Inde, nchifukwa ninji palibe yemwe amatsutsa mwamuna wazaka 40 ali ndi mbuye wa zaka 20, koma matalala amanyazi amagwera pa mkazi yemwe amatsutsana ndi vuto lake laling'ono pamene ali ndi zaka? Kapena kodi ndondomeko ya miyezo iwiri ikulamulira mpira?
Mafashoni kwa anyamata achichepere anadziwika ndi nyenyezi za Hollywood. Zitsanzo zochititsa chidwi ndizimene zimakhala zokondweretsa pakati pa mtsikana wina wotchedwa Joan Collins ndi Perse Gibson (wosiyana zaka 32), ojambula Goldie Hawn ndi Kurt Russell (zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zosiyana ndi ana atatu omwe amagwirizana), wojambula wotchedwa Susan Sarandon ndi Tim Robbins (zaka 12 zosiyana, zitatu ana), mtsikana wina wotchuka wotchedwa Juliana Moore ndi mtsogoleri Bart Freundlich (zaka zisanu ndi zitatu zosiyana, ana atatu omwe akudziwika bwino), wojambula nyimbo Raquel Welch ndi mwiniwake wa bizinesi Richard Palmer (zaka 20 zosiyana), Demi Moore wojambula nyimbo ndi Ashton Kutcher (zaka 15 zosiyana). Anthu omwe amakhulupirira kuti atsikana okha ndi okongola omwe amafunika chikondi chenicheni cha anthu, timalimbikitsa kukumbukira zojambula za Josephine Bogarne, Cleopatra, Madame de Pompadour, Carla Bruni Sarkozy - azimayi achikale a m'zaka za Balzac, osati okongola kwambiri, ankatamandidwa ndi amuna awo. Kufooka kwa akazi achikulire kudyetsedwa ndi Mfumu Yachingere Henry VIII, Julius Caesar ndi Benjamin Franklin.
Zifukwa zomwe anyamata amakopeka ndi akazi achikulire ndizo zambiri. Zingakhale monga kumverera kwenikweni, ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukwera pa ndalama za wina. Komabe, mkhalidwe wofananawo ukuwonetsedwa mu ubale wa amuna akulu ndi atsikana aang'ono. Kotero, ife sitidzaweruza mozama, koma tiyeni tifike ku mfundo. Mofananamo, kumalo a odziwa.
Choncho, ndikuti nanga mkazi wachikulire amadziwa bwanji mnyamata wamng'ono?
Poyang'anira ndondomeko za maofesi a pa intaneti, malo abwino kwambiri ocheza nawo ndi malo osiyanasiyana. Zopindulitsa ndizowonekera - mwayi wodziwana wina ndi mzake mu makalata ndi zosachepera. Mwa njira, kotero inu mukudziwa, madona, anyamata ambiri a zaka zapakati ndi 18 amangotentha ndi chikhumbo chokhala osangalala ndi kutentha kwa moyo wawo wotentha ndi thupi la akazi a zaka 30 mpaka 40. Kawirikawiri amzanga oterewa amatanthauza, komabe, kugonana kokha, koma zomwe gehena sizitonza. N'zotheka kuti pakapita nthawi, kugonana kwaukwati kumakula kukhala chiyanjano chakuya. Kuwonjezera pa malo ochezera, sitiyenera kuiwala za malo osonkhanitsa anthu osiyana-siyana - anyamata, masewera osiyanasiyana (usiku, masewera, etc.), mabombe, ndi zina zotero. Mwachidziwikire, funso ndilo momwe mkazi wachikulire amadziwira mnyamata wamng'ono , sayenera kukuvutitsani makamaka. Kudziwa bwino ndi mwamuna wokongola kumatheka ngakhale kuntchito kapena pamsonkhano wina uliwonse wamalonda, koma ubale pakati pa okondana nawo pakakhala kupumula kwina ndi zochitika zina zimayambitsa kutentha kwa chilakolako, zovuta za mkhalidwe ndi zovuta zina. Kotero ndi bwino kutsatira ndondomeko yosagwirizana ya malonda - palibe mabuku olembedwa kuntchito. Inde, amuna ambiri amakondwera ndi mpira, nthawi zambiri amapita masewera ndi masewera a masewera, kupatula kuti kuyang'ana kwawo pamasewero kapena pamphepo kumagonjetsedwa kwambiri ku nkhondo kusiyana ndi mkazi yemwe wakhala pafupi nawo. Koma ziribe kanthu. Zomwezo, zimakhala ndi zosiyana, nthawi, zogwiritsira ntchito. Mungathe kumufunsa mnyamatayo yemwe akukufunsani kuti mutsegule juzi kapena mtundu wina wa bokosi, kusinthanitsa milandu (amuna ngati kutamandidwa, ngakhale kuti amakana mfundoyi), afotokoze chidwi chawo ndi masewerawo, wotsirizayo mutha kukhala wopambana mumzimu !! !!
