Ngati mwana wanu akukondana ndi osewera, choyamba, mmalo mochita mantha ndikudandaula, yesani mkhalidwewo ndikupeza mafaita onse.
Chiwonetsero cha Chikondi
Kotero, chikondi ndi chiyani kwa wokonda? Kawirikawiri, izi zikuwoneka ngati kugula zojambulajambula, kufufuza mafilimu onse kapena zojambula ndi iye mu bwalo, kufunafuna chidziwitso chirichonse. Msungwanayo akuwoneka kuti akukonzekera pa munthu uyu. Koma timakhalanso ndi khalidwe pamene tikumana ndi munthu weniweni: tikufuna kuti tiwone nthawi zonse munthuyu komanso zonse zokhudza iye kuti adziwe. Choncho khalidwe la mwana wanu silingatchulidwe mokwanira. Mwachidule, pamene zonse sizikumveka kwa mnyamata yemwe akukhala pa desiki yotsatira, koma kwa munthu yemwe amakhala kutali mtunda wa mazana kapena zikwi za makilomita, wamkulu akuwoneka ngati mlendo.
Mphamvu ya woimba pa mtsikanayo
Tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule ngati wochita masewero kapena khalidwe ndi (pambuyo pake, nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti kukonda ndi wochita masewero ndi chikondi cha munthu amene akuchita), zabwino kapena zoipa. Ndipo, ngakhale ngati ziri, mwachitsanzo, vampire, musati mulembere mwatsatanetsatane mu gulu la achigawenga. Pambuyo pake, mwinamwake, pa chitukuko cha chiwembu, amadziwonetsera ngati chidziwitso chabwino, akusintha kwabwino ndikudziwonetsa yekha ngati wankhondo amene ali wokonzeka kupita chirichonse chifukwa cha wokondedwa. Choyamba, chotsani, mu kogovublena mwana wanu wamkazi. Ndipo mulimonsemo, musamatsutse, makamaka ngati simukumvetsa zomwe wojambulayo kapena munthu wake ali. N'zotheka kuti chifukwa cha chikondi chotero, msungwanayo amaphunzira chinachake cha nzeru za moyo. Choncho, zingakhale zopanda kuwerenga kuwerenga ndi munthu uyu, kuti mudziwe zomwe akufalitsa. Ngati muwona kuti munthu uyu akunena zinthu zoyenera ndikulimbikitsa kukoma mtima, kuwona mtima, ulemu, chikhumbo chofuna kukwaniritsa chinachake ndi ntchito yake ndi zina zotero, ndiye kuti simungadandaule. Pambuyo pa zonse, popeza mwana wanu ali wokhazikika, mwanayo amvetsera mawu a wokonda wokondedwayo ndikuchita zomwe akunena.
Koma pamene nthawi yomwe mwanayo amakonda kwambiri ndi njira yolakwika ya moyo ndikufalitsa khalidwe lake, poyankhula, "kugonana, mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi miyala ndi mayina," muyenera kukhala osamala. Musangothamanga kuchotsa pazithunzi zonse ndikumuimba mlandu chifukwa cha machimo ochimwa. Kumbukirani kuti mwana wanu wamkazi ali wachinyamata. Pazaka izi, tonsefe timagwiritsa ntchito timagulu tapamwamba komanso timadziwa zonse zomwe zili ndi "bayonets". Kotero, mmalo moletsa mwanayo, takshazat, kumkonda wokonda, ingoyankhula naye, fufuzani momwe amachitira zofanana ndi zizolowezi zake ndi zina zotero. Ngati mtsikanayo amatsutsa, ndiye palibe chodandaula. Koma pakakhala iye atatenga mbali yake ndikukuuzani kuti ndibwino kuti mukhale ndi moyo, yesetsani kumuletsa. Koma, mulimonsemo, musamukakamize msungwanayo ndipo musasonyeze malingaliro anu oipa ku fano lake.
