Nkhanza, mwinamwake, ndi chinthu chowopsya kwambiri komanso chosayenera chomwe chingakhale pachibwenzi. Ndipo pamene wokondedwa amasintha, kupweteka ndi kuvutika, mkwiyo ndi chidani zimamuzunza munthu. Mkhalidwe uwu ndi zovuta kwambiri, koma nkofunika kuti mukhazikike pansi ndipo musapereke maganizo. Pambuyo pake, mkwiyo, monga mukudziwira, sali mlangizi wabwino kwambiri. Ndipo kuti musaswe nkhuni, muyenera kuwonetsa zonse ndikuzimvetsa. Komanso musapeze tsatanetsatane wa zomwe zinachitika. Nchifukwa chiyani mukufunikira kudziwa izi? Nchifukwa chiyani mukudziipitsa? Pambuyo pake, muvomerezana, ndikosavuta kukhululukira zowonongeka kusiyana ndi zonse zomwe zidzakuzunzani kwa nthawi yaitali. Palibe chiwonetsero cha kusintha, nthawi zonse ndi zachiwerewere komanso zachiwerewere. Koma anthu ambiri akudandaula za funso: ngati zonsezi zikuchitika, kodi mungakhululukire chiwembu?
Pa chifukwa ichi, pali malingaliro ambiri. Ena amakhulupirira kuti ngati mutachita kamodzi, ndiye kuti pitirizani. Ena amapereka mwayi. Mulimonsemo, muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino kuti kusintha kumakhala kolakwa koposa mnzanu yemwe wasintha. Inde, ndiko kulondola. Pambuyo pake, anthu samasintha basi kotero zikutanthauza kuti iwo sakonda chinachake mwazochita za wokondedwa, chinachake chinali kusowa. Choncho, muyenera kumvetsetsa nokha ndikukhululukira mnzanuyo, koma nokha. Ndikhululukireni ine chifukwa chosayesa kukondana. Ndipo munthu akazindikira izi, adzakhala ndi mwayi wokonza chilichonse ndikubwezeretsa chimwemwe ndi kuthetsa malingaliro.
Pali lingaliro lakuti chinyengo chimayendetsedwa ndi zonyenga, kuti posapita nthawi aliyense "amayenda kumanzere." Izi ndi zolakwika kwenikweni. Ndani amalepheretsa miyoyo yawo kusiyanitsa ndikuyanjananso? Kwa ichi mukusowa chilakolako chokha ndi kulingalira pang'ono. Yesani kufanizitsa kutsutsana ndi kuchotsedwa ntchito. Kodi iwo amatsutsa ogwira ntchito, omwe akuthandiza bungwe kuti likhale ndi ntchito zawo? Ayi, ndithudi. Kapena chitsanzo china. Kodi mupita ku filimu yomwe mumasewera kanema tsiku lirilonse? Mwachibadwa, mudzayang'ana zosiyanasiyana. Choncho, ngati ubale wanu ndi ndondomeko yovuta yomwe sangathe kuphwanyidwa ndi yomwe iyenera kumamatira, ndiye kuti mzakeyo adzapita kukafunafuna zatsopano. Koma akhoza kusinthidwa pamodzi. Pali chiwerengero chachikulu cha zosankha momwe mungatulutsire adrenaline. Kungakhale kulumpha ndi parachute, kukwera mmapiri, ndi kuyenda pa ngalawa. Zonse zimadalira zomwe mumakonda.
Ndipo ngati mumakhululukira kuperekedwa kwa mnzanuyo m'mawu okha, osadzimvetsa nokha, ndiye kuti ubalewu sukhalitsa nthawi yaitali. Posakhalitsa adzayenera kutha. Ndipotu, pakadali pano, mnzanuyo sangathe kukutsutsani chifukwa cha chinthu china chilichonse, kufotokozera zolephera zanu, monga mkwiyo ndi chidani zidzapitiriza kuwira ndipo mudzayankha zonyansa zanu zonse, ndikuwongolerani. Komanso, wokondedwayo amakumbutsidwa nthawi zonse za ntchito yake, ndipo amasankha kuti ndi kosavuta kuyamba bwino ubale watsopano womwe sungatope, momwe sipadzakhala mikangano nthawi zonse ndi kufufuza.
Zolakwitsa ndi zolephera ziyenera kufufuzidwa mwa inueni. Ndipo kawirikawiri, kusakhulupirika kuli ngati matenda. Ndi bwino kuteteza. Musamayembekezere kuti mnzanuyo akhumudwe mu chiyanjano, chitanipo mwamsanga. Ndipotu, ndizomveka kuti ngati palibe chifukwa, sipadzakhala kusakhulupirika. Yesani kuganiza zofuna za wokondedwa, ngati sizikugwira ntchito, ndiye pamapeto pake, phunzirani. Ndipo chitanipo kanthu. Ndiyeno moyo wanu ndi maubwenzi anu zidzakubweretsani chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe chokha, ndipo simudzakhala mafunso, muyenera kukhululukira kusakhulupirika kapena ayi.