Kawirikawiri, kutembenukira kwa amuna kuti athandizidwe ndi kofunikira ndi kofunika. Kotero inu mukhoza kupha mbalame ziwiri ndi mwala umodzi pa nthawi - ndi kumadziwana naye, ndi kupeza chithandizo. Choncho, phatikizani malingaliro anu ndikubwera ndi mtundu wina wa "kupulumutsira", chifukwa monga momwe akazi amanenera kuti: "Mphamvu zathu ziri mufooka, koma zofooka zathu zilibe malire."
Ndipo mopitirira kale, pamene khadi lidzagona pansi. Mwamuna akakhala ndi chidwi ndi mkazi ndipo ayamba kutenga choyamba yekha, zimakhala zosavuta kumudziwitsa mnzanuyo, mwinamwake zovuta zonse zazimayi ziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Pano, chofunikira kwambiri, musachigonjetsere, kuti musayeseke masewerawa pasanapite nthawi. Nthaŵi zambiri, mu ubale ndi amayi achikulire, amuna amadziwika kwambiri ndi zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Choncho, chifukwa cha kukhumudwa pang'ono ndi kupsinjika maganizo, mkazi ayenera kukhala okonzekera chitukuko choterechi. Komabe, pokhala wamkulu, mkazi sakhala wovuta kwambiri poyerekezera ndi kugonana, ndipo makamaka ku chikhalidwe chawo. Ngakhale kuti khalidwe la munthu wamkazi, maganizo ake, maphunziro ndi maganizo ake pa moyo siziyeneranso kuponyedwa pambali.
Mwa njira, mosiyana ndi maanja omwe akuluakulu, monga lamulo, amasunga zinthu zonse ndikuwatsogolera banja, awiri ndi akazi achikulire nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi maubwenzi ambiri a demokalase, ndi zofuna zabwino komanso kufalitsa maudindo. Komanso, zotsatira za kachitidwe kafukufuku wa anthu anapeza kuti nthawi zambiri, mnyamata samangoyamba chiyanjano, koma amaperekanso kudzimana kuti athandizane ndi mkazi wamkulu kuposa iyeyo. Motsogoleredwa ndi mzanga wamkulu, mnyamata amakhala "njira yoyenera": amasankha ntchito "yachibadwa", maphunziro ndikupanga ntchito.
Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, dzina lake Frank Pittman, mwamuna weniweni amafunikira mkazi wa msinkhu uliwonse - ngati amamukonda, amakhala wabwino naye, ndipo amamukondweretsa. Ndipo ngati moyo uli olamulidwa kuti wina mwa awiriwa abereke pambuyo pake, ndipo wina m'mbuyomu, koma anthu amasangalala kukhala pakati pa gulu la wina ndi mnzake, kodi ndi bwino kumvetsera zokhudzana ndi zochitika zakale ndi zoopsa, ndipo nthawi zambiri miseche ikuyandikira?