Chimodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri za umunthu ndi kaduka. Amadya munthuyo mkati. Ndipotu, pali mkwiyo, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, ndi kudzimvera chisoni. Mwachidziwikire amachokera ku mndandanda wa machimo oopsa a munthu, akhoza kuwonongeka mosavuta. Ubongo wathu umalephera kuzindikira zambiri ndikudzifunsa funso lomwelo: "Nanga bwanji ine?". Sindingaganize kuti wina ali bwino ndikumverera kotereku. Kotero tiyeni timvetsetse - talingalirani tanthauzo la mawu akuti "nsanje" mu psychology.
Kodi Nsanje ndi Chiyani?
Poyambira, tidzatha kumvetsa tanthauzo la kaduka. Kuchokera pamalingaliro a psychology, nsanje imabwera kuchokera ku chikhumbo choyerekeza chinachake nthawi zonse. Munthu wokhala wochenjera ndi woganiza, amafufuza nthawi zonse, komanso kusanthula popanda kulinganitsa sikuchita. Izi zikusonyeza kuti anthu omwe samva nsanje samangokhalako. Funso lina ndilo kuchuluka kwa izi zomwe zingadziwonetsere ndikukhazikitsa dziko lathu lapansi. Kuyerekeza kumayendetsedwa ku chinthu chimene munthu amachotsedwa. Nkhaniyi ikhonza kukhala zinthu zakuthupi, komanso umunthu wa munthu. Mwachitsanzo, chithumwa ndi luso lolankhulana. Munthu aliyense sangathe kuchita zonse mwakamodzi, choncho nthawi zonse alipo wina yemwe ali ndi zambiri. Koma ndondomekoyi ya kulinganitsa kosatha imayambira mizu yake yonse. Ngakhale m'kalasi yoyamba, aphunzitsi amafananitsa ana: "Taonani, Sasha, wapambana kuposa mnzako." Ndipo mwa udindo womwewo makolowo: "Kodi iwo anakulipirani chiyani pa ntchitoyi? Ndi ana ena? ". Ndipo ngati mwanayo wapambana enawo - atamandidwe. Ngati sichoncho, iwo amakukwiyitsani. Chochitika cha ana cha mtundu umenewu chimatilimbikitsa kuti tichite zinthu zina ndi "zozizwitsa." Musamulingirire mwana ndi munthu aliyense, kotero kuti mzere wa kaduka sukhala khalidwe kwa iwo komanso pokhala wamkulu. Zochita za mwana wanu zikhoza kufaniziridwa ndi zake zokha, kuti amusonyeze chitukuko.
Nsanje imawoneka osati chifukwa choyerekezera, kaduka ndi mpikisano. Pambuyo pake, monga nyama zimapikisirana malo, momwemonso anthu. Zoonadi, nsanje yoipa ilipo pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi udindo wofanana pakati pa anthu, ndipo amafunsanso zinthu zomwezo kapena zauzimu. Timasirira anzathu akusukulu, achibale, anzathu, anzathu. Sizingatheke kuti munthu wina, powerenga mbiri yakale, adzalusa nsanje ya Hollywood kuti adagule nyumba ina. Komabe, palinso oimira ena omwe ali ndi nsanje. Amasirira aliyense ndi chirichonse, pamsewu, kuntchito, ku filimu. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kuonana ndi katswiri.
"Black" ndi "yoyera" nsanje
Timasirira, timadziwa kuti izi ndi zoipa. Chikumbumtima chimalankhula mwa ife, ndipo timayamba kufunafuna chifukwa choti ndikuchitira nsanje. Mwa anthu muli dzina la "nsanje" la nsanje, lopanda kusayera. Ndipo apa ndikukukhumudwitsani: kaduka silinasinthe mtundu wake. Lilipo palokha. Ngati tikuwona chinachake chabwino ndi chowonadi, ndiye sichida kaduka, koma kuyamikira. Mukuwona bwenzi lanu mu diresi latsopano, ndipo inu mumamukonda iye. Ndiwe wokondwa kuti amawoneka okongola kwambiri, panthawi yomwe mumayamikira, ndipo musadere. Pa msonkhano wa virtuoso, pamene inu simunagwiritse ntchito chida m'manja mwanu, sindikuganiza kuti munena kuti "Ndimamuchitira kaduka", m'malo mwake "ndikuyamikira". Koma ngati mumaphunzira naye pamodzi, koma simunapambane, mumakhala mukudzibisa nokha. Kulemekezeka ndi kuyamikira, ndipo kaduka ndi kaduka.
