Yoyamba ndikutamanda, amene adzakweza maonekedwe ake ndi mawonekedwe okongola, ndi liwu lofewa.
Mtundu wachiwiri ndi wamwano. Kulankhula kwake ndi koopsa komanso kochititsa manyazi, samangokhalira kukondweretsa, komanso kuti amulepheretse mkaziyo, kuika pamtundu wotere kuti zingakhale bwino kuti aziyang'anira. Amuna amenewa nthawi zambiri amawoneka oledzeretsa kuposa momwe alili, ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mawu okhwima.
Amuna a mtundu wachitatu angasandulike kukhala fano la miyala, osanyalanyaza zozungulira. Iye akuyembekeza kuti kunyalanyaza kwake ndi chithunzi chidzamupweteketsa mkazi, ndipo iye adzawakonda iwo.
Mukadziwa njira zonyengerera amuna, zimakhala zosavuta kusankha mndandanda wa zochitika payekha.
Pamene flatterer, Casanova, adzalandira ulemu wake, akuyamika kukongola kwanu, timauza mkazi kuti asamamwetulire, osamveketsa kapena kugwedeza. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti sakukuyamikirani kwambiri, kuchuluka kwake komwe akufuna kukusokonezani ndikupeza zosokoneza pazokambirana. Gwiritsani ntchito malamulo ake a masewerawo, zikomo, ndikuyamika pobwezera. Yesetsani kukhala ndi chiyamiko chanu pansi pawiri ndipo muyenera kuganizira za izo. Kwa kanthawi pang'ono munthuyo watayika, kukumba zomwe wanena, ndipo panthawi imeneyo mwayi udzakhala pambali pako. Pitani ku zoyipa, mufunseni, tsabola ndi mafunso okhudza ntchito ndi zosangalatsa. Yesani kuphunzira zambiri za iye, kodi ndiye munthuyo amene mumamufuna? Ndipo mochepa momwe mungathere, perekani zambiri za inu nokha.
Ngati munthu ayamba kukhala wamwano, musamamvere mawu ake achipongwe, musasonyeze kuti mwakhumudwa kapena mukudabwa. Kuchita mwankhanza ndi njira yokhayo yomwe ingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino, mwinamwake kukutsutsani. Adzayesera kukuphatikizani mumtsutsano - palibe chifukwa chake. Mosasamala kanthu za nkhani ya mkangano - luso, ndale, chirengedwe - ndiwe wokha amene mumamukonda, ndipo sakudziwa njira ina iliyonse yobwera kwa iwe. Pano, chitetezo chabwino ndi kuyamba kufunsa mafunso. Munthu wokakamizika kuwayankha adzaleka kuyimba kwake ndipo adzakhumudwa pang'ono ndi malo ake. Ndi nthawi yoyamba kuukira. Lembani ndi mafunso, ndipo mudzadabwa kwambiri kuti izizizira msanga ndikubwerera ku njira yolankhulirana. Pano izo zidziwika ngati kuli koyenera kuzidziwa izo, kaya munthu wokongola amabisa pambuyo pa mawu achipongwe kapena ayi. Kawirikawiri yankho lidzakhala lolimbikitsa, ndipo kunyenga ndi kusasamala ndi chigoba, chimene munthu wamba amadzibisa.
Njira yosavuta yolimbana ndi "miyala yosema". Poyamba ndi munthu wosafikika kwambiri, koma chinsinsi chake n'chabwino kumufunsa, ngati ngati akudutsa, funso linalake lomwe limafuna yankho lachindunji, ndipo adzasanduka mbali yodzitetezera, atachoke mu chisokonezo chake, Mephistopheles. Ndiyeno kawirikawiri mndandanda wa mafunso aumwini uyenera kuwatsatira: kumene amakhala, momwe amapezera, ndi zina zotere. Mumasewera naye, popeza zonse zomwe ankafuna ndizo kuti mubwere koyamba ndikukhala ndi udindo pa zonse zomwe zimachitika. Koma nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi mwayi mukulankhulana, ndipo ndi okhawo amene mungadziwe kutalika kwake. Musalole kuti anthu azikutengerani kukulankhulana kufikira mutatsimikiza kuti mwawasunga.
Amuna amakopeka ndi amayi olimba mtima, odzidalira, okonda kudzikonda - amawatsutsa, ayenera kupambana. Musaganize kuti amuna amaopa akazi amakono, odalirika, osayenerera. Iwo samawopa iwo konse, iwo amawakonda iwo. Ngati mutakumana ndi munthu yemwe amakopeka ndi inu, yesetsani kumufotokozera momveka bwino. Sonyezerani kuti mukusangalala ndi kukambirana naye, musonyeze chidwi chake pamoyo wake, zokondweretsa. Ndiye, mothandizidwa ndi zopempha zing'onozing'ono (kubweretsa galasi, kulowetsa mpando), kulimbitsa umwini wake ndi ulemu kwa inu. Ndipo popeza adadziwona kuti ndiwe mwini wanu, inu mumakhala bwino: mnzanu watsopano amayamba kukutetezani kuzinthu za amuna ena, ndipo maganizo ake adzauka kwambiri mukamudziwitsa kuti muli naye. Palibenso china chomwe chingakulitse kudzikuza kwa munthu ndi chidwi chake mwa iwe kuposa kukulimbana (ngati akupambana nthawi zonse).
