Pakati pa ana ndi makolo zimakhala zovuta kukhazikitsa kumvetsetsa. Ngakhale kuti amakondana, chifukwa cha kusiyana kwakukulu msinkhu, ana samvetsa nthawi zonse zomwe makolo amafuna, ndipo makolo amazindikira zambiri za zochita za ana awo monga zovuta ndipo samayesa kumvetsetsa maganizo awo. Koma ngati m'badwo wokalamba ndi wachinyamata uli wofanana ndi khalidwe, ndiye kuti pali njira yina yolandirira. Zovuta kwambiri ndi zovuta kwambiri pazochitikazo pamene ana ndi makolo ali ndi makina osiyana. Mwachitsanzo, m'mabanja omwe amayi ali otchuka komanso mwana wamwamuna weniweni, amayamba kumvetsetsa, chifukwa mayi ndi mwana ali ndi zosiyana ndi zochitika padziko lonse. Komabe adakondana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ayesetse kupeza zomwe zimagwirizana, pokhapokha anthu oterewa adzachoka pang'onopang'ono ndipo kugwirizana kwawo kudzatha.
Yang'anani pazochitikazo
Kuti mumvetse momwe mungalankhulire ndi mwana wanu, mayi, choyamba, muyenera kuyang'ana dziko kudzera m'maso ake. Ngati pali mavuto ndi zochitika, mkazi-wotsutsa nthawi zonse amawagawana ndi achibale ake. Amakonda kulankhula zambiri. Intro intro intro ndi munthu wamtendere ndi wobisika amene amayesera kuti asalavulire ena. Ambiri mwa anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti palibe Wintrovitts yazinthu izi. Ndipotu, chiweruzo choterocho n'chokwanira. Otsutsa amatha kumverera bwino. Amangomva zokhazokha mwa iwo okha, zabwino komanso zoipa. Zomwe zimayandikira zitha kuoneka ngati zasiya kwambiri komanso zosasokonezeka, komabe, anthu oterewa sasowa kulankhulana nthawi zonse ndipo samamva bwino m'makampani akuluakulu. Ngati ndinu mayi wobvomerezeka, choyamba, muyenera kuphunzira kuti muone zochitika pamaso mwa mwana wanu. Pamene chinachake chichitika, iye amayesa chirichonse payekha. Ndipo izi sikuti amabisa chinachake kuchokera kwa inu kapena kudalira mkazi wanu. Anthu oterowo amazoloŵera kuthana ndi zochitika zawo pawokha. Zowonjezera zimakhala zosavuta pamene akamba za onse komanso mbadwa. Koma maitanidwe, khalidwe ili silikuthandiza konse. Ndi bwino kupuma, kukhala kwinakwake ndi bata, kuganizira za chirichonse, bwerani ku malingaliro anu.
Zomwe zimayambitsa zowonjezereka zimakhala zosiyana siyana. Nthawi yomweyo munthu amayesetsa kuthetsa chinachake, kuwauza ena, kufunafuna uphungu, amatha kuseka, kuseka, ngakhale kukhumudwa, ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino. Tulukani izi zonse sizidzachitika. Amayang'ana mwakachetechete, amayamika, amadzipatula ndipo amaganiza. Ndipo, ngati sakonza malingaliro ake, sadzawongolera mutuwo, chifukwa ichi ndi mfundo, ngati zokambiranazo sizikutsogolera kupeza yankho lolondola. Kotero, pamene muwona kuti mwana wanu watsekedwa ndipo safuna kuti anene chilichonse, musamamukwiyire, khalani wokhumudwa, nenani kuti akulakwitsa. Kumbukirani kuti otsogolera akusankha mawonekedwe omwewa kuti azindikire zochitika. Ngati mnyamata ali ndi zomwe anganene m'moyo, adzikonda yekha, safuna kuyankhulana ndi anthu ena, palibe chifukwa choti amuuze mwanayo kuti ndi wopusa ndipo sadzapulumuka ndi wamkulu. Kwa iye ndi zopweteka kwambiri, chifukwa ndi chithandizo cha makhalidwe otero, akungoyesa kupulumuka imfa yake kapena vuto lina. Iye sakufuna kuuza aliyense chirichonse, koma mvetserani ku mafunso omwe nthawi zonse amakhala nawo chifukwa chakuti ali ndi vuto losafuna kwenikweni. Mwinamwake amakhala pang'onopang'ono m'chipinda chake ndikusewera masewero kusiyana ndi kulowa mdziko lomwe liri Chifukwa chake mayi anga ayenera kumvetsa chifukwa chake mwanayo amachitira zinthu motere ndikuchirikiza. Apo ayi, zimamupweteka kwambiri.
