Ngati chinyengo cha munthu chisanakhale chokwanira, tsopano, munthu wosinthidwa amatsutsidwa mwamphamvu ndi anthu.
Ngakhale zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi zapitazo, chiwombankhanza cha amuna sichinafotokozedwe. Aliyense adadziwa za izi, koma adakhala chete, akulekerera ndi kuvomereza momwemo. Maukwati sanawonongeke kumanja ndi kumanzere chifukwa chakuti munthuyo sanali wokhulupirika mpaka theka lake lachiwiri.
Tsopano zinthu ndi zosiyana. Ponena za kusakhulupirika, kufuula pamakona onse, osati kuwerengera izi zokha komanso zapamtima. Chimene sichiyenera kubweretsedwa kukhoti la anthu.
Azimayi nthawi zonse amachitira mantha. Zoona, nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kukhulupirira zinthu zabwino. Koma chimodzimodzi: khulupirirani-musakhulupirire, ndipo mantha awa amadza pafupi nthawi yomweyo, pamodzi ndi kumverera komweko. Pali chikondi - pali mantha opandukira. Izi zikusonyeza kuti kuyambira pachiyambi, mkazi ayamba kudzikonzekera yekha pazinthu zina zoipa. Izi zikanapewedwera ngati maganizo abwino kwa amuna osakhulupirika adakhazikitsidwa kale. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti tiyenera kubwerera ndikubwerera ku nthawi za makolo athu. Dziwani ichi chodabwitsa ngati nkhani. Ayi! Kuchita bwino pochitira nkhanza amuna - kumangokhala ndi njira zina zamaganizo zomwe zidzapulumutse psyche yazimayi kuvutika kosafunikira, koyenera. Ndikofunika kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito bwino, kuchitapo kanthu ndi kuchitapo kanthu mokwanira vuto liri lonse, ngakhale kuzinthu zodabwitsa. Gwirizitsani kuti malingaliro oyenera pa zochitika zonse za moyo wathu amakulolani kuti muyang'ane mowona mkhalidwewo ndi kutenga chisankho chosazizira chomwe sichiri chophweka. Zonse zokhuza kusadziwa kuwerenga ndi kuwerenga, ndiye chifukwa chake kusakhulupirika m'maganizo mwathu ndizosokoneza maganizo komanso njira zingapo zothetsera vutoli.
Kulemekezeka kwaumunthu kosakhulupilira sikungowonjezereka, makamaka, onse omwe akuyimira kugonana kwambiri. Ndipo akazi, mosiyana, amakhulupirira kuti amaponderezedwa, kuchititsidwa manyazi komanso kukhumudwa kwa kuya kwa moyo ndi sitepe iyi. Ambiri samathamangira kuchoka pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika, amatsimikizira ovulalawo kuti amamukonda kwambiri komanso akumverera kuti amanjenjemera. Anthu ena amatha ngakhale kulimbikitsa mkazi, kuti mwanjira imeneyi amulemekeze kwambiri. Akufotokozera izi ponena kuti sakufuna kukakamiza kuti akhale pachibwenzi pa nthawi yomwe adadwala, kapena sakanakonzeka. Chifukwa chake chingapezeke nthawizonse. Apa chirichonse chimadalira nzeru za munthu. Motero, akuwoneka kuti atidziwitsa kuti palibe manyazi. Amuna ndi mitala mwachilengedwe. Chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwa amuna.
Ngati mwamuna sali wokondedwa kwa inu, ndiye kuti sizothandiza, iwo akuvutika. Tinayankhula ndi kufalikira m'njira zosiyanasiyana, panjira yochotsa zoipa, koma zochitika zomwezo.
Ngati mwamuna ndi wokondedwa kwa inu, ndipo simukufuna kugawanika naye, yesetsani kuyang'ana-ndi-kuona maganizo, othandizira awiri. Pa nthawiyi, kaya nokha kapena ndi thandizo la katswiri (yemwe walandiridwa), muyenera kumanganso maonekedwe abwino pamtendere wamunthu. Ali kuti, "maganizo abwino" - mungasankhe nokha ndikukhazikitsa zonse zoyenera.
Kukonzekera kochepa chabe: ndikofunikira kuchita kuchokera pakuona chikondi chachikulu.
Palibe njira yopezera chimwemwe, palibe 100% chitsimikizo kuti mgwirizano wanu udzathetsa vutoli. Choncho, tiyenera kupeza njira zodzipangira zokhazokha, kupanga mapangidwe atsopano a dziko lapansi, omwe pambuyo pake adzathandizira kuti azisamalira osakhulupilira amuna ndikuwayankha mokwanira. Ndipo zida zoterozo, chitetezo cha m'maganizo chingakhale chokwanira kuti chiwonongeko cha abambo chikudutseni, chowopsyeza kuti ndinu okonzeka kuopseza. Ndipo ndani akudziwa, mwinamwake ndiwe amene, mutatha kukhala ndi moyo wautali ndi wosangalala, lembani malangizo kwa ana: "momwe mungachitire zosakhulupirika za amuna molondola".