Chidziwitso choipa.
Ngati mwamuna wasudzulana, chifukwa chachikulu chimene sakusakwatirana ndi iwe chingakhale chokumana nacho pamoyo wa banja chomwe chinasiya zochitika zabwino kwambiri. Mwina amakumbukira mkazi wake wakale ngati mtsikana wokondeka komanso wokondedwa, yemwe anali naye bwino asanakwatirane komanso patapita nthawi, koma zomwe zaka zambiri zapitazo zinasanduka chakukwiyitsa kwenikweni, kumene iye anangomenya mapazi ake. Mutsimikizireni kuti simuli choncho, sizidzakhala zophweka. Mawu ena sali okwanira kuno, koma ndi umboni wolemetsa, kupatula nthawi yotsimikizira, ayi. Choncho, ngati ubale wanu uli wovuta, muyenera kukhala oleza mtima ndikudikirira mpaka atakhutira kuti nthawiyi siinapangidwe ndi inu pang'ono ndi kudzipatulira kochuluka. Pankhaniyi ndi zothandiza kupeza chifukwa cha kusudzulana, zolephera za mkazi wakale ndikuyesera kuti asakhale ngati iye komanso kuti asamapange zolakwa zake.
Ana.
Pakhoza kukhala njira zingapo: muli ndi ana kuchokera ku maubwenzi omwe safuna kuti akhale ndi udindo kapena ali ndi ana omwe amawopa kuti apereke kwa amayi ake opeza. Kapena mmodzi wa inu sakufuna kukhala ndi ana. Muzinthu zina ndizo vuto la ana lomwe limakhala chopunthwitsa komanso chifukwa cha kusiyana. Ngati zikuwonekeratu chifukwa chake sakwatirana, kukhala ndi malingaliro ake pa vutoli, sichidziwika bwino. Chochita ndi izo. Palibe zolemba zonse pano, kuvomerezana pa gawo lanu sikokwanira nthawizonse. Kawirikawiri, njira yabwino ndiyo kuthetsa chiyanjano ndi kufufuza mnzanu amene mumagwirizanitsa ndi lingaliro lodziwika kuti angathe kukhala ndi ana, chiwerengero chawo ndi maganizo awo kwa ana a m'mabanja apitalo.
Ndalama.
Zimakhulupirira kuti anthu samasamala kuti mkazi amapeza ndalama zingati. Koma izi sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Winawake akukumana ndi zovuta ngati mnzakeyo akukhala pakhomo ndipo sakugwira ntchito, wina sawakonda ngati mkazi wake amapanga ndalama zambiri. Sikuti anthu onse amavomereza kuti adziwe zochitika za m'banja, chifukwa nthawi zambiri sagwirizana kuti azikhala pachiwiri pambaliyi. Muyenera kuchita mogwirizana ndi zomwe zimakhumudwitsa kwambiri - ndalama zanu kapena kupezeka kwawo. Ngati munthu akufuna kuti mugwire ntchito, izi sizili zovuta. Nthawi zina, ndi chithandizo chanu, malipiro ophiphiritsira amatchulidwa, ndikwanira kwa munthu kuti muli wotanganidwa ndi chinachake osati TV ndi kuphika. Ngati banjali ndilopambana, ndipo mwamuna samakhala womasuka, ndiye kuti nkosavuta kuti chisankho chabwino chikhale chosiya ntchito yakeyo. Ndi bwino kumuthandiza kuti adzipeze yekha komanso akhale ndi ndalama zambiri monga momwe akufunira.
Makolo.
Kawirikawiri chifukwa chimene iye sakwatira kapena kukwatirana akhoza kukhala osagwirizana ndi achibale ake. Ziribe kanthu ngati pali kutsutsana ndi amayi anu kapena amayi ake za inu - nthawi zonse ndizovuta. Palibe njira ina, kupatula pa chisankho chomanga ubwenzi wawo popanda achibale awo, kuphatikizapo lingaliro lokhala limodzi ndi iwo.
Ufulu.
Amuna akuopa kutaya chinyengo cha ufulu umene amawoneka kuti ali nacho. Izi ndizochitika zachikhalidwe ndi abwenzi, kugonana kosavuta ndi atsikana omwe mumakonda, osachoka panyumbamo popanda tsatanetsatane. Ngati simunamalize mwamuna wamwamuna, ngati mwamuna amayamikira ubale wanu, ndiye kuti asungwana akhoza kutaya moyo wake, koma ndibwino kuti asasokoneze abwenzi. Pamapeto pake, amawadziwa kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo inu, mwinamwake, muli ochepa. Zimadalira mkaziyo ngati mwamunayo adzamasuka komanso ngati ali ndi chikhumbo chobwerera kunyumba, osati kugona ndi bwenzi lina.
Akafunsidwa chifukwa chake sakwatirana, mazana ambiri a mayankho angapezeke. Nthawi zina chifukwa chake ndikumangokhalira kusunga mkazi wopanda chidziwitso chokwanira, nthawi zina ndizoopsa kuti musakwaniritse ntchito yanu ya conjugal komanso nthawi zonse zomwe mkazi angafune. Amuna nthawi zambiri amapita ku chirichonse, koma kuti azisunga namwali wawo wa pasipoti. Musathamangire, imani ndikulimbikitsana paukwati. Chisankho ichi chikhoza kukankhidwa ndi chikondi chenicheni, chisamaliro komanso kusowa kwa zolakwika zomwe zimapangitsa akazi oopsya kwambiri m'malingaliro ake. Ngati mumaphunzira zizoloŵezi zake ndi zokonda zake, yesetsani mofatsa ndi mosasinthasintha, ndiye kuti khomo la ofesi yolembera lidzatseguka ngakhale bwalo lovuta kwambiri.