Chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti amayi anayamba kumvetsera maganizo a amuna, makamaka omwe adakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri mu ubale wamtundu umenewu pa zochitika zawo. Kuleza mtima m'dziko lamakono kwakhala malo osakwanira kwenikweni, kapena kuti sikunalipo konse. Komabe, nthawi zonse bwenzi lachikazi linapatsa chakudya kuganiza, kukambirana. Zaka zikwi ziwiri zapitazo, Aristotle, adafuna kufotokozera mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya abwenzi ndikufotokozera chodabwitsachi chonse. Za ubale wa akazi omwe analemba zolemba zamakono, analemba zilembo, nyimbo. Ndipo ngati lingaliro limeneli lapatsidwa chidwi kwambiri, ndiye kuti pali chitsanzo chapadera cha ubale.
Pakalipano, mauthenga a zamasewera amalemba mozama za kuti masiku ano, mabwenzi achikazi atha kukhalapo, monga chiyanjano chodziimira. Ntchito yamuyaya, miyeso ikuluikulu, kusoŵa kochepa kwa nthawi yaulere kumapanganso mabwenzi m'malo momasuka. Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti pano maganizo angakhale olakwika. M'malo mwake, pali misala yothandizira zomwe zingakhalepo mudziko lamakono la ubale wachikazi, monga choncho. Ikhoza kukhala yolimba komanso yowonjezereka kuposa kale, muzochitika zochepa zogwira ntchito. Kunalipo nthawi yochulukirapo. Azimayi osakwatiwa, makamaka amayi osakwatira, angapangitse kuphulika ndi kufalikira kwa mitundu yonse ya mikangano.
Ubwenzi ndi wovuta. Mfundo zazikuluzikulu za ubale wa mtundu umenewu ndi kuwona mtima, kumvetsetsa, kudzipereka komanso kulandira munthu wina monga momwe aliri, popanda kuyesa kusintha ndikusintha "payekha." Ndipo, ndithudi, kudalira ndi kutha kusunga zinsinsi. Anthu ambiri sadziwa izi. Ndi akazi angati omwe akhala mabwenzi kwa zaka zambiri, mwadzidzidzi anasiya maubwenzi chifukwa mmodzi wa iwo sangathe kupulumutsa chinsinsi cha wina. Pali chilakolako chachinsinsi kwa anthu osagonana ofooka kuti afotokoze chinsinsi kwa dziko lonse lapansi nkhani iliyonse yofunikira. Eya, ngati nkhaniyi ndi ya chikhalidwe, zomwe ochita masewera ambiri amachita - ndizovuta kwambiri kukana. Mwina, chifukwa china chofunika chofunikira kwambiri, chifukwa chiyanjano chinasweka ndicho chinyengo. Pamene chirichonse chikuphatikizana pamodzi: abwenzi, amuna, akazi, ana. Kusintha kwa wokondedwa ndi bwenzi lake lapamtima ndichikhalidwe cha mtundu. Amayi ambiri amaperekedwa. Ambiri a iwo amakhumudwa nthawizonse ndikukhala moyo, osalola anzanu ena kuti abwere kunyumba kwawo. Malingaliro awo, ndi zochepa kwambiri kuti zinyengedwe kachiwiri pa izi. Ena, mobwerezabwereza, akuyang'ana pagulu limodzi, kubwereza zolakwa zawo ndikupitirizabe kukhala abwenzi.
Monga momwe tikuonera, yankho lachidziwitso la funsoli: kodi pali ubale wina wazimayi mdziko lamakono? Monga nthawi zonse, maganizo amagawidwa m'magawo awiri. Ndipo onse awiriwa, omwe amatsutsana ndi abwenzi ndi otsutsa aakazi, adzakhala oyenera mwanjira yawoyawo. Pali zifukwa zambiri zotsutsana ndi zodabwitsazi.
Kutsata malingaliro abwino pa moyo, ndikufunabe kukhulupirira zabwino ndi kulimbikitsa ubwenzi, kuti ndikhale ndi mwayi wokhalapo. Mudziko liri lonse: zamakono kapena zam'tsogolo - ubwenzi pakati pa akazi, unalipo ndipo udzakhalapo. Munthu wina anali ndi mwayi, ndipo wina adakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri, choncho adagwirizana m'misasa iwiri. Koma amayi, mwa kuchuluka kwawo, anthu amafulumizitsa, mwachifundo. Kotero iwo ali ndi kukhoza kukhululukira ndi mtima wonse ndi chikondi. Ndipo malingaliro ameneŵa ndiwo mphamvu ya ubale pakati pa anthu ndi akazi awiri, ambiri.