Ngati munthu akufuna kuti ena adzilemekeze, akulimbika, ndalama, zomwe amapeza, ndiye kuti mkazi ayenera kuyamikira kukongola kwake. Mwamuna yemwe si waulesi kwambiri kubwereza mkazi wake tsiku ndi tsiku: "Mulungu wanga, ndiwe wokongola bwanji!" - akhoza kumverera kuti ali otetezeka kwambiri: sadzakakamizika kusamba mbale, kuyika malipiro ake onse patebulo, kubwereranso ku sitolo. Ndipo mosiyana ndi zimenezo, mkazi, ngakhale atcheru kumayang'ana maonekedwe ake pambali mwa mwamuna, msanga msangamsanga akhale wochepa: adzakhumudwa, kudandaula za zilonda zake zambiri, akuwomba komanso, pomaliza, imfa yake. Mkhalidwe wa mwamuna kwa mkazi makamaka umatsimikiziridwa ndi chikhumbo "chakudodometsa," kudabwa, chifukwa cha osangalala, kudabwa ndi nkhani zopanda pake. Mkaziyo motere ali molimba pansi, sadzabwera kudzagwedeza amuna ndi zinthu zomwe sanakhale nazo m'moyo wake. Iye adzakondwera kudzimva yekha. Ali ndi zokwanira izi, ndi mphamvu, ndi chidwi, ndi chipiriro. Akazi kuposa chirichonse padziko lapansi amavomereza zodabwitsa zokondweretsa.
Ngati mwamuna akufuna kuchotsa mkazi wokhumudwa, mum'gulitse tsiku lililonse chinthu chochepa. Ngati mkazi amakhala katundu wolemetsa kwa mwamuna, samagula kanthu kalikonse kwa iye yekha, komabe amusiya yekha kwa ola limodzi pamene abwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito ndikumupatsa mwayi wochita zomwe akufuna. Amuna amafunika kukhala chete ngati kusambira komwe amasangalala kuti azitenthetsa. Mofananamo, amai okhudzidwa amafunika kansalu kakang'ono kamene kakuwatsitsimutsa ngati madzi ozizira. Amuna samamva kufunika koyankhula kwa nthawi yaitali pa foni, chifukwa chazimayi - ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zosangalatsa kwambiri. Amafunika ola limodzi pa tsiku kuti apeze bwino. Amuna amafunikira ora ili kuti akhale chete. Pythagoras atanena kuti: "Mwamuna wabwino, ngati mukufuna kuti mwamuna wanu azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu yocheza ndi inu, yesetsani kupeza zosangalatsa zambiri, zokondweretsa, kudzichepetsa komanso chifundo m'dera lina lililonse."
Kusunga mwamuna ndi kulimbikitsa banja, mkazi ayenera kukumbukira ndi kusunga malamulo 7 oyenera m'moyo wa banja.
1. Musamamwe "kumwa" mwamuna. Kwa wochenjera ndemanga yothandiza ndi yolondola idzabwera kamodzi, kwa opusa - ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwake, sikudzafike.
2. Musayese kubwezeretsanso munthu. Mu mgwirizano pakati pa anthu, chinthu chachikulu sikuti musiye munthu kuti asakhale yekha, musamukakamize kuti asinthe zizolowezi zomwe zimamupangitsa kukondweretsa, kupatula ngati, ndithudi, savulaza ena.
3. Perekani mwamuna wanu ndi zizindikiro za chidwi ndikufunanso zomwezo. Zizindikiro za chidwi ndizo maonekedwe a maukwati abwino. Nkofunika kokha kuti sizowopsa kwambiri komanso zowonjezera.
4. Musanyoze mwamuna wanu pamaso pa alendo, achibale, achibale, ana. Mawu ovuta, ngakhale atakhala abwino, ayenera kugwirizana. Kuonjezera apo, kutsutsa mwatsatanetsatane kwa wina ndi mnzake kumabweretsa mavuto m'banja, kusamvana, kusokonezeka maganizo, kuwononga mgwirizano m'banja.
5. Kumbukirani zinthu zabwino zokha. Kukhoza kukumbukira zabwino ndiko kukhoza kuiwala zoipa.
6. Khalani aulemu. Pazifukwa zina, anthu ena abwino komanso olemekezeka omwe amagwira ntchito m'banja amakhala amwano, omwe amawalamula nthawi zonse, kuwaphunzitsa, kuwatsutsa.
7. Samalani thanzi lanu ndi okondedwa anu. Nzeru za ku China zimati: "Thanzi ndilo chuma choyamba, ndipo chachiwiri ndi banja losangalala." Tsatirani umoyo wa mwamuna wake, mumupange iye kupita kwa dokotala m'kupita kwa nthawi, kufufuzidwa, kukayezetsa chithandizo. Munthu yemwe samasamala za thanzi lake ndi wabwino kwambiri, chifukwa matenda ake amaletsa katundu wake pamabetwe achibale ndi abwenzi ake.
Zindikirani kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi wake, amene akhala m'banja lalitali, ayamba kufanana. Inde, ngati okwatirana amakhala mwamtendere ndi mgwirizano, amatsatirana wina ndi mzake, amayankha mofananamo ndi zochitika, amakhala ndi zokonda ndi zizolowezi zomwezo. Iwo samangokhala mbali ndi mbali, amakhala pamodzi wina ndi mzake, choncho aliyense ali ndi ufulu kunena: "Moyo wanu ndi moyo wanga."