Ndipo izi sizosadabwitsa, chikhalidwe ndi chilengedwe chachilengedwe cha mkazi, ali ndi udindo wokhala ndi munthu. Ndipo mochuluka, koma nthawizina nthawi zina zimabwera pozindikira kuti munthu yemwe Nth anakhala naye nthawi yayitali si yabwino yomwe mkaziyo akufuna. Pali zifukwa chikwi zokonda mwamuna. Zoonadi, izi ndizoonekera kwake, ndipo kachiwiri, nzeru zake ndi luntha lake.
Makhalidwe ofunika akuphatikizidwanso, omwe akuphatikizapo chisangalalo, kulimba mtima, kulimba mtima ndi makhalidwe ena ambiri. Koma nthawi zina, ngakhale kupezeka kwawo sikukutanthauza kuti uyu ndiye munthu amene mkaziyo akumufuna pamoyo. Ndipo, ndiye pakubwera nthawi yomwe mumagawana ndi mwamuna. Ngakhale chikondi cha mkazi chizimatha, si nthawi yosavuta komanso yosavuta m'moyo. Kaŵirikaŵiri, njirazi zimaphatikizidwa ndi zovuta, chifukwa chakuti amayi ambiri amadziimba mlandu poyamba kugonana ndi amuna amphamvu kwambiri.
Zifukwa zokhala ndi munthu wokondedwa, zikhoza kukhala zosiyana kwambiri. Malingana ndi ziwerengero, nthawi zambiri, chifukwa cholekanitsa amuna ndi akazi ndicho chifukwa cha nkhanza zapakhomo. Kawirikawiri, munthu akamagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ya nkhonya, kuti athetse mkangano wa banja. Nkhanza zapakhomo zimalangidwa ndi lamulo, koma sizingatheke kuti mkazi amve, atetezedwe.
Kugawananso kumatha kuyamba ndi kuwononga chizoloŵezi, ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuphatikizapo mwamuna. Ayi, silinena za zizoloŵezi monga kusuta. Gawo lofala kwambiri ndilo kupatulidwa chifukwa cha kumwa kwambiri mowa, kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Monga lamulo, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo amenewa kumapangitsa kuti zinthu zisawonongeke komanso chitonthozo cha banja. Mwamuna ndi wovuta kwambiri kukonza. Nthawi yochepa ngati woimira chigonjetso cholimba akhoza kuthetsa vutoli. Kulankhula za kulamulira, nthawi zambiri, poyang'ana khalidwe lofooka la munthu, makamaka ndondomeko yake yosayendetsa bwino m'banja kapena muwiri, mkazi sangathe kuima, ndipo ndiye woyambitsa magawano. Zifukwa zazikuluzi, izi ndizofala kwambiri, zomwe zimapezeka osati ku Russia, komanso m'mayiko ena ambiri padziko lapansi.
Chifukwa chosiyira munthu wokondedwa, izi ndi zifukwa zazikulu. Mkazi sangasokoneze banja ndi kutonthoza. Nthawi zina, ndizoti amuna okhawo amafunika kuzindikira zolakwika zawo ndi zochita zawo zomwe amagwiritsira ntchito kwa amayi. Chifukwa cholekanitsa amuna ndi akazi, chitha kukhala ngati kusamvetsetsana, komwe kumachitika pakati pa oimira azimayi onse atatha nthawi yeniyeni yokhala pamodzi. Mowa, chiwawa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, osadziletsa, si mndandanda wokwanira kuti mkazi ayambe kutembenuka ndikutsegula chitseko. Nthaŵi imene lingaliro la "ufulu wa amayi" ndi "ndondomeko ya amayi" linalikusowa linatayika m'chilimwe. Ndikofunika tsopano kukhalabe ndi chiyanjano wina ndi mnzake kuti tipeze mgwirizano weniweni wa banja. Choyamba, mosakayikira, nkofunikira kuti mkazi ayesetse zambiri. Mwamuna ayenera kuphunzitsidwa, ndipo sikuli koyenera kuyika zonse pamutu pake ndi kukhala ndi khalidwe losayenerera mwa iye.
Zifukwa zosiyana ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu zikhoza kukhala zosiyana, koma zotsatira zake ndi chimodzi. Mosakayikira, kuti mupewe mikhalidwe yovuta, muyenera kudziwa nthaŵi imene muyenera kuchoka mwakachetechete.