Kapena mwinamwake ichi ndi chikondi?
Mwinamwake chisangalalo chopanda nzeru pakuona munthu wachilendo ndicho chifukwa chakuti mumangomverera kwa munthu koposa chibwenzi. Simungavomereze nokha, koma maganizo anu amakupatsani. Choncho, ngati mumvetsetsa kuti kupatula mnzanuyo ndi uthenga wosangalatsa kwa inu, yesani malingaliro anu. Musamachite manyazi ndikudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa. Inu simunayesere kukhumudwitsa maubwenzi awa, mosiyana ndi inu, munakhala ngati bwenzi lenileni ndipo simunavomereze kuti mumamverera nokha. Kumbukirani kuti palibe kanthu koopsa m'chikondi ichi. Anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali pafupi kwambiri, ndizotheka kukula kukhala chikondi. Kotero, mmalo modzidzudzula nokha kwa bitchiness, ndi bwino kuyang'anitsitsa mzanu. Mwinamwake, iye amakuvutitsani kwambiri, amangoopa kuvomereza, chifukwa sakufuna kuwononga ubwenzi wanu. Mulimonsemo, musamadziteteze nokha kuti muli ndi chibwibwi komanso osadziletsa. Nthawizonse mumakhala ngati bwenzi lenileni, pamene mnyamatayu anali ndi mtsikana wina. Tsopano ndi nthawi yoti muganizire nokha.
Siwo banja
Chimwemwe chokhalira limodzi ndi wokondedwa chikhoza kuchitidwa chifukwa chakuti nthawi zonse mumakhulupirira kuti mtsikanayo sakugwirizana naye ndipo mosadziŵa amafuna kuti mgwirizano wawo ugwere. Pankhaniyi, inunso simungadzione ngati munthu woipa. Delov ndikuti okonda amakonda kuganiza kuti akuusa moyo. Iwo samawona zovuta zake zambiri ndipo sazindikira kuti munthu sangathe kukhala wabwino kwambiri monga momwe amaganizira. Mwinamwake, ndinu wokondwa kwambiri chifukwa cha kulekanitsa, chifukwa nthawi zonse mumadziwa kuti chilakolako cha mnzanuyo ndi chenicheni, koma simungamuuze, chifukwa sangathe kukumvetsetsani mwachikondi. Koma mu mtima mwanu, nthawi zonse mumafuna kuti ubalewu uthetse. Ndipo tsopano, pamene potsiriza ubale wawo watha, simungathe kusunga chisangalalo, chifukwa munthu wapafupi sadzakhalanso wovutika. Momwemonso, mungalangize mmodzi: musakhale wosangalala kwambiri poyamba. Koma ngati mnyamata mwiniyo akunena kuti amasangalala chifukwa amamvetsa komanso kuzindikira zonse, ndiye kuti simungabise maganizo anu. Koma pamene mukuwona kuti adakali kudutsitsa, akuthandizani chimwemwe chanu ndikumuthandiza. Patapita nthawi, mnzanuyo adzayamba kuganiza moyenera ndikudziwitsanso kuti mumakhala ndi chikhalidwe chotani pazosiyana ndi chibwenzi chake. Padakali pano, yesetsani kukhala pafupi ndikumulola kuti asokonezeke maganizo. Kumbukirani kuti muzochitikazi, anthu amafunika kuthandizidwa. Kotero musanene chinachake kwa iye mwa kalembedwe: "Ine ndinakuuzani inu chomwecho." Khalanibe kwa iye bwenzi lenileni ndi kukondwera mwamtendere chifukwa cha iye ndi chifukwa chakuti m'moyo wake nthawi yatsopano idzayamba yomwe idzakhala yabwino kwambiri kuposa yomwe yapita.
