusowa, kapena kuyesayesa. Zokongola, zokongoletsa, okonzeka bwino a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zimatikopa.
Chinthu china n'chakuti kusamalira kwachangu nthawi zambiri sikukwaniritsidwa. Ife tikudziwa mosakayikira kuti "timakondwerera" omwe tingakhale nawo okondedwa, timagwiritsa ntchito gawo limodzi lachiwiri pa ilo. Ndipo ngati mkazi wokwatiwa ali ndi ntchito ali ndi mwamuna yemwe akumufuna kugonana, zomwe iye akulota - ndiye, m'banja muli chinachake cholakwika.
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Kwenikweni, ndi kosavuta kufufuza ndikuletsa kugonana kwa amuna kuchokera kwa mkazi wokwatiwa "kumayambiriro". Pamene zinthu sizili zoyipa, ndipo banja silinawonongeke, chidaliro cha mkazi mwa mwamuna wake ngati mwamuna sichimachepetsedwa - ndi nthawi yochitapo kanthu mwamsanga.
Koma ngati malotowo adutsa kale muyeso wina - ndiye chirichonse chikhoza kuchitika.
- Choyamba, mkazi wokwatiwa, kusonyeza kugonana kwa munthu wina, kudziika yekha, banja lake ndi kunyada kwake.
- Chachiwiri, ntchito ingathe kuvutika ngati ikuchitika kuntchito. Kapena mbali ina iliyonse ya moyo imene kugonana kumalowerera.
Ubale ndi achibale, ndi abwenzi, koma osachepera ndi mphunzitsi wa mwana wamkulu, ngati zili choncho - onse ndi ofunika kwambiri kuti asasakanizirane ndi kugonana. Kugonana ndi mawu kwa awiri, ndipo mkazi, ngati ali wokwatira, wamupangira kale kusankha izi.
Ndipo ndithudi, ngati mwazindikira mwa inu nokha kupsyinjika kwa chilakolako, musawononge moto wa motowo - mudzayenera kudziyika nokha kumoto pamapeto!
Choncho, lamulo loyamba: zilizonse zomwe mukumva, simuyenera kudzipukuta nokha pakujambula zokoma ndi zowona za munthu yemwe chidwi chake chikuwonekera.
Sungani ubale poyamba!
Ubale wapano ndi wofunika kwambiri, ngakhale ukhoza kukhala. Mwina ndi zochepa zochepa:
ngati mwamunayo sakulephereka ("masamba", chikhululukiro cha kulunjika)
kapena ngati akuphwanya malamulo ena onse: osati kumenyana ndi mkazi, kuti asanyoze ana. Kawirikawiri, zimawopsya moyo wamba wa banja.
Nthawi zina, chidwi chilichonse chogonana ndi mwamuna aliyense chiyenera kuimitsidwa m'kupita kwanthawi. Gwirani mahatchi, yang'anani chimene mwamuna amene mkaziyo anagwirizanitsa nawo kamodzi.
Mu chiyanjano chatsopano, ziribe kanthu momwe iye amafunira, mkazi amapita "ndi zolakwika zakale."
Ndipo kokha ngati adachita zonse zotheka, ndipo ndi wotsimikiza za izi - mungathe kulowetsa kumverera kwatsopano.
Kuganizira zamatsenga chifukwa sichikondana ndi mwamuna wake
Kugonana kwanu sikunayambitse kusagwirizana m'banja lino komanso tsogolo la chisokonezo chokhazikika m'moyo, muyenera kuyesa "kulingalira zamatsenga kuti mukhale m'chikondi".
Yesetsani kumuthandiza mwamuna wanu ndi chikondi chanu. N'zosavuta kuchita izi kuposa momwe zikuwonekera. "Choyang'ana" ndi chakuti amuna amakonda zomwe amapanga mu maubwenzi.
Koma m'masautso amasiku onse, timaiwala kuwathokoza, kutsimikizira kufunika kwa zopereka zawo. Monga ngati izi zikudziwonekera.
Ndiuzeni, mungakondwere ngati mutatamandidwa nthawi iliyonse chifukwa cha chakudya chokonzekera - kale chifukwa simukuyenera kuphika nyumba yanu?
Apa ndi mwamunayo. Tsimikizirani ukulu wake, kutamanda, kuyamika - kungokwera pang'onopang'ono.
Ndipo chomwe chiri chochititsa chidwi kwambiri, "chizoloŵezi" chophweka, chomwe chilimbikitsidwa kwa amuna onse chitakhazikika kwa wina ndi mnzake, amachita, monga akunena, "mwa njira zonse ziwiri." Izi zikutanthauza kuti mumasonyeza chikondi chakuthupi - mwina zomwe sizinachitike. Mwamuna "amawomba" ndipo amayamba kuona mwa iwe mkazi. Ndipo amapereka kutentha uku pobwezera.
Komanso kale, pamodzi ndi kutentha ndi kugonana, komanso, ndikuwonetseredwa kuchokera kwa mbadwa ndi munthu wapafupi amene akhalapo ndi zaka, sipangakhale nthawi kapena chikhumbo cha amuna ena. Ndipo ndicho chimene ife tinkayesera kukwaniritsa, sichoncho?
Chidwi mwa chidwi, koma mutu "kuphatikiza" ndikofunikira!
Ziribe kanthu momwe mkazi akunenera zimenezo, amati, "timakonda kupitilizabe kumverera" - palifunika kwina lililonse la kugonana kuphatikizapo logic, analytical.
Kufufuza mofulumira kwa munthu amene angapempheke kuti akhale ndi buku laling'ono, ngakhale onse awiri atavomereza kuti ubwenziwo sungakhudzidwe, amachotsa mulu wa mavuto.
Tayang'anani mosamala, musanafune mwamuna: kuntchito iye ndi wokongola, "akunyengerera" ndi mkazi wake. Ndipo panyumba akuponya masokosi, amafuna kuti "adye!" Kapena akuganiza pamphuno, atakhala patsogolo pa TV mu T-shirt yowamba.
Kodi, simukufunanso izi? Kodi pali nyumba yotereyi?
Ndizofanana :)
Izi ndi momwe chilakolako cha kugonana chimagonjetsedwa, ngati chiri chowonekeratu kuti woponderezayo sakhala kalonga. Ndipo popeza pali akalonga ochepa kwambiri a mwazi wamfumu, ndipo mndandanda wawo uli pa intaneti, kugonana kozizira kwambiri ndi "munthu wokondweretsa" adzakhala ndi mphamvu nthawi zingapo - ndiyeno, ngati mukukondana naye.
Kotero, chirichonse chomwe anganene, sichiri choyenera. Ndipo muyenera kuyesa kubwereranso kugonana kwa banja basi.