Ngati muli ndi malingaliro ofunda kwambiri kwa mnyamata amene mumakumanako, mumasokonezeka mwachangu, mumasokonezeka m'mawu, mukudandaula. Ndipo nthawi zonsezi ndizosakumbukika, ndikusandulika kukhala chimodzi mwazikumbukiro zozizwitsa kwambiri za moyo wanu.
Ndizoyenera kudziwa kuti lero oimira ogonana amphamvu akhala amanyazi, choncho sikuti nthawi zonse amayamba kuitanira tsiku.
Chifukwa chake, ndizofunikira kuwapondereza pang'ono. Chinthuchi ndi chakuti achinyamata, nthawi zambiri chidwi chimaperekedwa ku zinthu zochepa. Mwachitsanzo, ikhoza kugula gawo latsopano lopulumutsira galimoto yanu, kapena mutu wanu umangowumizidwa mu ntchito. Komanso, anthu ambiri amakonza tchuthi kapena amawonekera poyambira maonekedwe awo. Pa nthawi ino, mkazi ayenera kutenga chilichonse m'manja mwake, ndikudziyesa kuti atengepo sitepe yoyamba. Kuchita koteroko sikufalikira, koma simuyenera kuopa. Ndikofunika kuti mukhale omasuka.
Kodi mungatenge bwanji njila yoyamba mwa kuitanira mnyamata ku tsiku?
Poyambirira, muyenera kusonkhanitsa zokhudzana ndi chinthu chomwe mumapembedza. Ndikofunika kupeza chomwe chiri bwalo la abwenzi ake, ndi mtundu wanji wa moyo womwe amatsogolera, kaya ali paubwenzi ndi wina aliyense. Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti mwamunayo samakhala wamanyazi, mkazi ali ndi banja, kapena ali paubwenzi ndi mtsikana wina. Chifukwa cha izi, musayambe kukambirana nanu. Pambuyo pofotokozera kuti mnyamatayo ali mfulu, alibe ubale tsopano, muyenera kufotokoza mtundu wa chibwenzi chomwe amakopeka, chomwe chili chofunikira kwa iye pamene panali maubwenzi akale ndipo chifukwa chake iwo sali zapangidwa.
Kudziwa zamatsenga koteroko kudzakuuzani momwe mungachitire molondola pamsonkhano woyamba. Komanso, ndibwino kukumbukira kuti chidziwitso chilichonse chingasokonezedwe. Choncho, khulupirirani kapena ayi - ndizochokera kwa inu, zogwiritsa ntchito zopezeka, kupeza momwe zingakhalire zodalirika. Nthawi zambiri, anthu achisoni amayesa kunyenga munthu wopemphayo m'njira zonse, zomwe zimapangitsa chidwi chake.
Tiyeni tipitirire kuntchito yotsatira pazotsatira za zochita zanu. Kuika tsiku, ngakhale loyamba, silophweka. Koma ngati ino si nthawi yoyamba, ndiye kuti simukusowa uphungu.
Tiyeni timvetsere kugonana koyenera, komwe kuli koyamba. Sikosavuta kuti tipambane woyamba pa msonkhano monga momwe tingayesere poyamba. Mwachitsanzo, chifukwa chakuti sangadzizindikire okha, powona kuti si abwino komanso okongola. Ndipotu, aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe akeawo.
Ngati muli ndi ntchito, anzanu omwe amakupezerani chinenero chodziwika, anzanu omwe angakuthandizeni nthawi iliyonse, chirichonse chidzanena kuti chirichonse sichili choipa konse. Mwinamwake muli ndi zoseketsa kwambiri kapena muli okonzeka kwambiri kuphika. Kukoma mtima, chizoloŵezi cha chilengedwe, mwinamwake mungathe, muli ndi luso la masewera. Munthu aliyense ali ndi zofuna zake. Mwinamwake, ndiwe amene anali kuyang'ana moyo wanu wonse osankhidwa anu. Mukadziwana bwino, adzatha kuyamikira zonse zomwe mumachita. Ingoyenera kukankhira izo pang'ono.
Ndikofunika, poyamba, kukhala ndi chidaliro muzochita zanu. Chifukwa amayi oterewa amakonda amuna ambiri. Bold, wotsimikizika, kwa yemwe si kovuta kulankhula poyamba ndi kuchita chinachake. Pambuyo pake, lero mkaziyo ayenera kukhala ndi makhalidwe ofanana, kuti akwaniritse mtundu uliwonse wa kupambana. Koma, izi sizikutanthawuza kuti kuchokera kuitanidwe ku msonkhano woyamba ndikofunikira kupereka chithunzi chofotokozera.
Amuna sadziwa zochitika za anthu mozama, mosiyana, amaziona ngati zovuta. Mu zinthu zoterezi, zonse ziyenera kuchoka pamtima. Lankhulani chikhumbo chanu cha msonkhano womwe ukubwera mwanjira yoteroyo, yomwe palibe mnyamata yemwe sangakane. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti mukulankhulira, pasakhale "ayi", mwachitsanzo: "Simungathe." Komanso, malingaliro sayenera kukhala mafunso. Izi ziyenera kumveka ngati izi: "Tiyeni tipite ku mafilimu!", Kapena "Ndikufuna kupita kumayambiriro a bungwe, tiyeni tipite pamodzi!". Ndikovuta kukana kutero.
Ngati mnyamatayo akuyesetsani kumverera komweko, ndiye kuti amavomereza, ndipo mwa njira zonse adzazichita kuti tsiku lanu lichitike. Ngati mnyamatayo sakukulabadira, amakana mwaulemu, ndipo adzalandira zifukwa zambiri. Ndiye inu mukhoza kuganiza kuti uyu si mwamuna wanu, ndipo kukumana naye sichoncho.
Ndibwino kuti mutengepo masitepe oyamba kumsonkhano. Mwanjira iyi, inu mukhoza kumvetsa, kumadyetsa nkhope ya malingaliro a chinthu chomwe mumapembedza kapena ayi. Ndi bwino kusiyana ndi kudziletsa nokha.