Ngati mwamuna amasiya kukonda, momwe amachitira

Kupanga maubwenzi omwe amakonda kukondana, ife ndikukhulupirira ndikukhulupirira kuti sipadzakhala malo osakhulupilira, kusagwirizana ndi kupatukana, kuti ndi chikondi chathu, ngakhale kuti chiwerengero cha mavuto osudzulana ndi zowawa za ena, chidzakhala chiyeso cha moyo ndi nthawi. Koma zaka zimapita, ndipo ndi iwo, monga sizomveka kuvomereza, ndi chikondi. Chikondi chimakhala moyo zaka zitatu ... Mawuwa adayikidwa mkamwa mwa munthu wolemba mbiri, Frederic Begbeder, ndipo adauluka padziko lonse lapansi, akupeza mayankho omveka bwino m'mitima ya okonda.

Ndipo ngakhale bukuli litatha kumapeto kwa chikhulupiliro cha chikondi chokondedwa kwa nthawi yayitali, tipitiliza kuyesa chiphunzitso ichi pa maubwenzi athu, kuwerengera zala za zaka zambiri zomwe chikondi chathu chakhalapo. Amuna saganizira kwambiri, ndipo malingaliro oterowo amathyoledwa pa pragmatism yawo. Kwa iwo zonse ndi zophweka: "Chabwino, wokondedwa! Ndiyeno onse! Sindimakonda. " Ndife zolengedwa zovuta, ndipo tikufuna kumvetsetsa momwe anthu amaganizira kwambiri. Nchifukwa chiyani unasiya kukonda? Ndi zizindikiro ziti zomwe inu mungadziwe kuti iye amachokera mu chikondi? Ndipo kodi n'zotheka kugwira mabelu awa oyambirira, powonetsera imfa ya chikondi?

Zizindikiro zikufuula kuti mwamuna anasiya kukonda

Amuna ndiwonso anthu ochokera magazi ndi mnofu, kuchokera ku mahomoni ndi psyche. Ndipo kwa iwo, zimakhalanso zachilengedwe kuti kusinthasintha kwa kanthaŵi kochepa, kusakwiya kapena chipani. Koma ngati khalidweli limatenga nthawi yaitali, ndipo nthawi ikangowonjezereka, ndi nthawi yolira. Zizindikiro zotsatirazi zikhoza kusonyeza kuti munthu wagwa chifukwa cha chikondi:

1. Kunama. Bele loyamba - munthu ayamba kunama. Mwina poyamba iye mwini sazizindikira. Sichikufuna kupweteka choonadi, chimene chimabala mkati. Iye salinso ndi chimwemwe choyembekezera mwachimwemwe, kubwerera kwawo, komanso ku funso lakuti: "Kodi ndiwe wovuta?" Amapereka "Inde". Ndipo ngakhale pamene akunena "Ndimakonda", amayesetsa, chifukwa amatsutsa mabodza, ndipo sadakonzekere choonadi.
2. Kusasamala. Kafi m'mawa amangozikonzekera yekha, ponena za kuchedwa, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri amamufikitsa pabedi, kapena amachoka patebulo ndi sangweji. Kapena adayamba kudzilola kuti asameteze usiku, kudziyesa wolemera, poyamba, zifukwa: otopa, odwala, kufika mochedwa.
3. Kukhumudwa kwambiri. Zayamba kugawana zosayenera ndikukwiyitsa chinthu chomwe sankachidziwa kale, kapena ngakhale kuganizira chinthu chabwino. "Mumalankhula zambiri ndipo mumakhala pafoni kwa nthawi yaitali!", "Kuvala mopanda pake komanso mopanda manyazi!", "Usiku umatayika pabedi ndikuchotsa bulangeti!"
4. Chiwonetsero cha osayanjanitsika. Mwamuna sasiya chidwi ndi mavuto a m'banja, zosowa ndi kumverera kwa mkazi. Amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake yaulere kutali ndi kwawo, amakana kupezeka pazochitika za pabanja ndikupita kumisonkhano ndi abwenzi ambiri.
5. Kupanda ulemu ndi manyazi. Mwamuna amagwiritsa ntchito scandals kuti awononge malo opweteka kwambiri, omwe, mwinamwake, amadziwa yekha. Amanyozetsa zonyansa ndipo satenga mawu ndi ana, pafupi kapena osadziwika.
6. Yatseka. Kukambirana kwachinsinsi, zokambirana za mavuto ndi zisankho zogwirizana zomwe zilipo kale. Mwamunayo ali mmaganizo ake. Iye kapena kawirikawiri amakhala chete, osati kuphatikizapo udindo wake kuti adziŵe za chochitika chofunikira, kapena atchulidwa kwenikweni.
7. Kunyalanyaza kugonana. Kupanga chikondi kunasanduka "luso lachinsinsi", kuchepetsa kugwira ntchito kwaukwati, kapena munthu nthawi zambiri akuukira "matenda" a chikazi omwe amatchedwa "mutu". Amapewa kugwirizana, kutaya mtima, kumpsompsona ndi kunyalanyaza zisonyezero za chikondi ndi chikondi.
8. Kuletsa kusokoneza. Kuzunzidwa kwake kwa mkwiyo kumakhala kozolowereka ndipo kumakula kukhala chiwawa. Amapsa mtima kwambiri chifukwa chabe chifukwa chomveka, chomwe nthawi zina amawoneka wosalakwa, mawu kapena kupuma. Kuyang'ana m'maso mwadzaza ndi mkwiyo, pali mantha kwa moyo ndi thanzi.

Nchifukwa chiyani unasiya kukonda?

Zizindikiro zapamwambazi, zowonekera mwa mwamuna yemwe wagwa chifukwa cha chikondi, ndi chifukwa cha chifukwa chosawakonda. Pakufotokozera izi, n'zotheka kulimbana ndi mawonetseredwe omwe mosakayikira amachititsa kugwa kwa chikondi kapena banja. Inde, mu ubale uliwonse payekha nkofunika kuika munthu "matenda" a chikondi chakufa, koma pali zifukwa zinayi zofunikira zomwe zimatsogolera izi:

1. Chikondi chatsopano. Lili ndi zolinga zazikulu za khalidwe losavomerezeka la munthu wokondedwa. Mwina, mu ubale wake wakale, amachitira ana, maudindo, chikumbumtima, ndipo sangathe kuchitapo kanthu mofulumira, koma amatha kubisa maganizo enieni.
2. Chizoloŵezi. Kwa okwatirana omwe akhala pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri, chikondi chimatha, kumangokhalira kumverera bwino, komanso kusungidwa chakukhosi kumakangano, ndewu, zifukwa, kunena kuti mwamuna amafunafuna kuchoka ndipo salepheretsa chiopsezo cha amayi.
3. Kudzichepetsa kwenikweni kwa mkazi. Mkazi yemwe, pa guwa lachikondi, amadzikayikira, ali ndi chidziwitso chake, pakapita nthawi amakhala wosangalatsa kwa mwamuna. Amafuna kumusangalatsa, kukhala wonyada komanso kumva nsanje za ena omwe amamuzungulira.
4. Kuloleza ndi kupezeka. Mwamuna - msaki mwa chirengedwe, amavutitsidwa ndi mkazi yemwe wakhala akugonjetsedwa nthawizonse, nthawizonse akudziwiratu ndipo alibe chilakolako chokopa, kupusitsa, kukwiyitsa. Iye amadzimva yekha ngati munthu weniweni, kapena amapita kufunafuna chimene akufuna ndipo amafuna "kusaka."