Kudzimva kukanidwa kuchokera kwa munthu kumaonekera pamene munthu ayamba kumva kuti alibe kanthu, ndipo sangathe kusintha. Komanso, kumverera kotereku kungabwere pamene munthu wina ali ndi zolakwika, koma sakudziwa bwino. Zikatero, munthu sakondwera naye mwini, ngakhale kuti samvetsa chifukwa chake chosakhutira.
Ngati munthu ali ndi cholinga chomvetsetsa yekha, watha kale kale kuti asinthe maganizo ake kwa iye mwini. Koma muyenera kumvetsa bwino. Kodi mumadziteteza bwanji? Amawerenga mabuku apadera, amafufuza mtundu wawo. Zochita zonsezi ziyenera kutengedwa ngati njira yachilengedwe pamoyo wa munthu, mwachitsanzo, kudya kapena kupuma. Munthu ayenera kudzikonzekera yekha osati zolinga zadziko lonse. Pambuyo pake, mutatha kukwaniritsa cholinga chimodzi, wina akuwonekera, omwe mukufuna kuti mukwaniritse. Moyo wa munthu ukhale womasuka komanso wodekha. Njira zonse ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa pofuna kupeza chisangalalo kuchokera m'moyo. Koma anthu omwe ali oyenerera, amadzizunza okha ndi zolinga zosayembekezereka, komanso momwe angagwirire ntchito. Iwo amawopsyeza ndi kusagwira nkhope mu matope. Anthu oterewa ayenera kukhala angwiro, adzapanganso zofuna zomwezo kwa ena.
Ngakhale, ngati mumayang'ana pozungulira, palibe chabwino padziko lapansi. Anthu abwino amapita nawo okha. Kotero kukangana kumayamba. Ena, kuti akwaniritse ungwiro, achite zonse zomwe zingatheke ndi zosatheka, kudzizunza, kuzunza, ndi kudzitcha okha mitundu yonse ya mawu. Munthu akazindikira kuti sali wangwiro, amatsimikiza kuti sangathe kukonda ndi kuvomereza yekha. Kaŵirikaŵiri osati anthu oterowo amadzipangitsa okha kudzimva okha kuti chikondi chidzakwaniritsidwa. Iwo samamvetsa kuti kudzikonda komweko sikukuwonjezera kwa iwo makhalidwe abwino. Kukonda nokha kumangofanizidwa ndi chikondi cha mayi pa mwana wake. Amayi amakonda mwana osati chinachake, koma chifukwa chakuti ali nacho. Pankhaniyi, izi siziyenera kukhala zofunikira, momwe mumaganizira, momwe mukuwonekera kapena momwe mukuyendera mu moyo uno.
Ziribe kanthu ngati munthu ali ndi mnzanu. Ngati munthu adzipanga zolinga zabwino ndipo nthawi zonse samakhutitsidwa ndi iye mwini, izi sizidzamuthandiza kukhala wangwiro. Kuonjezera apo, sikumunyamula pamaso pa ena komanso m'maso mwake. Kuti mukwaniritse chinachake, muyenera kumvetsera mwachidwi zokhumba zanu ndi zenizeni. Musapewe zoipa. Chikondi, mukhoza kudzivomereza nokha. Koma poyamba munthuyo ayenera kuzindikira chimene akufuna. Ayeneranso kudzidalira yekha ndi ena. Komanso, munthu angadalire bwanji iye mwini ndi ena ngati alibe chikondi?
Komabe, anthu ochepa okha amadzikonda okha. Koma ngati izi zichitika, munthu amafunikira mwamsanga dokotala. Choncho, akuvutika maganizo kwambiri. Pachifukwa ichi, ntchito za katswiri wa zamaganizo sizidzamuthandiza ngakhale. Chifukwa kuvutika maganizo kumachitidwa mophatikizapo mankhwala ndi psychotherapy. Kodi pansi pa mawu akuti "Sindimakonda ndekha"? Izi ndizoyamba, kuyitanidwa kwa ena pafupi ndi anthu. Mwamunayo amamupempha anthu okondedwa kwambiri za chifundo komanso okondedwa.
Mwa njira, amai ambiri amalankhula mawu ngati "kukonda ndi kuvomereza okha" kapena "kumvetsa." Mawu awa amai amagwiritsira ntchito mwayi wopeza mwayi wosangalala ndi moyo. Ngakhale mphamvu yazimayi ndikuti siopa kuwonetsa zofooka zake. Ngati sakuvutika, ndithudi amayesera kusintha chinachake pamoyo wake, komanso dziko lake lenileni. Mwachibadwa, zambiri mwa izi zimadalira munthuyo. Koma amayi ali mofulumira kuposa amuna kuzindikira zofooka zawo, ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse kuti akwaniritse cholinga chawo. Ndi makhalidwe awa omwe mkazi amayanjana naye, ndipo amakula. Muyenera kukonda ndi kuvomereza nokha osati pomenyana nokha, koma mwa kungodzipeza nokha ndi mphamvu zanu. Zinthu izi ndi zothandizira kukwaniritsa munthu kuti akwaniritse cholinga chawo, mwachitsanzo, kuvomereza, kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsetsa.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti chifukwa chachikulu cha zoperewera, kusamvana ndi kukhumudwa ndizosavomerezeka ndi munthu. Chikhalidwe ichi chikufotokozedwa muzinthu zambiri, mwachitsanzo, kudzikana nokha ndi thupi lanu, kudziyerekezera nokha ndi ena, kusakhutira ndi umunthu wake, ndi zina. Munthu nthawi zambiri amadzitema yekha ndi ena, ndipo izi sizingatheke. Chifukwa chisokonezo ndi umunthu wa mkati mwa munthu siziwonekera osati maonekedwe ake. Kuonjezera apo, pokhala ndi mavuto komanso okhumudwa, mukhoza kukopa zoipa zokha. Munthu woteroyo azunguliridwa ndi anthu oterewa. Ndi nthawi yoti mutsegule gulu la anthu osakhutira.
Zakhala zikudziwika kale kuti ngati munthu amadzilemekeza nthawi zonse, amadzipangitsa yekha kukhala ndi maganizo abwino. Mu moyo wake, zambiri zimayamba kusintha, ndikukhala bwino. Komanso, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalimbikitsa kupanga maphunziro apadera. Izi ndi zochitika zambiri zomwe zimatchedwa "Mawu olemekezeka," Kutamanda mawu kwa ena "ndi" Kutamanda kwa Ena. " Kuonjezerapo, kudzakhala kofunikira kufufuza ndikukonza vutoli. Kwa ichi, pali zochitika zapadera zomwe zimatchedwa "Kusintha kwa mafano", zomwe ziri ndi magawo otsatirawa: tanthauzo la vuto, kulengedwa kwa fano, kusintha kwa chithunzi ndi kutsimikizira zotsatira. Komabe, zochitika zoterozi ziyenera kuchitidwa mothandizidwa ndi katswiri. Wogwira ntchito zamaganizo angakuthandizeni kuzindikira vuto ndi kugwira ntchito zabwino.
Palinso zinthu zambiri, mwachitsanzo, kukhala okoma mtima, kumasuka nthawi zambiri. Tiyenera kudziyang'anira tokha, kusunga ulamuliro wolondola wa tsiku ndi zakudya. Gwiritsani ntchito kayendedwe kake kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu zabwino. Inde, tsiku lililonse kupita kumayenda kapena kuthamanga mumlengalenga mphindi 30 mpaka ola limodzi.