Kupangidwa ndi
Ngati mwana wanu akukondana ndi munthu waluso komanso wokwanira, malingaliro oterewa angakhale othandizira kukula kwa mitsempha yolenga mwanayo. Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti atatengedwera ndi wojambula, atsikana amayamba kujambula zithunzi zake, kulemba ndakatulo ndi nkhani, kulemba nyimbo. Ndipo pambuyo pake zonse ziri bwino, chifukwa chifukwa cha zokondweretsa zotere, msungwana akhoza kutsegulira mwayekha kulenga kumayambira pa zomwe iye ndi osaganizidwa, atakhala wolemba luso waluso kapena woimba bwino. Kotero, pozindikira kuti mwana wanu akulemba ndakatulo kapena akubwera ndi nyimbo yatsopano, musamuseke konse ndipo musanene kuti izi ndizovuta. Lolani kuti munthu akule. Ndiye chikondi cha wochita masewero chidzatha, ndipo chilakolako cholenga chidzakhala kosatha. Koma pamene makolo ayamba kuseka ana awo, nthawi zambiri atsikana amangokana zosangalatsa ndi zokondweretsa, amayamba kudziona ngati opusa, osatha kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa komanso zapadera. Choncho, musananene kanthu kwa mwana wanu wamkazi, taganizirani mosamala. Pambuyo pake, ngati izi zikuwoneka ngati nthabwala zopanda chilungamo, ndiye kuti mawu a mwanayo adzakhala okhumudwitsa kwambiri ndikumva kupweteka mtima.
Chikondi "chotetezeka"
Amayi akamayamba kuda nkhaŵa za chikondi cha mwana wawo wamkazi, saganizira kawirikawiri kuti mtundu uwu wa chikondi ndi wotetezeka kwambiri. Inde, ngati msungwana samathawa kuthawa kwawo ndipo safulumira kufunafuna wokondedwa ndi kukwatiwa naye. Koma popeza achinyamata ambiri akukondana ndi ochita zisudzo zakunja, zochitika izi ndizosavuta. Ngati msungwana wanu akukhala pakhomo ndikulemba makalata achikondi "ku gome," ndiye kuti inu muli ndi mwayi. Ndipotu, mu nkhaniyi, mwana wanu sangaswe mtima komanso osakhumudwitsa. Ngati anali wokondana kwambiri ndi mnyamata weniweni, makamaka wamkulu msinkhu, ndiye kuti zonse zikhoza kutha molakwika. Ndipo kotero, pokhala opanda kupeza kwenikweni munthu, msungwana amangophunzira kukonda, popanda kutaya kalikonse. Inde, zikuwoneka kuti akuvutika ndipo maganizo ake ndi amphamvu kwambiri, koma ndithudi zaka zidzatha ndipo mwana wanu adzamvetsetsa kuti chikondi chimenechi chinali choyera, chowala komanso chopweteka. Pambuyo pake, iye ankakonda munthu amene anapangidwa, yemwe anapatsa wapadera, wabwino kuti azidziimira. Ndipo iye sakanakhoza kumukhumudwitsa iye mwanjira iliyonse. Kuganiza kwa mafano koteroko kuli kofunikira kwa pafupifupi abambo onse azimayi, koma ngati munthuyo ali weniweni, ndiye, mwinamwake, pamapeto pake, amangochotsa maloto ndi ziyembekezo zonse. Koma wojambula pazithunziyo adzakhalabe ngati msungwanayo akuwona. Iye sangakhumudwitse, sangakhumudwitse, sadzachititsa manyazi ndi kuseka malingaliro ake.
Choncho, kufotokoza mwachidule, zikhoza kunenedwa kuti chikondi cha aktor nthawi zonse sivuta. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, nthawi yotereyi imateteza mwana wanu kudziko lenileni komanso chikondi chenichenicho, chomwe chili nkhanza kwambiri. Koma chikondi chikatha, msungwanayo amakula ndikutha kuyang'ana mozama kwa anthu ndi zochitika.