Kulankhulana kosagwirizana ndi mawu, makamaka ndi njira ya khalidwe yomwe imasonyeza kuti sitikukayikira. Ndipotu, mawu akhoza kupusitsidwa, chifukwa mauthengawa ali m'malo mwa chidziwitso chathu. Koma thupi la thupi limatanthawuza machitidwe achizindikiro a chikumbumtima. Iwo samapereka zogonjetsa kwathunthu chidziwitso ndipo potero amavumbula interlocutor athu malingaliro athu enieni ndi zolinga zathu. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake simuyenera kunyalanyaza kufunika kosankhulana.
Kuti tiphunzire zofunikira za thupi, tiyenera kuyang'anitsitsa kwambiri manja ndi manja a ena, ndikuphunziranso momwe tingawagwiritsire ntchito ndi kuwafotokozera. Chidziwitso chapadera chachinenero chopanda mawu, chomwe kawirikawiri chimasonyezedwa ndi kumverera, chingatithandize pa izi.
Kutseguka . Zisonyezero zake zimasonyezedwa ndi zizindikiro zotseguka monga, manja, palmu, mmwamba, kutsogolera kwa interlocutor, nthawi zonse zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi choonadi, moona mtima ndi momveka bwino zolinga; kumenyana; kapena kuchotsa jekete yanu pokambirana. Onetsetsani anawo, amasonyeza manja awo poyera pamene akunyada ndi zomwe achita, ndikubisa manja awo kumbuyo kwawo kapena m'matumba awo pamene ali ndi mlandu.
Kufufuza. Zitha kudziwonetsera mmaganizo a pola: kuchokera pa ndondomeko ndi maloto (pamene munthuyo akunyamula mutu wake ndi dzanja lake) ku chiyembekezo cha kudzipindulira okha (kulemera kwa mitengo ya palmu). Ichi ndichinthu chodziwikiratu - chigamba chimakhala pamtambo, ndipo cholembera chaching'ono chimatambasula pamasaya, kutanthauza kuti: "Tiyeni tiwone zomwe mungathe." Mutu woweramitsa umatanthawuza chidwi cha zokambirana komanso wogwirizanitsa makamaka. Pause pakupanga chisankho chomaliza pa nkhani inayake ndikukuta chinsalu ndikugwiritsira ntchito magalasi (kusakaniza, kusinthasintha, kusoola chopondera cha chimango).
Chisokonezo - chodziwika ndi kupuma kwapakati panthawi, kudzidalira yekha. Pambuyo pa chifuwa, manja amodzi amayesa kuyesa kudziletsa. Iwo amapanga mtundu wa chotchinga chomwe chiyenera kuteteza munthu ku zowopsa kapena zowonongeka - ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti munthu akumverera wosatetezeka. Kuyesera koyambirira kumatetezera kumagwedeza khosi ndi dzanja kapena kusinthasintha tsitsi (mwa akazi).
Kudziletsa kumawonekera mwa manja osaganizira ndi mphamvu yaikulu ya thupi, yomwe imasonyeza chilakolako chofuna kudziwa bwino kuchuluka kwa malingaliro ndi zosalamulirika. Zikuwonekera m'mabotolo omwe ali kumbuyo, kumenyana ndi dzanja limodzi kapena nkhongono ya mzake, kuponderezana kwa zida zankhondo kapena m'mphepete mwa gome. Izi ndizofanana ndi boma poyembekeza zotsatira za mayeso ofunika kapena kuyembekezera pakhomo la dokotala wa mano.
Mantha ndi khalidwe la munthu yemwe samabisa mkwiyo wake pa zokambirana, kutumizidwa kwake, kapena kuyankhulana kwake. Kuchokera kwa munthu wotereyo mumatha kumva kukanganitsa, ngati kumachotsa khosi lanu, ndikuwonetsanso kuyesayesa kusokoneza zokambiranazo, zomwe zikuwonetsedwa mu masewero ndi khutu lanu (kuyimba, kupukusa) - mtundu woyesera kuti musamvetsetse zomwe mukuzidziwitsa. Komanso, kusokonezeka kwa mitsempha mkati (kusadziŵa, kuopa) kungasonyezedwe ndi kayendedwe ka zala zakunja: mwana amamwa mwana, mwanayo amamenya pamisomali, munthu wamkulu amasewera ndi pensulo kapena pensulo.
Chibwibwi chimafotokozedwa pamene munthu ayamba kuthamanga, komanso kudula mutu wake ndi manja ake, kugwirana ndi phazi lake kapena cholembera, akujambula pamapepala, ali ndi malingaliro opanda kanthu kopanda pake.
Kuposa (kupindula pa interlocutor) kumatha kumveka kale ndi moni wogwirana chanza - munthu wodzidalira kwambiri akugwedeza dzanja lako, pamene akuyang'ana mmanja mwake. Komanso, ukulu ukuwonetseredwa mu mpando wamba "zonyansa", manja mu thumba pamene akuyankhula, akuwonekera. Koma munthu wofooka amapereka dzanja kuti apereke moni ndi chikwangwani, ndipo nthawi zina kumalipira chifukwa chofooka, munthu wotereyo akhoza kutenga "manja kumbali", zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wotsutsa. Kapena kudalira manja onse pa tebulo.