Ndine nsanje
Chifukwa china chomwe tingasangalale ndi kulekana kwa bwenzi ndi nsanje ya banti. Ndipo si za chikondi pachabe, ndi za nsanje yaubwenzi. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika panthawiyi pamene anthu anali abwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali, ankakhala nthawi yambiri palimodzi, ndiyeno mkazi anawoneka mmoyo wa mnzako, zomwe zinakhala zofunika kwambiri kwa iye kuposa iwe. Momwemonso, atsikana ambiri ayamba kuchita nsanje kwambiri ndi anzanu. Iwo ali okwiya chifukwa ubale wawo wasiya kukhala wofanana ndi kale komanso mu mtima wa maloto omwe bwenzi lawo lidali lawo okha. Zikatero, chifukwa cha chimwemwe chiri chodziwikiratu. Ngati mukuona kuti izi ndizochitika, ndibwino kuti muganizire kuti simungathe kudzimangira nokha. Inde, mumakonda mnzanu ndipo mukufuna kukhala naye, koma popanda chifukwa amanena kuti chikondi sichidzikonda. Choncho, musamafune kuti mnzako akhale yekha, ndipo ndizo zomwe zikuchitika. Mukufuna kuti munthu akhale ndi inu nokha, koma simukufuna kuona chithunzi. Choncho, mukufuna kuti bwenzi lanu lisakhale ndi chimwemwe chenicheni. Chiwonetsero chotere cha kudzikonda sichinthu chabwino kuchokera kumbali yanu. Koma sawopsyeza kuti amadziimba mlandu ndikudzizunza yekha. Yesetsani kuphunzira kupititsa gawo lanu la chitonthozo ndi kuyankhulana ndi anthu ena, kupatula mnzanu wapamtima. Patapita nthawi, mudzawona kuti simunakhumudwitse chifukwa amathera nthawi ndi ena. Kuonjezera apo, mumapanga mabwenzi anu ndikuphunzira zinthu zambiri zatsopano. Ndipo komabe, anthu apamtima amamva bwino maganizo athu. Choncho n'zosatheka kuti mnzanuyo amve nsanje yanu, adakhala wosasangalatsa, kotero adakulekanitsani. Choncho, pozindikira kuti mnzanu wakula ndi wokondedwa wanu, mmalo mokondwera, ganizirani zomwe akumva pakali pano, zomwe akukumana nazo. Ngati mukuyang'ana pambali iyi, posachedwa mudzazindikira kuti palibe zifukwa zosangalalira ndipo sizingatheke kuchitapo kanthu panopa. Ndipo nthawi yotsatira, pamene mnyamata ayamba kukwatira msungwana watsopano, mmalo movumbula nsanje yobisika ndi nkhanza kumalo ake, yesetsani kumuthandiza mowona mtima mnzanuyo ndipo muwona kuti adzakambirana nanu nthawi zambiri, komanso adzasiya mantha akuwonetseratu maso anu ndi chibwenzi chake.
Nsanje ndikumverera koipa
Ndipo chifukwa chomaliza cha chisangalalo chimene chiyenera kuyankhula ndi kaduka. Tsoka ilo, mwinamwake simukuphatika moyo, ndipo mumangochitira nsanje mnzako. Inde, mukumverera koipa kotero ndi kovuta kuvomereza nokha, koma ngati simukupeza kufotokoza kwina kwa chisangalalo chanu, ganizirani izi. Ndipo ngati izi ziri zoona, muyenera kuganizira mozama moyo wanu ndi maganizo anu. Ngati muyesa kumverera kwa nsanje, posachedwa mnzanu amvetse izi, ndipo maganizo anu azizizira. Choncho, muyenera kupeza moyo wanu wa uzimu ndikudzimva nokha. Muzochitika izi, chimwemwe chanu ndicho chizindikiro cha mavuto anu auzimu. Koma musakwiyitse ndi kukhumudwa. Mukungofuna kupeza tanthauzo la moyo wanu, kuti mupeze zofuna zatsopano, kawirikawiri, kuti muchite zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti moyo wosangalala wa anthu ena usakupangitseni kumverera kwa mkwiyo, mkwiyo, kaduka ndi kukwiyitsa. Ndikhulupirireni, mu moyo uno muli zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa, odziwa atsopano, malingaliro ndi malingaliro, omwe sali otsika kwa omwe amatchedwa chimwemwe chenicheni. Ndipo komabe, mukaleka kuganiza, kukhala ndi nsanje ndi kuchitira nsanje, chimwemwe chimabwera ndithu. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse timapeza zomwe timafuna tikasiya kudandaula ndikudzizunza tokha.