Kuyambira nthawi zakale, kukonda ena kunkaonedwa kuti ndi luso lapadera. Azimayi, omwe adakhala ndi chidziwitso chachikulu cha "chinyengo chopusitsa" ichi, adaphunzitsa atsikana aang'ono zachinsinsi za bizinesiyi. Kwa lero, mwatsoka, nthawi ndi zofanana. Maso odzichepetsa komanso masaya omwe anali ofiirapo anali atakhala kale kwambiri, komanso anasiya zizindikiro, choncho amayiwa anayamba kulankhula momveka bwino za momwe amamvera komanso ngakhale oyamba kuitanira anyamata.
Ambiri mwa abambo amphamvu atha kukonda izi, ndipo chifukwa chakuti msungwana ayenera kukhala wabwino, wodzichepetsa ndipo ali ndi chinsinsi chake chomwe akufuna kuchipeza. Ndiye bwanji sitidziwa zofunikira zowonetsana ndi kuwonetsa malamulo oyambirira a momwe tingayambe kukondana ndi mwamuna?
Kodi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi chiyani?
Choncho, yambani kukwatulidwa ndi mwamuna kuchokera ku tanthauzo. Pochita masewero olimbitsa thupi, ndizozoloŵera kuzindikira njira iliyonse yokopa chidwi kwa anthu osagonana. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumadalira kuwuka kwa chidwi komanso chikhumbo chakudziŵa munthu pafupi. Ngakhale kuti kudziyesa nokha kumangokhalira kukonda, nthawi zambiri kumayambitsa ubale weniweni. Koma musamangokhalira kukondana ndi mwamuna ngati njira yomufikitsira mwa amuna, chifukwa, choyamba, izi ndi masewera, chifukwa mtsikanayo amakhalabe ndi "mawu" ndipo amamva chidwi.
Zomwe zimayambira kukondana ndi mwamuna: kumayambira kuti?
Tiyerekeze kuti simungathe kulankhula ndi mwamuna (zomwe simukuzidziwa) pamalo ammudzi chifukwa mumawopa kuti mumawoneka ngati wopusa kapena wotsutsana naye. Muzochitika izi, choyamba, nkoyenera kugwira ntchito pawekha, kuyesera mu njira iliyonse yothetsera kusaganizira kwanu. Pankhaniyi, tikhoza kukukulangizani njira imodzi yogwira mtima: tengani ulamuliro kamodzi pa tsiku kuti muyesere kulankhula ndi aliyense wodutsa. Patapita kanthawi, mumvetsetsa kuti palibe chilichonse chovuta. Koma kwa inu, pali zifukwa zingapo zokhalira kukambirana mwachidule: "Ndili m'dera lino kwa nthawi yoyamba, simungandiuze kumene malo ogwirira ntchito / saluni / laibulale, ndi zina zotere zilipo?" Kapena "Sindinapite pa basi, kodi mumadziwa nthawi yake komanso pamene yotsatira idzafika? "," Ndinauzidwa kuti kwinakwake kuli malo ogulitsa bwino ... "
Pambuyo pa kukambirana kwa mtundu wotereku kukulepheretsani kuopa, muyenera nthawi yomweyo kusamukira kumalo ovuta kwambiri, kumene mukuyenera kusonyeza kuti mumatha kukambirana momveka bwino. Mwachitsanzo, mutayankha funso ili: "Kodi mankhwala ali kuti?" Zili ngati kuti mwangozi, kuti "mwakhala mukuyenda mozungulira msewu kwa ola limodzi ndipo simungapeze." Mwachidule, taya mawu aliwonse omwe angamveke mwachinsinsi pazokambirana. Panthawi yomwe mwamuna angakonde kukambirana izi, ndithudi amathandiza masewera osavuta. Chabwino, ngati chirichonse chikulakwika, musakhumudwe. Ambiri mwa amayi omwe sadziwa kuyamba kukondana ndi amuna kapena akazi moyenera, amatha kudzibisa okha, koma sizothandiza. Malangizo athu ndi kumwetulira, kuthokoza mnzanu wosadziwika ndikupita pa bizinesi yawo.
Zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuyamba kuyambana
Kuyamba kukonda ndi kukambirana momasuka komwe muyenera kudziwonetsa nokha ngati munthu wokondweretsa komanso woganizira. Wokonda munthu. Mwa njira, sikuli koyenera kugonjetsa munthu kuti aime patsogolo pake mu chithunzi cha mchitidwe wowonongeka, ndizokwanira kuti muwonetse kuzindikira kwanu pazochitika zonse za moyo. Musaiwale kufunsa mafunso otsogolera ndi ndemanga pazinthu zina zomwe adanena. Khalani opatsa ndi mathokozo kwa munthu, koma kumbukirani, payenera kukhala muyeso mu chirichonse. Mwa njira, musaiwale kuti mudzidziwe nokha momwe muliri ndi zofunikira zanu zonse. Pokhapokha mutha kuyamba masewera anu popanda choletsa ndi mwamuna.
Ndipo potsirizira pake, musaiwale zazomwe mumakonda kukopana - kusekerera mwachikondi. Ndi chithandizo chake kuti mumumenya psyche wamwamuna pomwepo!