Ngati mwamunayo amadziwa kuti mayi ake nthawi zonse amakhala kumbali yake ndipo amagawana zomwe akufuna ndi chisankho, ndiye kuti nthawi ndi nthawi adzakuuzani chinachake, kuti adzagawane nanu. Zoonadi, izi zidzakhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zikuchitika pakati pa two extroverts, koma ndikukhulupirirani, chifukwa chodziwitsa khalidwe ngatilo ndikuwonetseratu chidaliro komanso chikondi. Ndipo iwe, pamene mwanayo ayamba kunena chinachake, musaiwale kuti muyenera kuyang'ana pamaso mwa mnyamatayo komanso kuti musamutsutse njira zothetsera ndi kuthetsera mavuto. Sizoipa ndi zolakwika, zimawoneka ngati zosiyana ndi zanu. Koma mu ichi palibe chowopsya ndi chowopsya. Zoonadi, introverts sangawakhulupirire zochitika za wina, koma pakadali pano ali ndi mwayi, chifukwa sangathe kukhudzidwa ndi chikoka. Komabe, nthawi zonse muyenera kutengera khalidwe la mwanayo, mwinamwake iye adzasiya kukukhulupirirani, onetsetsani kuti simumamvetsetsa konse ndipo mutseka kwambiri. Ndipo izi zikachitika, ndiye kuti simungathe kuzifikitsa.
Samalani mwana wanu
Pokambirana ndi introverts, kuyang'ana kungathandize kwambiri. Ndipotu, munthu woterowo amawoneka bwino pamene ali ndi maganizo abwino, ndipo pamene ali woipa, akafuna kunena chinachake, chifukwa akukambirana, ndipo ndibwino kuti akhale chete. Ngati anthu oyandikana samayesetsa kusintha nthawi zonse poyambitsana, amangoona momwe amachitira ndi machitidwe awo, ndipo pakapita nthawi amayamba kumvetsa anthu oterewa. Makamaka ndinu mayi, ndipo mtima umakuuzani momwe mungachitire. Koma pano khalidweli limapereka zake zokha, kotero nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuti mumve kuphedwa kwa Nazi komanso mukufuna kuchita zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndi inu koma simungathe kuchita izi. Ndipo mudzawona m'mene maganizo amasinthira ndi kuwonongeka, momwe amatseka kwambiri ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito njira yolakwika. Koma chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kuyang'ana nthawi zonse munthu woteroyo. Inde, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti munthu amvetsetse zomwe zimapangitsa kuti athane ndi vutoli, koma ngati wodwalayo sakutha kuganiza mozama komanso kutsegula malingaliro ake ndi mtima wake kuti amvetsetse khalidwe losiyana ndi malingaliro, kukhudzana kumakhala kosavuta komanso kumvetsetsa kumabwera.
Musamvere
Mmodzi sangathe kumuneneza munthu, samusiya mwana, chifukwa ali monga choncho. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti khalidwe lake siloipa kapena losazolowereka, sali ngati inu. Koma ngati mnyamatayo sakuwonetsa maganizo ake nthawi zonse, izi sizikutanthauza kuti sakusangalala nazo. Amakonda amayi ake, amangofuna kumukonda ndi kumulandira monga iye aliri. Ndipo ngati mufuula mwanayo ndikukwiyitsa chifukwa sakusonyeza mmene amamvera komanso mmene amamvera mumtima mwanu, khalidweli limaphwanya psyche yake. Pakapita nthawi, amayamba kudziona kuti si wofanana ndi wina aliyense, cholakwika, cholakwika. Komanso, m'dziko lapansi, kumene kuli zovuta zambiri, sizingakhale zovuta kuti anthu otere azidziika okha mu lingaliro lakuti kuchotsa chinachake ndi cholakwika. Choncho, mulimonsemo, musalole kuti mnyamata amkhulupirire kwenikweni, mwinamwake zidzamupweteka iye ndi iwe. Kotero, nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna kufuula mwana wanu mumtima mwanu, kumbukirani kuti mumaphwanya khalidwe lake ndikuchotsa chikhulupiriro chake mwa inu nokha.