Kusintha anthu kumapita chifukwa chosiyana. Nthawi zina izi zimachitika mwangwiro komanso zopanda pake. Zimakhala kuti munthu amasankha kusintha, chifukwa amakwiya ndi wokondedwa wake ndipo amafuna kubwezera. Izi ndizo pokhapokha ataperekedwa, ambiri amayamba kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa ndipo sadziwa choti achite. Mwachitsanzo, amayi ena akudabwa: bwanji ngati ndikunyengerera mwamuna wanga ndi bwenzi lake? Zikakhala choncho, ndikofunikira kupanga chisankho choyenera, chomwe chidzalingaliridwa, choyenera komanso chodziwikiratu.
Choncho, mungachite chiyani ngati mumanyengerera mwamuna wanu ndi bwenzi lake? Choyamba, ndikofunika kumvetsa chifukwa chake mkaziyo anachita izi. Chimene chinakhala chifukwa chake ndi chomwe chinamukakamiza iye kuti asinthe. Pakhoza kukhala zambiri zomwe mungasankhe, ndipo tidzakambirana zofunikira.
Chilakolako
Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti kwa zaka zambiri takhala pafupi ndi munthu ndikumuchitira mosiyana kapena mwaubwenzi, ndipo mwadzidzidzi timayamba kumuwona kuchokera kumbali inayo ndikumverera kukopa. Wina akhoza kuthana ndi chilakolako ichi, koma wina akukwera "mudziwe ndi mutu." Ndipo mutatha kuchitapo kanthu, zimabwera pakuzindikira kuti mwasintha wokondedwa wanu ndipo mukuwopa. Kodi mungatani ngati mukuchita zimenezi? Ngati mkazi akuganiza kuti wachita chiwembu ndi bwenzi lake mopusa komanso kuti amakonda mwamuna wake yekha, ndiye kuti nkhani yofananayo ikhonza kubisika. Inde, kokha ngati mukutsimikiza kuti mnzanu samuuza mwamuna wake. Ngati izi zichitika, ndiye kuti mudzakhala wovuta kwambiri. Choncho, mungathe kukhala chete pa izi pokhapokha mukhala ndi chidaliro mwa munthu wachiwiri.
Ngati mwasankha kunena, konzekerani kuti mutha kuwononga maubwenzi ndi mwamuna wanu ndi bwenzi lake. Mwamuna akhoza kungokusiyani nonse awiri, ndipo mnzanu adzakuimbani mlandu wothetsa ubale wawo. Kotero, mu nkhani iyi, ndi kwa inu kusankha ngati kuli koyenera kuti akhale woona mtima kapena bwino kukhalabe ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika. Inde, mukhoza kuthana ndi chikumbumtima chanu, koma n'zovuta kufotokoza chilichonse, chifukwa aliyense amasankha zoyenera kuchita.
Kubwezera
Ngati munapita kukabera mwamuna wanu kubwezera, ndiye kuti mumamufuna kuti adziwe za izo. Muzochitika izi, pali funso limodzi lokha: momwe mungagwirire ndi bwenzi lake. Ndipotu, ngati mkazi wasintha ndi mwamuna yemwe adziwa kwa zaka zambiri ndi amene amakhulupirira, ndiye, nthawi zambiri, munthu sangathe kumukhululukira mnzakeyo ndi kusokoneza ubwenzi wake ndi iye. Zoonadi, ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu, mwachinsinsi, sayenera kugwirizanitsa ubwenzi wake, komabe ndi bwino kulingalira momwe ubale wamphamvu uliri ngati mwamunayo atasintha mwamtima mnzake ndi mkazi wake. Choncho, ngati mwasankha kubwezera, ndiye kuti mukufunikira kuti mugwirizanitse anthu, kuti mupeze kukhutira. Ngakhale adakali kukhulupirira kuti kubwezera sikungathandize konse. Koma pano aliyense ayenera kusankha yekha ngati avomerezana ndi mawu awa kapena ayi.
Chikondi
Chabwino, yotsiriza, njira yovuta kwambiri - mkazi anasintha, chifukwa adagwidwa ndi chikondi. Mkhalidwe uno, nthawi zonse ndi kofunika kukhala oona mtima ndi ife eni ndi anthu omwe sali osiyana ndi ife. Ngati mukumva kuti mwakondana ndi bwenzi la mwamuna wanu, ndipo akubwezeretsani, simuyenera kuthawa kumverera kwanu ndikuyesa kusunga banja lanu. Pankhaniyi, mumangopangitsa anthu atatu osasangalala. Mwamuna wanu adzalandirabe kuti pakati panu simudzakhalanso ndi malingaliro awo, ndipo zinsinsi zanu zimayamba kumuzunza ndipo posachedwa kapena ubalewo ukagwabe. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi bwino kuvomereza moona mtima zonse mwakamodzi. Inde, mwamuna wanu sangasangalale ndi nkhaniyi, ndipo, mwinamwake, chiyanjano chanu chidzawonongeka kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo mwinamwake kwamuyaya. Komabe, mudakudziwabe kuti mwachita chinthu choyenera, ndipo mwamuna wanu amadziwa kuti ngakhale atapwetekedwa, amachitadi moona mtima. Kumbukirani kuti chikondi sichikhoza kumangidwa pa bodza. Kotero ngati mukufuna kukhala osangalala - tiuzeni za chiwembu chanu.