Momwe munthu akumvera mumtima mwake angathenso kudziwa momwe akukhalira atakhala pansi, komanso kuimirira pamene akuyenda. Kuyendetsa miyendo, kuwabisa pansi pa mipando ya manja ndi chizindikiro cha kusatetezeka, monga kukhala pamphepete mwa mpando, kuyika thumba pamutu pako (mtundu wazitsulo pakati pa iwe ndi munthu winayo.) Kuopa ndi kupanikizika kwa mkati kumasonyeza kupanikizana kwambiri ndi manja a cholowa kapena thumba. Kukhazikika, Kuwonetsa nkhope osasokonezeka kumatanthauza kudziletsa kwambiri. M'malo mokhala "kudula" pa mpando, kugawanika kapena kuika miyendo wina ndi mnzake kumasonyeza kusalemekeza wothandizira kapena kulera kolakwika.
Zokwanira zimakhala zosasamala mukakhala pansi: mutenge bwino, pendekani mapewa anu kumbuyo, miyendo ikuyenderera pang'ono kapena kugwirana palimodzi, kuyika manja anu pa mpando wa mpando kapena mawondo anu, mutha kugwirizanitsa lobes ya zala zanu.
Poyenda, mungathe kudziwa munthu wodalirika (thupi lolunjika, kukweza mutu, kukweza chinkhuni); kuyenda kwakukulu (kugogoda zidendene) kumapereka munthu amene sawerengera ena; kudumpha ndi masewera a kuvina amasonyeza chisamaliro ndi mantha. Kuthamanga kwake, mutu wobisika m'mapewa, kusuntha kwa mapazi, mosiyana, kumasonyeza kudzikweza ndi kuponderezedwa kwa munthu.
Munthu ali ndi mphindi zingapo kuti apange chithunzi choyamba, chomwe chimakhala chofunikira kwambiri pakupanga maganizo okhudza interlocutor osadziwika.
Makhalidwe akulu "a golide" a zokambirana zabwino:
- Valani mogwirizana ndi malo omwe msonkhano udzachitikire: masewera savala zovala, koma pamisonkhano yamalonda amavala ndi kutseguka.
- Kambiranani ndi interlocutor ndi chisangalalo ndi kumwetulira kokondweretsa.
- Pogwiritsa ntchito malonda - musamapanikize dzanja la interlocutor, komanso musagwedezeke. Kulimbikitsana kumafunika kukhala kolimba komanso kosasinthika.
- Landirani malo omasuka: musadutse manja kapena miyendo, musaphimbe nkhope yanu.
- Yang'anani maso ndi mnzanuyo, koma musapitirize. Pakati pa zokambirana za bizinesi, anthu amawonekerana nawo 30-60% a zokambirana zonse. Kuyankhulana kwa nthawi yayitali kungapangitse kuti musakonde chidwi pa zokambirana, koma mu interlocutor.
"Musakweze mawu anu, ngakhale pamene mukuchita mantha." Komanso musadziteteze nokha pansi pa mphuno zanu. Lankhulani pang'onopang'ono, kutchula momveka bwino mawu.
- Gwiritsani manja, kuwonetsa mopitirira malire kumatsimikizira mantha.
- Musatuluke phokoso losasinthasintha - musatambasule mphuno zanu, musati mufufuze, musati muthamange ndi kuseka.
- Onetsetsani mfundo za chiyanjano. Aliyense ali ndi malire ake enieni a chiyanjano. Choncho, ngati simukudziwa bwino ndi interlocutor, musamugwire kumbuyo, musamagwire manja anu ndipo musakhale pafupi kwambiri.
Njira yolankhuliranso ndi yofunikanso:
- Mukawona munthu kwa nthawi yoyamba - mudzidziwitse nokha. Lankhulani mofotokozera, kotero kuti woyimilira akhoza kukumbukira.
- Malinga ndi zomwe zikuchitika, sankhani njira yolankhulirana (mawu a mawu, voliyumu, mawu), ngakhale mawu - pambuyo pake tonse timagwiritsa ntchito maulendo osiyana kunyumba kapena pazokambirana za bizinesi.
- Pewani mawu osasinthika, mawu osokoneza mawu ndi zizindikiro za "eee," "chabwino," ndi ena.
- Musamangoganizira nokha, ngati mukufuna kulemekezedwa - phunzirani kumvera omvera.
- Lankhulani ndi anthu osadziwika pa nkhani zopanda ndale (zosangalatsa, ziweto, nyengo), kuti musapondereze chete. Sikofunika kuti poyamba muyambe kumvetsetsa za bwana wake, mnzanu kuntchito, bwenzi kapena achibale.
Mukakhala ndi kukambirana kofunikira zomwe zidzachitike m'tsogolomu, yesetsani kukumbukira sayansi yosavuta ya thupi lanu komanso kuti musamangogwiritsa ntchito mfundo zovomerezeka zokhazokha, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito njira zosavomerezeka. Zojambula, nkhope, nkhope - ichi ndi chida chosaoneka chokwaniritsa zotsatira.