Makhalidwe abwino kumathokoza ku adilesi yanu

Chisomo chenicheni mwa mkazi, kuphatikiza pa china chirichonse, ndikumatha kuyankha moyenerera kutamanda. Ziribe kanthu kuti mumauzidwa mochuluka bwanji momwe muliri anzeru, okongola, aluso, nthawi zonse ndemanga zotere zimabweretsa chimwemwe chochuluka. Koma chinthu chimodzi ndi luso lomvetsera kuvomereza, ndipo zina ndizovomerezeka. Maganizo osayenera kuti ayamikike ku adiresi yanu, amapezeka makamaka anthu osaphunzira. M'dziko lathu, akamapereka chiyamiko kawirikawiri, munthuyo amachititsa manyazi. Koma kwenikweni, simukuyenera kutsutsa. Ngati mukudzidalira nokha, tengani kutamandidwa mu adiresi yanu mwakachetechete, ndi kuyamikira, ndipo mutha kubwereza nenani "ndikuthokozani", kuwonjezera ichi ndi kumwetulira kokoma ndi kuyang'ana mokoma mtima. Zimakhala kuti amasirira maonekedwe ndipo ndichifukwa chake simuyenera kulankhula za thanzi labwino poyankha. Kuchokera pamalingaliro oyenera kumayamikilo anu adilesi, zambiri zimadalira, kuphatikizapo momwe mungapewere zovuta zosiyanasiyana kumbuyo kwanu.
Chiyamiko ndi chiyani? Ndipo ndi malingaliro oyenera otani kumathokoza ku adilesi yanu? Kutamanda ndi chiwonetsero cha kuyamikira kwa munthu ndi chithandizo cha mauthenga osiyanasiyana mu mawonekedwe a matamando, ulemu, ulemu. Ndi chithandizo chake, maubwenzi ali bwino, mabungwe atsopano amakhazikitsidwa. Kukhala okonzeka kukhala ndi maganizo oyenera otamanda ku adiresi yanu, muyenera kukumbukira kuti nthawi zonse maluwa amapatsidwa, mobwerezabwereza muyenera kuthamangira ndi kumpsompsona, izi zikhoza kuopseza interlocutor. Kupambana kwa kuyamikila kumadalira osati kokha pa khalidwe la mawu omwe alankhulidwa, komanso pazochitikazo. Kutamandidwa kwakukulu kuyenera kukhala woona mtima. Ngati simunakonde, mungadziyerekeze kuti simunamvetsetse tanthawuzo ndikusintha zokambiranazo kumalo ena, kapena ingogwirizana ndi interlocutor. Amuna ena amaganiza kuti kukondweretsa mtsikanayo kumamuthandiza, koma izi ndizosiyana, asungwana ambiri samakonda anyamata osamvera.
Koma pali amuna omwe samayamika konse - samakonda atsikana monga choncho. Kuyamika kumagwira ntchito pamene kuli koyenera. Pambuyo pake, izi sizikutanthauza chidwi, koma ndizophwanya zifukwa ziwiri. Pamene kukongoletsa kumatulutsa mawu, nthawi yomweyo mumaganiza ngati munthuyo akuyembekezera phindu lililonse. Ndipo komabe mukhoza kuphunzira kuvomereza, chifukwa cha malingaliro abwino kwa dziko lonse lapansi, ndipo, inde, nokha, ndi ubwino ndi zovuta zonse, ndiko kuti, kudzikonda nokha pa zomwe uli.
Ndipo m'tsogolomu mudzayamba kuona anthu abwino okha mwa anthu ndipo mutsegula poyera kuvomereza kwanu kuti mutamandidwe. Ndipotu, poyamikira kuchokera pansi pamtima, mudzalandira zosangalatsa ziwiri, chifukwa amene amachita - amapereka mphamvu zenizeni, ndipo mumakopeka nokha.
Ndipo kwa iwo omwe amayamikira - pali malamulo omwe amawapangitsa kukhala oona mtima. Malamulo amenewa si ovuta, koma ayenera kudziwika - apa ndi awa:
1. Samalirani osati makhalidwe okha, komanso mkati.
2. Musatamandidwe, zingatheke.
3. Muyenera kudziwa zomwe mukufuna kunena.
4. Yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu ndi ziganizo zofanana. Ganizirani za umunthu wa munthu.
5. Mukamanena zotamanda, musaphunzitse kapena kuphunzitsa mnzako.
6. Musadzipweteke nokha mwa kuyamika, ndibwino kuti mumvetsere nokha ndikulankhula, zomwe mau amkati akumva.
7. Panthawi imodzimodziyo mutsatire zomwe interlocutor amachita, ngati atasokonezeka komanso sakudziwa momwe angayankhire, ndiye kuti mungamuthandize ndi funso lina ponena za matamando anu.
8. Musaiwale kusankha malo abwino komanso nthawi yabwino, chifukwa ngati kuyamikiridwako sikukhala koyenera, ndiye kuti kungakhumudwitse interlocutor.
9. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani - kuyamikiridwa kwakukulu ndikulondola!