Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, kukhulupilika kwa kristalo kungawononge ubale ndi ukwati. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumanama kwa mnzanuyo kuti muwapulumutse. Koma kunena momveka bwino: "Iye ndi theka langa, kotero ine ndikhoza kumuuza iye za chirichonse!" - ndi bwino kupeĊµa zochuluka ngati chinyengo.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kumvetsera mafunso otsatirawa.
Nthawi zambiri mumamva mawu a amuna: "Mkazi uyu ali ngati buku lomwe ndinawerenga." Sindikufuna kuwerenganso. Inde, mliri wa hafu yokongola ndi yodalirika kwambiri ndikudalira. Chenjezo la akatswiri a maganizo: Simungathe kumuuza wokondedwa wanu "zonse-zonse", zingangokhumudwitsa munthu. Kunja mwangwiro kungathe kuwononga ubale ngakhale mofulumira kuposa bodza.
Mliri wina wa maubwenzi a lynching ndi chikhumbo cha mayi kuti asonyeze ubwenzi wake watsopano ndi yemwe kale anali wolemekezeka, kapena kutchula zizindikiro za chidwi ndi zovomerezeka zomwe amalemekezedwa ndi wogwira naye ntchito. Chenjezo kwa abambo: Musamufunse chibwenzi chanu moyo mafunso ake akale! Ngati okhulupirika ndi chipiliro akufunsa, "muli ndi ndalama zochuluka bwanji pamaso panga?", Khalani kutali ndi zomwe mukuchita ndipo musalole kuti musakhumudwe. Ndi bwino kufunsa chifukwa chake ali ndi chidwi? Ndipotu, panopa muli naye! Komanso, yesetsani kuti musamufunse mafunso okhudza chikondi chake musanayambe kukumana.
Zoona, apa akatswiri a maganizo amalola chinthu chimodzi: okondedwa ayenera kulankhulana wina ndi mzake za ubale wofunikira kwa iwo, kaya ndi ukwati kapena kukhala wachikondi chokhalitsa. Nchifukwa chiyani izi ziri zofunika? Choncho, mukhoza kudziwa bwino mnzanuyo: chomwe chingakhale chofunika kwa iye, ndi chosavomerezeka ndi chosavomerezeka. Koma ngati "kuvomereza" mukufuna kuganiza monga: "Inu nokha mulole kuti akuchititseni inu", ndibwino kuti musanene nawo mokweza. M'tsogolomu, mnzanuyo sangathe kusonyeza chidaliro muzokambirana ndipo adzakhala odikira, sakufuna kugawa chilichonse ndi inu.
Mfundo ina yofunikira ndi ubale ndi amayi ake. Musanene kuti simukumukonda. Nsanje pakati pa mpongozi ndi apongozi ake ndi kawirikawiri, ndipo, pamlingo wina, chilengedwe, sichikhoza kukondweretsa mnzako, chifukwa iye adzang'ambika pakati pa moto wachiwiri. Akufunsidwa za momwe mumamvera kwa amayi ake, mukhoza kuyankha ngati: "Ndikuthokoza kwambiri chifukwa chakuti anakweza mwana wamtengo wapatali!" - izi zikwanira. Ndipotu, simungakonde ngati atayamba kulankhula zoipa za okondedwa anu? Kumbukirani ndikuyanjanitsa ndi lingaliro lakuti amayi kwa amuna ambiri ndi amuna ofunika kwambiri!
Mukayamba kukayika, kuti ubale wanu uli ndi tsogolo, mwachitsanzo, Mwachidule, mukuganiza zopatukana - musachedwe kukadziwitsa mnzanuyo za izo. Tangoganizani kuti pamapeto pake, mukamatsutsana, mwamunayo akuti: "Wokondedwa, ndimaganiza, mwinamwake ndi nthawi yoti tithetse ...?" Mwachangu, mawu omwe atchulidwa akhoza kuwonetsa mapeto. Choncho, ndi bwino kuyamba kupanga zolemba zenizeni, kulembetsa mndandanda wawo, ndikupempha mwakachetechete mzanuyo kuti akambirane mavuto omwe atchulidwa. Zingakhale kuti "chosasungunuka", poyamba, zotsutsana zingathetsedwe mosavuta.
Koma akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti asalowe:
State of health.
Ngati chiyanjano chikhala ndi moyo wa nthawi yaitali, mnzanuyo ali ndi ufulu wodziwa matenda anu. Makamaka ngati mwanjira inayake ingakhudze moyo wanu wam'tsogolo palimodzi.
Chikhumbo chokhala ndi ana.
Funsoli likulongosoledwa musanakwatire. Kwa anthu ena, kukhalapo kwa ana m'banja kumakhala kovomerezeka, kwa ena wokondedwa okha akhoza kukhala okwanira. Ngati muli ndi vuto la kulera, kapena simukufuna kukhala ndi ana pa chifukwa china chilichonse, mnzanuyo ayenera kudziwa za izo pasadakhale. Mofananamo ndi chilakolako mwamsanga pambuyo pa ukwati kuti mupeze ana.
Mavuto akale kapena amasiku ano ndilamulo.
Woweruzidwa, kapena iwe ukudziwa kuti ukhoza kuweruzidwa - munthu wachikondi sali ovuta kumvetsa ndi kuvomereza mfundo zosautsa za moyo wako. Koma ngati atadziwa kale, atakwatirana kale, kuzindikira kwanu kudzaonedwa ngati chinyengo ndi kusakhulupirika, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kukhululukira.
Zaka, maphunziro ndi zina "deta".
Musamadziyerekezere kukhala wophunzira ku Harvard , ngati mutachoka chaka chachinai cha sukuluyi. Ngati simungavomereze kuti mulibe maphunziro okwanira, kapena kuyesa kubisala msinkhu wanu, dzifunseni nokha? Kodi mukuganiza kuti mudzasiya kukonda osaphunzira, kapena chifukwa chakuti zaka zatha zaka zisanu? Kapena mwinamwake wokondedwa wanu ali ndi zofuna zapamwamba kwambiri?
Mtengo wanu wa ngongole, ngongole, udindo.
Ndondomeko ya banja lanu la tsogolo lanu ndi miyezo ya moyo ingakonzedwe bwino musanagwirizane ndi ndalama zanu kuti mukhale ndi lingaliro la zomwe mungayembekezere. Ngati kumayambiriro kwa moyo wokhudzana ndi bajeti ndipulumutsidwe, ndibwino kuti musayesetse mnzanuyo kuti asakhale "mu chokoleti" - kukhumudwa kungasokoneze malingaliro onse.