Yandikirani kwenikweni
Anthu ambiri sangavomereze kupambana kwa anthu ena, chifukwa chakuti sakudziwa zomwe akufuna ku miyoyo yawo. Inde, mukhoza kupereka mndandanda wa zilakolako zanu. Koma kodi mudzakhala otsimikiza kuti ichi ndi chikhumbo chanu, ndipo osakopeka wina. Mwachitsanzo, mukuyesera kuchepetsa thupi, kudana ndi anzako, omwe, mwawona, ali owerengeka abwino. Inu mumayesetsa mwakukhoza kwanu, koma zonse ndi zachabechabe. Chifukwa chake, kaduka kumakhala kozama, nthawi zonse kumadzichitira chifundo.
Mwinamwake tiyenera kuyamba kuyang'ana zinthu? Dzivomerezeni nokha monga momwe mulili, kuchepetsa kufunika kokhala wolemera, ndipo onani mmene kaduka kokha kadzatha. Pali zovuta pamene vuto, ndithudi, likuyenera kulongedwera mosiyana. Kawirikawiri munthu wansanje sangathe kukwaniritsa zomwe akufuna. Zikuwoneka kwa iye kuti kampani yozoloŵera inagwa kuchokera kumwamba. Sankamuchitira nsanje pamene "anali kuyendayenda ngati gologolo mu gudumu" kuti atsegule mlandu. Imani ndi kudzifunsa nokha: kodi mutha kubwereza izi? Kodi mukufuna izi? Pamene tili ndi zolinga zingapo zofanana ndi mphamvu zathu, cholinga cha kaduka sichikuwonekera.
Njira zingapo zolimbana ndi kaduka
• Kodi simungazifune bwanji, koma dzivomerezeni nokha kuti kumverera uku kumakhala mwa inu. Izi zidzakhala zabwino kwambiri. Ndipotu, omwe sagwirizana kwambiri ndi izi, ndipo ndizo zonyamulira za kaduka.
• Kumbukirani kuti nsanje ikhoza kukupangitsani kusokonezeka kwa mantha. Sindikuganiza kuti mukufunikira.
• Ganizirani kwa yemwe ndi zomwe mumasilira, ngati zimakhala zovuta mu malingaliro anu, lembani mndandanda. Mwachitsanzo, mukuyang'ana nsanje za amuna ena. Kotero ndi lingaliro chabe. Palibe anthu angwiro padziko lapansi, ndipo ali ndi mbali zawo zoipa. Musayang'ane pozungulira, koma mverani mwamuna wanu, kodi ali ndi chitsimikizo cholakwika? Tembenukira kwa iye, ndipo ndani akudziwa, mwinamwake iye adzakupatsani inu zodabwitsa zabwino.
• Yerekezerani nokha, osati ndi ena. Sangalalani ndi kusintha, ndipo ngati muwona regress, pitirizani kuchitapo kanthu. Nsanje zimakulepheretsani inu nokha.
• Nthawi zambiri mumakumana ndi munthu yemwe amakhutira ndi chilichonse pamoyo wake. Choncho, musataye mtima, kumverera nsanje chifukwa cha bwenzi lachibwana, lomwe liri ndi mwamuna wake. Kodi mumatsimikiza kuti akumva bwino? Sangalalani bwino ndi zomwe muli nazo ndikupita ku zolinga zanu.
• Ngati kupambana kwa munthu sikukupumula, pitirizani "mwayi" maphunziro pang'ono. Onetsetsani njira yake yolankhulana, khalidwe ndi maonekedwe. Koma, mulimonsemo, musati muzifanizire izo, chifukwa ndinu umunthu wosiyana.
• Pezani nthawi zabwino zomwe simukufuna. Ngati mnzanu akulimbikitsidwa mmalo mwanu, palibe, simudzakhala ndi udindo wochepa komanso nthawi yambiri ndi achibale anu.
• Musagwiritse ntchito mphamvu kuti mukhale achisoni, ndi bwino kuti mutembenuke kukhala mpikisano wathanzi. Mudzapeza zomwe mukufuna.
• Musaganize kuti kudziyerekeza nokha ndi iwo omwe ali oipitsitsa ndi pansipa kudzakuthandizani. Zimathandiza kokha pakuyang'ana, koma kwenikweni mumakhala osangalala, komanso mumadzichepetsa.
• Ndipo musakwiyitse ena kuchitira nsanje. Ganizirani za ndani ndi zomwe munganene. Ngati mwakonda kufotokoza aliyense za zolinga zanu ndi zolinga zanu, musiye zokambiranazi. Pambuyo pake, chifukwa cha kukhazikitsa kwawo kudzafuna mphamvu zambiri, zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pa zokambirana zopanda kanthu.
• Khulupirirani nokha, mu luso lanu, yesetsani kuzindikira maloto anu ndi ziyembekezo zanu.
Mutatha kuthana ndi tanthauzo la mawu achisoni mumaganizo, mumamvetsa bwino zochita zanu. Lekani kusiya "kudya" nokha ndi ena komanso za kunja. Kumbukirani kuti kaduka ndi chimodzi mwa machimo oopsa. Ndiyetu muyenera kulimbana ndi kupambana!